That's horrifying, I'm so sorry that you've lived through that. I said lower on purpose, I CERTAINLY didn't mean zero - because I absolutely know it happens still.
I felt like the world was getting less toxic and this vile but common social reaction was improving. Like, the 80s or 90s vs the late 2010s felt like society had made massive improvement here. But everything's more fucked right now and people are more unabashedly shitty than ever in our lifetimes, I'm sure we're worse off today and will be for a while now.
I'm absolutely not an expert and not qualified here. But if we accept that you're 100% right and need way more broad options, is it even possible to solve this at scale? (I'm assuming we're all talking about the US since our education is atrocious). 350M Americans spread out across 3.5M sq miles - only smaller in landmass than China, Canada, and Russia, but with substantially LESS uninhabitable land and a relatively large population. That means our population density is nearly ¼ of China's.
How many different learning styles do we support? Do they each get their own tailored schools, each with their own full staff? How do you equally support the 1/5 of the country (60M+) that live in all those spread out rural communities? And what time scale can we even fix this problem on, understanding that we're in the midst of a teacher shortage as it is?
I think proper spending on education absolutely is part of this equation, but someone will have to gut our military spending, so that's hurdle number one. But regardless, tax dollars being a limited resource... I wonder how much spending doing this right would cost. For a full educational overhaul.