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Pronell

@ Pronell @lemmy.world

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  • looking back, i'm cringe asf

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  • Hey, forgive yourself for that cringe behavior, honestly.

    Looking back on that time and beating yourself up will not help.

    Have compassion for your former self and thank them for letting you grow.

    Remembering rewrites a memory, so remembering mindfully is important. If you hate those memories, they will continue to poison you, but forgiving yourself and others continues to pay off.

  • What's your favorite movie that is in a language which you do not speak?

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  • City of Lost Children is my pick. It has such amazing worldbuilding. Drops you in cold with no apologies and trusts you to just go on the ride.

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  • The People have stated their priorities. If the rest of the machine refuses to work to fulfill those promises, they are betraying the people.

    Promises are fulfilled through work.

    Wishes come true. Terrible framing.

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  • Booker T. & The MGs - Jingle Bells

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  • It is! I've been listening, but then family arrived.

    I used to tease my parents for owning an album called Green Onions.

    Now I recognize it as a classic.

  • Booker T. & The MGs - Jingle Bells

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  • Added to my funky Christmas mix!

  • Does anyone actually like... talk to extended family/relatives? Like an active effort to maintain relations and not just because of forced family gatherings?

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  • I have a weekly D&D game with my favorite aunt and uncle, as well as my Dad and my cousin's husband.

    The latter runs one weekend, and I run the next, completely separate games of course.

    I'm 51, my dad is 79, and his sister and her husband are a few years younger than he is. No idea on my fellow DM, I suspect late 40s.

    If you find a common thread to hang on to, you can have a great relationship.

    In this case, my aunt and uncle knew I was a huge weird nerd whose dad introduced him to D&D at 7 years old, so they thought to invite me when their daughter's husband made a game for them.

    Seven years later, we are still at it and I run a game for my friends as well.

    These relationships can be nurtured, as all can. You just have to find and maintain the why's.

    Even people who don't give a crap about birdwatching may still love to see the birds their old friends spot.

    But to further your point, I don't make much of an effort for those relatives that I don't have much in common with.

    This year's Christmas present is a box of homemade fudge, rice krispie treats, and spicy chex mix, all homemade.

    That's the effort I put in for those I don't have in my weekly or monthly life but are extended family.

  • I wonder what humans do when they’re not taking showers. And where does all this water come from? And how did I become sentient?

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  • I am very sorry to tell you that it's quite likely you came to sentience just so you could eventually be killed by one Arthur Dent.

  • In the US one can graduate cum laude, magna cum laude, and summa cum laude. There should be another honor added if you survive a school shooting.

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  • I was at my wife's work holiday party last night.

    They had a clever icebreaker bingo game with facts about the attendees. One person's was "survived three school shootings." I found her and got a bingo. The prize was a $10 doordash gift card.

    Lame prize, great game idea. Terrible that this has happened to her but she's a bright and cheerful woman.

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    A question for those who have a partner, how did you manage to do it and how long did it take?

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  • My wife and I met through Okcupid about fifteen years ago.

    I had been in an insanely stupid long-distance relationship, called it off, and started looking for someone local.

    The woman I broke things off with was younger than me and baby crazy, so I extended my age range by the same amount and met my wife quickly thereafter.

    Specifically, we chatted for two or three weeks before I suggested we meet at a coffee place.

    Two dates later we were exclusive.

    She is seven years older than me and had never been in a serious relationship.

    Just keep looking. Lonely people are absolutely everywhere, and you're bound to find someone you just link up with eventually.

  • River River

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  • USPS has a way of combining smaller towns and suburbs to the largest nearby city. In practice this is very useful. You know your friend is near Nashville, say, and the zip codes do the heavy lifting.

    So I would posit that using USPS as a source in this case is not a great idea.

  • Adhd+IBS+loneliness

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  • From my experience, IBS is both about diet and anxiety.

    Obviously not eating isn't going to help. You'll have to learn what foods set you off and limit or eliminate those from your diet. (For me it's raw onions and overly starchy foods.)

    But I believe your condition is fueled more by your anxiety and depression.

    I can't really help you there other than to say that controlled breathing exercises seem to be helping me. I often take cold showers when in an IBS attack that has verged into being a panic attack, but in that cold shower I realized I focus on my breathing.

    My background is that I knew I had IBS but it was getting out of control. It turned out I had a hernia that was causing an occasional intestinal blockage. Once that was fixed, my IBS started to slowly improve.

    It should've been massively better, but I had been training myself to be anxious each morning, worrying whether I'd be able to function at all.

    I had to unlearn that worry... and it took a long time.

    I dunno that I can give you advice on making friends. I am lucky to have a very good core support group of friends who have been with me through the last twenty-some years. We are all middle-aged dudes now, with our own complicated lives, but we still get together for board games, d&d, and chat on a discord all the time.

    There was a time when we grew apart a bit. (We are stoners and one of our rowdier friends went to jail.)

    I called a few together for a board game night, and it stuck. If I had not done that, we would almost certainly not still be in each other's lives.

    So find some friends and keep them close. It is very hard to get through life alone, as you know. It takes hard work to make and maintain these relationships, but they are necessary.

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And finally, our eldest, Miles Morales, who didn't really wanna cooperate.

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And Abed Nadir!

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And this is Troy Barnes.

  • List of individual monkeys

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  • My wife and I were watching Bad Monkey the other day and I recognized the monkey, also Annie's Boobs in Community and a ton of other stuff. She's the first listed monkey.

  • Nervous about Surgery

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  • My wife was going under for minor surgery and wanted to ask if any of the staff were watching Game of Thrones. (which hadn't gotten bad yet)

    Apparently she crooked out Game of Thrones! and then passed out.

    Whatever you do or say... you do or say. And this is their everyday job, you aren't going to offend anyone. The worst you can do is give someone a good story.

    But more to the point, those drugs remove your filter for a moment. It's not your fault.

    As for the rest, I cannot say. Some things you have to take a deep breath and accept that it's out of your control. You cannot change the reactions of others. Will your family coddle you? Or are they going to show you that they love and care about you during a rough time? How are those necessarily different?

    I hope it all goes well for you. It sounds routine, so there's that, and then hopefully your symptoms abate.

    I am on the spectrum but not diagnosed. I've only had anesthesia a few times in my life and have no idea what I said or did when I went under.

    I worried more about the after effects and healing, and everything went smoothly. Just for what its worth from one overthinker to another.

  • My perfect darling Honey Pie, at 6 weeks old and the beginning of what would be my biggest foster fail

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  • My wife and I took in five kittens for a weekend. I insisted we keep one as my Dad was keeping another.

    My wife insists this is a foster fail, but I maintain it was four foster successes!

    Fluffy kitten tax. This is Mary Jane, supposed to be Peter Parker but my vet tech wife failed to correctly determine gender that weekend:

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    How does one traffic? Like kids, guns, drugs and so on? Better explanation inside.

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  • If it's already a crime and you involved a minor in the crime while crossing state lines, you now trafficked that minor and additional charges are added. Add a gun, more charges.

    One crime at a time is the rule for a lot of good reasons. Of course zero crimes is preferable, if we are being picky.