Big same. I'm mildly autistic, in addition to being a (mostly) straight cis white dude, and generally leaving people the fuck alone is usually pretty high on my priority list. Chief among them being afraid of misreading a situation or intentions and my own being misinterpreted. Intellectually I'm aware of how shitty a lot of the male population is, but I can't emotionally understand how they think it's OK.
It's also frustrating because their actions end up effecting me because I am often treated by women based on what I am rather than what I have done or said.

I figured I'd pick the man. That way I have bait or a distraction when the bear shows up 😅