If you have a good relationship and trust with your stylist, I honestly recommend just trying to talk with them and doing your best to explain what you're looking for. They tend to have a better understanding of face shapes, framing, and styling.
I know my salon, one I've been going to for over a decade, has different stylists that specialize in different cuts and looks. They often consult each other and brainstorm with clients that might want something new or unconventional.
For anyone looking for a stylist, I recommend finding places that advertise themselves as safe spaces. You'll have such a gentle and affirming experience, and they'll often be extra patient and understanding of your anxiety and goals!
I can so understand that! I find it extra hard when trying to visualize how certain styles will look with my particular face too. I've brought inspiration to mine and she'll take the time to explain how my features might not flow the same way while suggesting alternatives.
I think trying one or two more times, including the details you've shared here, is a good idea 🩷 other than that, Pinterest and IG are great places for inspiration. It might help you find images of styles that have aspects of what you're looking for and see if they can bring them together (this length, with that shape, and this silhouette, etc)