Dud, I really appreciate your help - thanks for sharing all this information. I'll start from the very basic, think about something similar to the thing you got your mom, for the most user friendly experience. Then when I understand a bit more i'll dig into the cockpit project and other self hosting solutions!!
Thanks also for not recommending HP, this is the kind of feedback that makes the difference. Take care!!!
I wasted so much time playing that game, and I don't regret any of it. In theory I could have accomplished so much more but it was my escape, it truly helped me through difficult times and become who I am now!