You never had a stranger hit you with something personal out of the blue? It happens to me routinely. Yesterday I learned that a cashier at the gas station is tired because she moved a few months back and hasn't finished unpacking but was looking forward to the birthday party her husband was throwing her next week.
Last month I learned a lady had had to move far from her friends and family and hadn't seen her granddaughter in years, but hadn't told anyone because she doesn't have any friends here.
I just ask questions out of genuine curiosity. Sometimes (probably most of the time, tbh) I get surface level answers, but sometimes people need to talk to someone and I've been told that I "have one of those faces" that makes it easy to open up. Just because you would feel you are over sharing, and maybe culturally where you are these interactions wouldn't happen, doesn't mean they don't happen or that they can't.
Are you seriously comparing school shootings to someone being punched in the face after holding up a sign that they likely knew was going to be inflammatory?
Edit: I recognize that it doesn't matter what the sign says, he doesn't deserve to be punched. It is the kind of statement that reeks of teenage edgelord humor, that I hope the young man grows out of. I think the comparison is in bad faith though.
Oof, I think there was a convention of some sort hosted in Switzerland that settled some of these ethical questions in a fairly defined way, a little while back.
Edit: this was me being cheeky about the Geneva convention- unlawful deportation is a war crime. For real though, if you aren't familiar with the Nuremberg trials, the "superior orders defence" has been settled- no ethical quandary about it. It's illegal to follow illegal orders.
Most honorable? Just tell them you made a stupid mistake. You don't need to share the details. Will they talk? Sure. But you don't need to share if you don't want to.
Least shameful? You were mistaken for someone else who made a stupid mistake and didn't have your ID on you. They let you go when they realized you weren't who they thought.
Absolutely. If you learn about visual hierarchy in design, one of the first things that you learn is that those who have language that read from left to right will instinctively look at the top left, across, and top to bottom, in kind of an "F" pattern.
A lot of places have it set up as "compassion leave". Usually it's done by the employee association and they approve it for personal tragedies. If someone's house burns down, for example.
I learned at my local humane society that when it was established it was for looking after unwanted children because children were considered chattel. I think marriage was a business transaction, at least in western cultures.
I use Mio or other "flavour enhancer drops" for carbonated water to make all kinds of different sodas. My favourite is either cherry blackberry or pomegranate. I know it doesn't help with the cake situation, but hopefully you can at least still make some fun water.
But Scylla and the Sirens featuring Charybdis doesn't feel as different to me as say the Collector vs the Champ. I like the randomness and didn't realize until this comment- though you could argue the music for the Scylla fight is random at least!