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RBWells

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  • Do people actually call their parents by their name (as in First-name basis)? Have you ever done that? Or witnessed someone doing that?

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  • No, my kids call me mom and yes I'd think it kinda rude if they first named me.

    But

    My step-kids call me by my first name, and my kids call my husband by his first name, and that is fine with both of us somehow.

    When kids are small here, they usually call adults Mr. or Ms. First Name. Older kids to teachers Mr. or Ms. Last Name, but my kids friends who are older still called me Ms. First Name. Not much Sir and Ma'am anymore but I still hear it sometimes.

  • What's your drink of choice?

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  • Water for sure #1

    Cafe con leche favorite caffeine drink. Diet coke distant second, but I like it.

    Cocktails, tie between margarita and paper plane I think.

    Wine? A dry Sauvignon Blanc.

  • Have you ever had premonition, a sixth sense, a third man, or inner voice that saved you?

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  • I dunno, they have the same ones in grocery stores here, still. Toledo No Springs. I haven't been back lately, they may still have it. And yes it was in a sort of lobby where the line for the tellers waited.

  • Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’

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  • I don't disagree, it needs a different name, has not much to do with feet, but really? A trophy is enough of a bribe for him to upset his base of NFL fans? Can someone bribe him to get us on Metric system?

  • Please let me know

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  • Hi! I am a less structured person living with a much more organized/routine husband.

    Habit > Routine as far as exercise. Or anything but it works best for exercise because if you can force yourself to do it for the 6 weeks it takes to become a habit, you feel so much better it is self sustaining. I have always, always found everything works better when I set aside time for exercise, or effortful physical work. And really, if you just wander during your unstructured time, out in the world, move your body not sit still, that will do a lot.

  • Have you ever had premonition, a sixth sense, a third man, or inner voice that saved you?

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  • No. I have had dreams that happened later in real life, precognitive (I used to set an alarm early, jot them down, and go back to sleep.) Not big, predictable events. I'd dream of someone I hadn't seen in years, seeing them in a location, and then see them. Sometimes comically. Never in any way that was helpful.

    Most notable example, I dreamed that I went to the local bank, they had a scale to weigh people. I got on the scale but it went backwards! I turned around and saw this girl Joann who I'd not seen since middle school. Wrote that down in my dream journal.

    Couple weeks later - I am at the bank I dreamed about. I get on the scale, but it's broken. Tells me I weigh 30lb. I turned around and who did I see? Joann, who I hadn't seen since middle school.

    I do not say this to convince anyone. It's my own evidence, and I personally know the dreams were precognitive, only because I wrote them down and often wonder if everyone does this, are we all dreaming the future? It really pissed me off when it happened because it made me feel like the future had essentially already happened and we had no free will.

    I guard my sleep more now and don't do the dream journal, but do still have them somewhere. If I hadn't written it down when I dreamed it I would have just thought I had deja vous.

  • What's your boomer trait?

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  • One day as I was leaving for work, my penultimate daughter said "mom, that fit shreds" and I was like, excuse me, WHAT did you call me?

    "Your clothes are great!"

    My outfit, it shreds. Apparently.

    I don't hate it but don't remember being very slangy as a teenager.

  • What's your boomer trait?

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  • Two spaces DO go after a period. Is that something old? Just seems proper formatting for readability.

  • ‘There is no Mamdani effect’: Manhattan luxury home sales surge after mayoral election, undercutting predictions of doom and escape to Florida

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  • I'm from here. The cities are still ok. The culture war bullshit is at least partly smoke and mirrors, there was still a teacher doing a drag routine at my kid's middle school talent show at the performing arts school (and if you've never seen the talent show at a performing arts school, I recommend it.). Teachers still addressed my trans kid as they preferred. They broke New College for sure, though , that is terrible. The beaches are still ok.

    If I EVER run for office here, my slogan will be MFFA, Make Florida Freaky Again. The conservative assholes trying to squeeze us into a mainstream tight laced conservative hellhole have mistaken our mix of freaks and diversity for something homogeneous, like they think you can just average us out and squeeze it farther to the right, but that average was made up of a population that is so diverse no matter what axis you spin it on, I don't think you can bleach & iron it out like they seem to.

    So yeah it's getting worse, but is not yet as bad as when I was growing up (it was extremely violent down here). So my hope remains. All my kids are progressive.

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    Open floor plans are a con

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  • I do agreee with this. Our front door is by the kitchen & I don't like that but understand the design, there are big windows and French doors in back, so you are looking at a nice view.

    When we eventually get the resources to redo the kitchen, going to give up a few feet of space to put an entry, little bench, buffer zone and direct the eye to the lounge area in front, away from the kitchen. Not a literal anteroom, don't like that (feels like entering through the garage, sort of unfriendly) but better flow.

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    Open floor plans are a con

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  • Open plan is just kitchen/dining/living room? We have that now and I love it. Have never seen a toilet in a living room.

    Having no walls between kitchen/dining/living works so well for us, this is the first time I have had a house with more open plan & it does look bigger and keeps everyone from crowding me in the kitchen when we have parties.

    And walls don't cost much - we moved some around when we bought this house and interior walls that are not structural are affordable (compared to other renovations).

  • Where do you go to find your recipes?

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  • Generally I just wing it, have been cooking so long I can develop my own recipes for most things. But sometimes I do have to look for tips, and will read recipes for inspiration.

    Food:

    Bon Appetit

    Recipe Tin Eats

    Boy who Bakes

    Perfect Loaf

    Food and Wine

    NYT Cooking

    Cocktails:

    Punch

    Imbibe

  • Who shops at small businesses?

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  • Exactly like you - restaurants and grocery I can do local small business. Also services, haircut and such, I don't use chain places. And I try to pay very local people for anything we get done to the house, the pets, the yard.

    But the "corner convenience store" that has the household stuff is Walgreens, there isn't a local equivalent nearby and yes buying stuff 'on the ground ' sometimes costs so very much more than ordering online.

  • Wake up

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  • Exhaustion is so disorienting. I remember when my kids were very young and I couldn't sleep well, sometimes would get up because I had to pee, go to the bathroom but not be entirely convinced I was actually awake and not dreaming so I wasn't going to risk peeing in case I was dreaming.

    Now I go to sleep when I am sleepy, not before, and if it's late I text my husband "let me sleep until I wake up please". He has an alarm but I sleep through it, he wakes me up gently. Very luxurious.

  • We turn the HVAC "up" whether we want it colder or warmer.

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  • Same. My husband "tell the kids to stop turning down the thermostat" have never heard anyone say to turn the AC down meaning to make it warmer. I do agree that I would not infer that someone saying to turn down the AC wanted it colder, I would ask.

    Heater yes. "Turn up the heat!" means make it warmer. Though I hate the heater as much as I hate the cold so never say that either.

  • Veronica Explains why she doesn't stream (from Netflix etc) #algorithmic_helplessness_sucks

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  • Oh, and speaking of Charley we were lucky enough to have the Charley Crockett/Leon Bridges show come through, holy crap, I'd seen both of them live before but getting TWO great performers in one night, wow. And that intersection between county and R&B is such pleasant music.

  • Veronica Explains why she doesn't stream (from Netflix etc) #algorithmic_helplessness_sucks

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  • I saw Joshua Ray Walker open for Marcus King and didn't even like his show but looked him up and found his recorded work to be incredible, THEN he found out he had cancer and that was part of why the live show was weak, nothing to do with his music, and says he is recovering now, but I felt so uncharitable thinking the show sucked when he was dealing with something so awful.

    But anyway - I do use streaming but like you find bands other ways, opening acts, radio, sometimes Brooklyn Vegan, that site posts about bands I've never heard of, I listen and find stuff I like (and a lot I don't).

  • Guess it was true

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  • That's a very odd looking 2 nearly 3 year old.

  • Tell me about the last sandwich you ate.

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  • Leftover turkey, blue cheese, pickled onions and fresh sliced thin sweet onions, with mayonnaise on homemade sourdough.

    I had been joking with my husband, said we needed cheese for sandwiches because all we had left was blue cheese and Parmesan, but then decided blue cheese and turkey didn't sound bad at all, and it wasn't.