Pandantic [they/them]

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Cake day: 2023年6月28日

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  • Opening up your relationship to another is tricky - you have to have immense trust in all involved. Do you trust that this guy isn’t just trying to get your wife? Do you trust that your wife isn’t just trying to get another man in the bed or transitioning over to him? Do you trust yourself to not be jealous when he takes her to bed (or goes on a one-on-one date)? If any of these questions gave you a little twinge of sick in your gut, that means you need to explore that - is it something you can overcome with conversations and agreed limits or is it too deep?

    I was in a triad and it took some work to get over my jealousy (which I had in all my previous relationships and was not healthy anyway). However, it was a really rewarding experience - I had a same-gender partner to do things with, being with two people in bed is fun, and when things went bad with one partner, I had another one to emotionally support me and help me work through it before having a conversation with the other.

    However, again, you have to trust that everyone has the others’ best interests at heart because there’s definitely the potential for one to try and turn the other against you if they aren’t trustworthy.

    Good luck!




  • Two things:

    The controversy reached a disturbing peak on 6 June, when a man slapped a four-month-old baby on the head, claiming he had mistaken the infant for one of the dolls. He is out on bail, and the baby is reportedly doing well.

    And:

    The wave of controversy appears to have been ridden by politicians on the right: according to the news website UOL, all bills presented in May concerning reborn dolls were proposed by rightwing and far-right lawmakers.

    “If a topic is trending, these politicians will propose laws about it even if they make no sense,” said Kalil, who also coordinates a research group about the Brazilian far right.

    She highlights the timing: the country’s leading far-right figure, former president Jair Bolsonaro, is now on trial for an attempted coup and, after a prior ruling by the electoral court, is already barred from standing in next year’s elections.

    “So there is also an element of grabbing attention and pushing an agenda, especially when the right wing camp is in crisis over Bolsonaro’s trial and no one knows who will emerge as their new leader,” she said.

    Hmm… 🤔






  • I accidentally replied this to another comment but it was meant for you, so I’ll just post it again:

    I am sorry that you’re going through all this. I hope you find the strength to get through it and come out stronger. ❤️

    I think I would be easy to show your mom that chat-gpt is a yes-man if you think that’s worth your time. But also, understand that she’s probably just getting it to confirm things she already felt so it probably won’t change her mind.







  • 2nd grade, the meanest teacher I ever had got mad at me for using a colorful pen to write on my classwork. In front of the class, she told me to “never bring that pen back to school.” This was a new pen that I had just bought - the kind with multiple colors inside and I wanted it for my babysitter’s after school so I could use it on the Spirograph - so I said, “Can’t I just keep it in my backpack? I go to my babysitter’s…” and that’s where she cut me off and proceeded to yell at me in front of the whole class and made me sit out for recess for “talking back”. Since I had “lunch detention”, I had to eat last, but I had never been in big trouble before and I cried the whole recess and, by the time my lunch came I couldn’t eat from crying so they called my mom to talk me into eating.