Do you understand aggregate descriptors? That it is quite typical and appropriate to talk about groups based on their average or median value, even if it is acknowledged that there is a proportion of exceptions?
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As someone who only speaks English, the cognitive map made by that language is kind of disgusted to think of toes and fingers interchangably.
Fingers are (or should be) clean, and are allowed to touch many things. I am perfectly comfortable touching many things with my fingers that other people's fingers have touched.
But toes? Toes are gross. They are not interchangeable with fingers. Unless I'm in the shower cleaning my toes, if my fingers touch my toes I probably need to wash my hands after. And other people's toes?...
No - toes and fingers are not the same thing. My toes are great, I'm glad to have them for balance while walking or running. But they are not fingers, or vis versa
Unfortunately, I don't think brain damage ever makes people more kind or empathetic.
If education makes you liberal, cognitive loss seems to make people more fearful and less able to accomplish complex thought (default to black-and-white thinking). This results in conservatism.
Oh no. Ohhhh no.
It's simply what consequences are dished out for.
This is mob rule government. If you are part of the 'gang', and are loyal to the gang, you can get away with murder. Or raping children.
Everyone else is under the bootheel though.
That is why they are trying to ban the facts you just shared.
Nothing but pro-White Nationalism propaganda allowed
The horror of parasocial distance collapse
I'm aro/ace and not dating, but my circle of friends is progressive and most have become poly over the last 5 years.
So I'm acquainted with probably +25 poly guys, most of whom skew progressive (but there are a few who lean more libertarian in there too, and a couple anarchists), and am good enough friends with probably 5 progressive poly guys to have a good sense what they have learned, how they treat their partners, and what their partners find appealing.
To be fair, to me polyamory looks like an insane amount of effort for the payoff - bc I am not interested in even one relationship let alone the intense effort of managing multiple. But from what I have seen, successfully being poly means learning a ton about boundaries, communication, and maintaining respect because all parties constantly have to manage jealousy and limited attention each of their partners. If you don't respect one partner - poof!! -- that relationship is over. And your other partners will likely hear about it, in detail, from both sides and litigate it bc they have a stake both in you and in being someone with you. It is a ton of drama.
But it also seems to be a crucible for learning how to negotiating needs and figuring out how to talk about it openly with each other to build connection - and that process both requires and builds respect for your partners.
Like I said, the guys I know who have stuck with it and learned the necessary people skills now have the problem of having too much interest. Including one friend who had terrible luck dating before and who I worried was on the verge of becoming an incel. Then he dated one of my first friends who was poly, and she kind of taught him in no uncertain terms how this works. Between that and his next poly girlfriend, I watched him become someone who is deeply considerate of his partners and is also confident about his boundaries and what he can offer. He's got like 4 relationships going on, 2 of which are long term.
And again - the biggest change I saw in him was that he stopped seeing the women he wanted to date as games to win or challenges to overcome, and stopped carrying the frustration and shame that comes with the 'failure' to 'score'. He still looks at women with clear desire, but that desire doesn't make him feel like he has to be manipulative or play games.
I don't know how to explain it except that he has a respect for the women he courts that most single guys do not. Maybe it's that he has less to fear from rejection, so he doesn't have to mentally dehumanize women as a coping mechanism. And this is a feature I see in most poly men, and have seen emerge in men as they fall into poly.
Actually - I'm going to ponder the 'able to respect women more bc they have less to fear from rejection' idea more, personally.
That alone may be a big part of their appeal, because a lot of the threat that women have to navigate when being courted is how to safely disengage if a promising flirtation turns sour. There is a lot more enthusiasm to explore or move fast when you are free to say no without fear of a possibly violent meltdown.
And poly guys aren't going to meltdown. They are ok with a no, they are emotionally braced for that and have been through worse feelings already. And they have other relationships to fall back on.
Pardon, but it smacks of weird defensiveness that you feel the need to bring up that serial killers often have intimate partners as some kind of counterpoint to the fact that men who figure out how to respect women's boundaries are highly sought as partners.
Serial killers likely find partners by being manipulative and playing mind games - ie, being psychopaths.
Clearly the evidence that men who respect women have major success fostering reliable and enjoyable relationships with them is somehow highly threatening to a lot of guys.
Something has to immediately be said that instead says "but not respecting women also works." Followed by crude red pill thinking - "And aren't all women dumb bc some seem to like danger? And also, women are superficial, so pretend to like a puppy bc that works a lot."
I know media has taught men that masculinity is basically defined by being able to disrespect women and think of them as winnable objects but --
Mentally healthy women aren't falling for that shit. And you guys hate the baggage that the traumatized ones have who are insecure enough fall for that crap.
You could give up the machismo to try.. respect and growing into someone who could be happy?
Meanwhile, all the progressive poly guys I know who have figured out how to deeply respect women have more partners than they really have time for. And quite a few of them are not "good looking" by any conventional standard (though some are).
The simplist answer is that this guy could buy some high-coverage foundation and a make-up sponge. He could change his appearance in other ways too if he likes - get a wig, fake nose, etc.
My problem with these people is that voting 3rd party or not voting doesn't help Gaza. It is not a plan.
Harris said she was pro-Israel, but she would have given a damn what the liberal base thinks and the liberal base wants the deaths to stop. Harris could have been influenced by the left. That would have been a plausible strategy worth pursuing
Trump doesn't give a shit what anyone who hasn't bribed him and loves raping others thinks. There is no way for the left to influence anything now. If Trump can, he will make money putting all of us into camps.
The left not only tears itself apart but is also allergic to effective planning. It's some weird kink where they want to be absolutely powerless while screaming about all the things others must do.
Most people that oppose Trump also follow an ethical code that abohrs violence.
The talking points among people I know here include constantly referencing a study that indicates non-violent opposition is more frequently effective than violent opposition. I suspect that study is a little simplistic, but may have its point.
The problem is, a lot of liberals think that showing up for a 14 June style protest (with permits and police escort) is the full extent of 'non-violent' resistance.
It's taking them a minute to catch on that more, much more, will be needed.
The next step has to be introducing other non-violent tactics - ones that are far less pleasant than bringing a sign to a giant street party on a Saturday afternoon.
Tactics that might involve being arrested (despite not attacking anyone), losing income or your job (work strike), or ending up in a detention facility.
No one wants to do this. This is like getting a cancer diagnosis and not wanting chemo, not wanting to count your expected remaining life in months instead of decades.
Most people will do what most people do - 'see how it goes'. Until they can't anymore.
This is the denial and bargaining stage of a fascism diagnosis.
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This matches every account I've heard from friends in Seattle that have worked for the HQ.
I think we may be (re)-discovering the appeal of monotheistic religions, and why they hew patriarchal.
On average, men desperately need more mental health resources. But, on average, they are not comfortable building that with other men, and it often isn't appropriate or effective to lean on their female significant other (if a straight man).
So - enter the primary description of 'God'. Can listen any time but will always forgive, is super masculine but won't emasculate you, and has never told another soul what you are thinking.
AI is always available and is unlikely to emasculate anyone, but that third item... Well, we'll see where this goes.
Ooohhh I see, I am judgemental because your circumstances and stated preferences represent everyone in a hard place.
If you both could have and would have done it, it is completely reasonable to make that an expectation on everyone who struggles.
Your struggle was definitely representative of the worst circumstances bc you had 1 job and were a single parent -- even though I mentioned how plenty of parents (including single ones) balance a FT job and gigs or a managerie of gigs. Or a FT job, single parenthood, and a disability. Or....
If you can't see past your own life and circumstance, but want to proscribe what other people 'should' do (or no longer deserve your empathy), you are the one who is judgemental.
This is what every narcissist does -- if you paint him with a bad (and deserved) brush like making him a convicted felon -- well, his vindictiveness has to now make his enemies into felons too, whatever it takes.
You see how hard the propaganda went after Biden? Trying to convince as many tubes as possible that Biden and his son were like Mafia guys...
Every accusation by Trump is another fucking confession.
Wait - do you think that people who need food banks have a ton of free time for cooking clubs? Do you think it's because they don't work enough instead of what everyone knows which is that most people on the edge can't make rent if they only have one job?
The jars likely cost more than the volume of produce it could store.
Also - have to arrange logistics for labor, supplies, and a kitchen to do the boiling in. Now that you are making a cooked food product, your kitchen also likely needs a license.
And insurance in case your rushed pickling operation creates any jars that go foul and anyone gets sick.
Also -- ew. Not even the destitute want pickled cauliflower.
I'm guessing your Mom is now on 'team Bear'.
I would consider that your Mom is the problem here except that the dudes lumped you in with being burned alive, and that suggests they are the PoS.
You probably uninstalled it before the algo figured out what really hits your engagement, which is the point at which it becomes addictive.