Please feel free to shoot me a message on Matrix. I'm lonely so I will probably respond to anyone lol
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Seems like you beat me to it. 😄
But just to share my 2c: "Rational self interest" is not Randian egoism. It's simply an acknowledgement that we are all animals seeking pleasure and avoiding pain, and that one would be not only irrational but going against one's fundamental biology to attempt to act contrary to that fundamental axiom.
I think this view has a lot of explanatory power, and it gives me a mental framework for giving other people grace: when they do things that hurt me, they are likely responding from a place of trauma or pain, and so I should attribute their behavior to those causes rather than assume they acted with calculated intention.
As for the "inconsistencies" with that view, well - I don't think that the world would be a worse place if everyone behaved this way. In fact, I greatly look forward to a world where everyone is educated, has access to mental healthcare, and has the self-awareness to interact with one another rationally rather than reactionarily. This won't solve the problem of some people simply lacking empathy, but it will go a long way towards fixing society's ills.
^ This, and rational self interest is a perfectly developed, mature, and coherent outlook on morality. Not a 'basal' moral code that needs to be outgrown.
Taken in abstract, it's actually pretty good life advice (with a few caveats).
I'm using the word "can" in a strategic sense here. In other words, if you can achieve your goal (safety and an equal society) without physical violence, you should do that, because fighting is risky and in any fight, both parties lose something. Violence is, by nature, destructive.
When they aren't in power, though, what fascists typically want is attention. They want to spread their views and foment the moral panics that give them political power. In that stage, honestly refusing to give them attention and a platform is a really good strategy.
In the US, and in many other places in the world, we are no longer at that stage and other tactics are required. Including, but certainly not limited to, confrontation and violence.
Wow. That's... so uncommon it's literally hard to fathom. Congrats to your wife on finding such a good place to work!
https://youtube.com/watch?v=-x5B8F9ubdc
This is what I'm trying right now. I can't personally speak to the results yet since I just started, but the general science is solid.
This routine is for hips and glutes, but I guess you could just do the hip ones if for some reason you don't want a round sexy butt
Disclaimer: this company is selling a course, but they have some beginner exercises available for free on youtube. The free ones are what I'm doing now.
Yeah, I'm not sure where we got the e- prefix from, but once upon a time it seems to have been used to modify the meaning of words. Obviously it's no longer in use, just a relic of lost grammatical rules.
And now we have a new e- prefix, such as email and e-bikes. I wonder if future linguists will think that "escape" refers to a digital lawn 🤔
You'll figure it out.
Between binders, packers, and whatever magic drag kings draw upon, there are plenty of ways to "preview" the kinds of changes that T would cause.
But the good news is that while the changes from hormones are mostly permanent, they're also slow. If you did start taking T, you'd have a little while to see how you feel before anything gets super noticable.
I feel like my hyperactive and innatentive brain is allergic to it
Oh, it is! Mine too! But that's why it's so helpful for us.
Meditating can do a lot to help manage adhd symptoms, such as improving focus and reducing mental clutter.
Hey, it's never too late to be yourself! There are so many examples of happy trans people who didn't transition until later in life. (I have to remind myself of that all the time 😅)
I know it's tempting to mourn the lost time, but what's far more important is the years ahead of you. You can do this!
Are you on T yet? You'd be surprised how much of the "broad hips" goes away when your body fat starts redistributing. Add some upper body workouts and you'll look so good, I promise!
I'm currently on the opposite journey, and if I can gain hips you can lose them. You just have to give the hormones a little time to work.
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Just a note - You should use the word "women" inclusively of cis and trans women. Biological sex is referred to using words like "male" or "female" (adjectives). "Man" and "woman" are words that describe gender, which is more about how someone presents themselves socially rather than how they were born or what body parts they have.
As for people born female only having "one extra hole" - unfortunately for me they don't all function the same. Don't get me wrong, I like giving head as much as the next girl, but it just isn't the same and my hemorrhoids and ibs make anal next to impossible. So, yeah, I'm kind of exhausted from trying to make do with the "holes" I have. It sucks.
Well that wouldn't be a scenario where you can avoid fighting.
However, while it's important not to give fascists what they want, if you can stall you absolutely should. Functioning countries gain more out of peacetime than fascists do, so if you can wait them out they do eventually crumble from within.
Now, if you're in the same country as the fascists, "waiting them out" looks more like non-compliance or malicious compliance - the fascists are usually demanding more than they can reasonably enforce, and expecting fear to get them their way. You can accomplish a lot by just silently gumming up the machinery of the state.
And if they aren't in power yet? Don't give them more attention than absolutely necessary. Ignore them whenever you can safely do so.
Obviously in all these cases you should stand your ground whenever there is a confrontation and you have a decent chance at winning. But there usually isn't a lot to be gained by starting fights with fascists, since that's what they want you to do. They want an excuse to be violent and they'll be sure to spin it to their advantage if anyone starts anything.
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I'm on hrt and all, so I feel very "seen" by other transfems, binary or not. Even so, there is something special about being around other enbys that I can't get anywhere else.
So I get what you mean about still feeling alone. If you don't relate to the lived experiences of binary trans folks, then spaces dominated by them probably don't feel as comfy for you. That's very normal and expected, not weird.