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Please feel free to shoot me a message on Matrix. I'm lonely so I will probably respond to anyone lol

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  • Maybe the genie gave you 0% beer and is secretly hydrating you

  • I definitely did feel a little out of place around men, and many of my friends were women (even before my egg cracked). Uneasy is probably the wrong word, more just like an outsider.

    I definitely wouldn't make the claim "men are not that well socialized" (although that may well be true - but I couldn't speak to that purely from my own experience)

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  • Don't focus so much on dysphoria. Focus on euphoria instead: what would make you feel happy, confident, and sexy?

    If keeping your current equipment makes you feel happy, confident and sexy then more power to you. But if bottom surgery would give you those feelings, then perhaps that's what you should pursue.

  • It's alright! tone is hard on the interwebs 😊

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    "1. treat other people like humans"

    "2. where to find dungeons? is near dragons???"

  • As a trans girl, I can confidently say that I have a much easier time hanging out with girls I just met than I ever had hanging out with guys I just met. Although both do happen and aren't too uncommon.

  • The US federal government isn't far behind.

  • If you find places where those people hang out, you'll do a lot better.

    Fortunately where I live the queer spaces, anarchist spaces, and vegan spaces feature heavy overlap. So it's not as hard as it might seem. (Still a very small pool though!)

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  • Last time I used Fetlife it seemed pretty dead. But maybe I could give it another try?

    Or maybe I'll finally meet some people irl 🤣

  • Where does one find one of these? Asking for a friend

  • In my case, it's more like 3 criteria that each would invalidate 98% of the world :(

    Fortunately the overlap is pretty high, but still

  • Sorry, tone is hard on the interwebs. Maybe I should have put a /j by my comment?

  • My long term partners, especially partners I live with, have to be vegan. (And a whole lot of other things too, like being poly and antiauthoritarian leftists.)

    I'm a lot less strict about hookups and casual relationships, both because I think sex is more normal that people tend to treat it as, and because my dating pool is incredibly small as-is and I'm too horny to just not fuck.

  • I don't think the picture is of him

  • Honestly the only one who seems like the "philosophical flat earther" here is you.

  • I'm on hrt and all, so I feel very "seen" by other transfems, binary or not. Even so, there is something special about being around other enbys that I can't get anywhere else.

    So I get what you mean about still feeling alone. If you don't relate to the lived experiences of binary trans folks, then spaces dominated by them probably don't feel as comfy for you. That's very normal and expected, not weird.

  • Seems like you beat me to it. 😄

    But just to share my 2c: "Rational self interest" is not Randian egoism. It's simply an acknowledgement that we are all animals seeking pleasure and avoiding pain, and that one would be not only irrational but going against one's fundamental biology to attempt to act contrary to that fundamental axiom.

    I think this view has a lot of explanatory power, and it gives me a mental framework for giving other people grace: when they do things that hurt me, they are likely responding from a place of trauma or pain, and so I should attribute their behavior to those causes rather than assume they acted with calculated intention.

    As for the "inconsistencies" with that view, well - I don't think that the world would be a worse place if everyone behaved this way. In fact, I greatly look forward to a world where everyone is educated, has access to mental healthcare, and has the self-awareness to interact with one another rationally rather than reactionarily. This won't solve the problem of some people simply lacking empathy, but it will go a long way towards fixing society's ills.

  • ^ This, and rational self interest is a perfectly developed, mature, and coherent outlook on morality. Not a 'basal' moral code that needs to be outgrown.

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