I feel like it was the "incitement and aiding and abetting" that is the legal issue here. They were trying to fit this into an intentional homicide charge but were not able to do so and now, they are trying for an incitement charge but maybe a suicide complicated this charge as well.
You seem to be treating everyone, including yourself, with respect. I can't think of anything that is kinder. This sounds like a hard thing not the wrong thing to do.
When the dog makes the barf noise.