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Cake day: June 11th, 2024

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  • I grew up in the USA specifically a right-wing evangelical bubble. Pops was an engineer and part time pastor. So I was a pastor’s kid that went to an upper class Christian private school 5 days a week. Between that and church all of the other kids and adults I knew growing up (with the exception of an older brother 16 years my senior and 2 neighbor friends) were all part of the same cult.

    There was so much I thought was normal

    Adults bullying children

    Casual violence

    Abusive language

    It took me until my early twenties to really understand that racism was real and the people I knew were racist. That sounds insane but in the bubble it was almost exclusively wealthy white people but we had some tokens. In my school about 1 in 40 students were Nigerian and we also had a handful of kids whose mothers were Asian mail order brides. These kids and their parents had to just accept and ignore the racist shit all the white people said and did in order to be “one of the good ones”. This made me think that shit really didn’t matter. I really enjoyed racist humor but I thought the joke was you would have to be so stupid to really think like this. Not ‘other race bad’ haha. Kinda like straight dudes pretending to be gay with each other. Which is also really suspicious in hindsight.

    I think beneath it all was this idea that we all were good and well intentioned so anything that seemed contrary to that must be ‘joking’. Or the idea that you can say and act like an asshole but be a good person underneath it all.

    You are just the sum of your words and actions.

    Shit so many things.

    We bullied each other in a classist way, like we had rigid school uniforms and one of the few choices we had was between short sleeves or long sleeves on our button ups. If you wore short sleeves even in the heat the other kids would call you a “grocery store manager”. That was seen as pathetic and gross.

    I was one of the poorer students at the school. To give you an idea. The parents of two of the kids in the grade above me owned the NFL team in our state and they weren’t the richest students.

    Idk I’m rambling. Great question OP! Really made me think


  • I drive, my parents and peers pressured me a lot and I got my license as soon as I could at 16. Now I’m 30. In the past couple of years I’ve started living on my own and work remote. I hate driving and have started to realize I am really bad at it. Each drive feels like I’m rolling the dice.

    I think if I had been less insecure when I was younger I would have never gotten my license. It’s a real shame to me that driving is necessary for so many. We need better public transport🫩

    Best of luck stranger. Not driving is a shitty thing for your parents be disappointed over. Stay safe


  • So I work for a state government and I can code a wee little bit. I found some ways to automate a good chunk of my work with app scripts. Full disclosure, I review them but I couldn’t do it without Gemini. 😅 (That being said I would never trust an agent as an automation for anything)

    I made the mistake of telling a coworker or two about the first automation I did. One of them told the boss thinking I’d get kudos.😔 I did and more work.

    Haven’t shared any of the automations since. I also built all the ones since to slowly work over the work day so it looks like I’m doing them manually in real time. I also automated all of the data imports using my work email so if I get fired. My account is terminated too and they will all stop functioning.

    I gotta say it’s actually made my work day much lighter. Hopefully it won’t catch up with me negatively