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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Well, if there’s one thing that should drive you, it should be getting some form of education or vocational training and forging your own path forward, ideally someplace chill. There’s many places on the west coast where being effeminate is totally normal, and people are totally fine with that. I like it when people get to really be themselves, and I LOVE men who wear cute things. We need more cute apparel!

    I also think therapy would genuinely help you. If you put in your location, hit “all filters” and you can choose what type of therapy you want, and there’s also a separate section for Bisexual/Lesbian/LGBTQ+ (even if you are straight, filtering by these might get you a really thoughtful counselor.)

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/oh/columbus

    Just to make this post too long, I was in a similar boat coming out years ago. Not quite the same, I think girly stuff is cute, but I also don’t go out of my way to wear it. Anyways, I was really stuck in a rut over sexuality, conflicts with religion, and my confusion with cute women, but also cute men. My life really turned around when I started talking to close friends about what I was going through.

    I went deep, no holds barred, we talked hard about everything and life. At the same time, I called my doctor’s office and got a referral for a therapist, who was excellent. That man really helped turn my life around, and recommended the site I linked above. Honestly, his help was all I needed. I’ve met someone I truly love, and everything all worked out in the end.

    The hardest part for me was calling that clinic and telling them that I needed help, and why I needed help. It was hard, but life slowly got easier after that.