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ValiantDust

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  • Did I used to be homophobic? Am I?

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  • Lesbian relationships on TV and in other media are often portrayed with a male gaze and/or fetishising. Do you think that that might play a role in making you feel uncomfortable?

    It's very hard to tell from the outside what's the cause of the way you're feeling. But I guess the best thing you can do is to try to improve and to keep investigating your emotions.

  • What do you call these?

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  • I sometimes also use Netzteil.

    (Literally: Net thing. The net is the power grid)

  • Foolproof advice

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  • Yes, please do that. So we are immediately aware that we should get away as fast as possible.

  • The stigma of being a feminine male has left me broken, dysfunctional, and afraid to leave home. How can I get past my fear?

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  • I think you would benefit from having a progressive community around you IRL, not just online. People who accept you as you are and understand your fears.

    I'm guessing moving somewhere progressive to go to college isn't an option. But you said you live close to a city. Is there maybe some group you could join there? Maybe an LGBTQ+ adjacent group? I know you are straight and cis, but some of the people there probably have experienced similar problems and allies are often welcome. Having a working support network makes things a lot less scary.

  • My Bank Recently Changed Their Interface to Move Money Between Accounts

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  • I feel you could choose another metaphor though, and it would make sense.

    Like, when you go to a shop to buy something or buy something online, you have already chosen the destination. Then you decide how you pay, choosing the source.

    To me both make sense equally.

  • Study: There is less room to store carbon dioxide, driver of climate change, than previously thought

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  • Add bogs to that list. Worldwide, bogs store more CO2 than forests. Restoring them and making sure they don't dry up (which also would release a lot of gases harmful to the climate) would be a good way to capture CO2.

    I don't have any numbers to compare it to other techniques though, sorry.

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  • Yeah, that's what I meant. I always felt appreciated, deeply loved and supported.

    I suspect we might not actually disagree but just have a different way of expressing what we mean, since we apparently come from different cultural backgrounds. I'm from Germany and I'm told the way we talk about our feelings can sometimes seem dispassionate and cold to others.

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  • I don't really have many memory of my grandparents. One of my grandfathers I never met because he too was an old father and died years before I was born. My other grandparents died rather young when I was still little. All of this likely adds to my bias.

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  • I don't really agree. My mom has pretty much told me she felt similar before having children. She would have been fine not having any. But she's still a great mom who loves me and my siblings a lot and never regretted having us. I never felt rejected or unloved because of it.People shouldn't have children if they don't want to have any but to me that's not the same as being fine with both.

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  • In my opinion over 50 is too old. I don't have a hard cutoff but I think I would place it somewhere around early 40s.

    Some of my reasons are very subjective. My best memories of my childhood with my parents are of active stuff – camping trips, exploring rivers, kayaking. My parents are still very active in their late 60s but I can't imagine them doing a lot of the stuff we did back then. At least not in the same way.

    Also I hate seeing my parents age. It was fine until their early 60s, they were also still very healthy and energetic in their 50s. But now I am often reminded that our time together is limited. I would have hated to deal with that as a child or teenager.

    I know it's very possible for a child to have a happy life with an older parent, possibly happier than many other children. But I personally would hate to have one and think it's a bit selfish to consciously choose it.

  • Germany's far-right AfD suffers series of candidate deaths ahead of local vote

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  • There really is no news story here other than a wild right-wing conspiracy theory.

    There are tens of thousands candidates in this election with 17 known deaths among the candidates, 7 of which are AfD candidates. This might seem high at first glance, but since there is no central institution keeping track of this, there might be more deaths for the other parties that are just not known. Also, as others have pointed out, many AfD candidates are older men. One of the dead was 80, two others around 70.

    I wish these conspiracy theories weren't just casually echoed in headlines and social media.

  • Lernmittelfreiheit für alle: Schulbücher dürfen kein Armutsrisiko sein

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  • Ich weiß nicht, wie das heutzutage mit Tablets ist, ich vermute, dass man die selbst zahlen muss oder zumindest teilweise, aber bei mir war damals alles mögliche inklusive Taschenrechner (auch der teure Graphische) und Zirkel von der Schule geliehen. Ich glaube auch die Arbeitshefte für die Sprachen haben wir bekommen, aber halt nicht wieder zurück gegeben.

    Ich war völlig geschockt, als ich irgendwann im Studium erfahren hab, dass man in manchen Bundesländern nicht mal die Bücher geliehen bekommt. Das war in Baden-Württemberg btw, aber halt schon ein paar Jahre her.

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  • Well, you got me there.

    ^(Actually the ratio can't be calculated, since #a/#consonants = 1/0 and you can't divide by 0 ^and ^that's ^totally ^why ^I ^didn't ^mention ^it...)

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  • Wikipedia says so, so it must be true!

    I guess we are entering the philosophical level of "what is an English word?" now. I don't think I'm the right person to judge since I'm neither a native speaker nor a linguist. I'm fine with disqualifying ara.

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  • Ara has twice as many As per consonant. Am and at have the same ratio as banana. But I'll admit that two letter words is cheating.

  • xkcd #3133: Dual Roomba

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  • "Two very dirty things taking turns sucking each other off"

  • [article] EU cave in on vehicle trade rules will cost European lives as US pick-up trucks flood into Europe

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  • All these points don't seem to stop people from buying ever bigger cars (Edit: at least in the part of Germany where I live). Most of my neighbours park in the street now, because their cars don't fit in the garages built in the 60s and 70s anymore or one car takes up the parking spots designed for two cars in front of their house. A neighbour recently asked me if I could park closer to the wall in our shared underground parking garage, because he has trouble getting into his car when I park in the middle of my spot. It wasn't a problem before he and the neighbours on his other side bought new cars.

  • Miko sitting / standing at the window

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  • Business in the front, chilling in the back.

  • Son of Norway’s crown princess charged with four counts of rape

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  • He's the son of Mette-Marit who comes from a lower working class family and Morten Borg, some random dude she had an affair with before meeting Haakon.