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Nefara

@ Nefara @lemmy.world

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  • What are some things you put a ton of effort & work into, but it pays you $0, and you wish there could be some reward for all your hard work?

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  • Chores, organizing, cleaning. I spent so much time working on home projects this summer and when I look around it feels like I lost time. Somehow I've been working consistently without getting a foothold or making progress. Still laundry in the dryer and a mess everywhere.

  • Grandventurer Granny

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  • My mother joined me for a one-shot once and this is basically the character we rolled up for her. She was Nana Ylva, a human barbarian. Her thing was generally trying to solve things non-violently (often using her "Mom Voice" aka intimidation) but if she saw her "cubs" under attack she would rage. She had the chef feat that gave food with temp hp boosts. It was a fun little game and my mom still talks about it sometimes.

  • The Dowager Duchess of Devonshire feeding her chickens, Chatsworth, UK, 1995

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  • She seems like she was a lot of fun

  • YSK How to cook a perfect (hard) boiled egg

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  • I guess everyone has their own way of boiling an egg!

    I've been very happy with the steamed egg method. I put a steamer basket in a pot with just enough water that it touches the bottom of the basket, bring it to boil and then put as many eggs as I want in to the basket using a pair of tongs with silicone grippies. I set a timer for 11min, put it on medium heat, cover the pot and set up an ice bath. After 11min the eggs go in the ice bath for a minute or two and I crack them and roll them on a cutting board to loosen the shells. They come out exactly how I like them with a golden yolk with a soft orange center and the shells are super easy to peel as long as I get my thumb under the membrane.

    I've made them this way with fresh eggs, week old eggs, month old eggs, home chicken eggs, storebought eggs, and never had issues with peeling.

  • 'Um... WHAT?!' Internet erupts over Epstein email about Trump sex act with unknown 'Bubba'

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  • It's because he's actually smiling

  • When the clopping of the death horse nears

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  • Despite having heard the phrase 'passive aggressive' several times, I still don't know what it means.

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  • It's a tactic used by people who don't have the confidence, ability, or power in a relationship to communicate directly. It's usually used to be spiteful, take revenge, or express displeasure, thinly veiled behind some plausible deniability. A passive aggressive action can be something like:

    A person preparing food for someone they feel is unappreciative might deliberately over-salt or overcook it to spoil that person's enjoyment of it

    A person who doesn't like things being left on the floor might purposely step on or trip over/kick something they see there, damaging or dirtying it

    A person resenting being asked to do a task might make very little effort, do it wrong, or make the situation worse than it was to avoid being asked in the future

    It's essentially a way to be hostile and unpleasant to people you socialize with, but if called on their actions, the person being passive aggressive can make excuses or deflect blame. It's not a healthy dynamic and leads to frustration and erosion of trust on all sides. It perpetuates and exacerbates problems rather than resolving them.

  • Twinkle twinkle little star

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  • Yes, believing that they will be discriminated against for things that they like and face negative consequences for expressing who they are will discourage many people from doing things, not just girls.

    There are plenty of girls who fit into a more masculine standard of behavior and will integrate better into male dominated spaces. However, some girls will want to enjoy feminine coded things without judgement in those spaces and that is valid too.

  • Twinkle twinkle little star

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  • I have a female friend in STEM who has dealt with an immense amount of misogyny in her field. She's been the only woman in the room more times than she can keep track of. She has achieved a lot academically, but feels a pressure to conform to a standard of behavior set by men. She loves pink, collects dolls, paints her nails and is unabashedly feminine, and has suffered real social and professional consequences for her gender presentation. It's literally an act of bravery for her to go to work in a soft fuzzy pink sweater.

    I get that the question here is implying that either all little girls are so obsessed with pretty sparkly things that the lack of it would be a detractor, or that it's reductive to assume that they would and that femininity can take many forms. However, it's a valid desire to want to do a thing and be accepted for how you are. If a little girl does love pink and glitter and all classically coded feminine things, seeing someone like you in STEM blazing that trail and making a place for you, is just as validating as seeing other minorities in admirable positions. Representation matters.

  • If video games actually determined our real world behavior, we wouldn't be violent, we would be obsessed with powerwashing and all have CDLs.

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  • You don't?

  • Has Trick-or-Treating died in your area, and what is to blame?

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  • Hmm maybe then, some friends in a suburb were saying their neighborhood had aged out of it. The place I went last night was hopping and had a lot of traffic. Maybe the internet has made people optimize their targets?

  • Has Trick-or-Treating died in your area, and what is to blame?

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  • Trick or treating is alive and well in places where you can walk safely, and houses aren't too far apart from each other. The problem is too many places in the US don't fit that description.

  • I'm (31m) having trouble communicating things that are bothering me to my partner (30F) because her insecurities and anxiety keep me having to assure her.

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  • I've been in a relationship where the threat of self harm was used as a tactic to control my actions. They would threaten to do terrible things to themselves, and often follow through, at various provocations that they accused me of. They might be the ones being hurt but it is absolutely a tactic to manipulate and take power in the relationship. It might not be something they're entirely conscious of, and might even be an attempt to protect or defend themselves in a convoluted way, but in any case it's a blaring red flag and a sign this person needs therapy. It's up to you if you think this person might be able to work this through or is interested in healing and self improvement.

    One thing you should know though, is that YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. You are responsible for yours, and leaving, distancing yourself or cutting contact would be reasonable, rational, and possibly necessary reactions in this situation. What they do in response to that is completely in their control and not your fault.

  • What if we held hands 😳👉🏻👈🏻

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  • Sad that the immediate assumption is friends can't hold hands 😕

  • Are there enough resources in the world to allow everyone (or at least the vast majority) to live comfortably and happily?

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  • Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Sometimes that extra money buys ethical labor practices, sustainable material sourcing, quality workmanship and item longevity. Not always, there are plenty of scammy "luxury" goods, but there are plenty of brands that are considered luxury simply because they aren't fast fashion and are buy-it-for-life quality.

  • You’re Being Lied to About Graham Platner

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  • Impressive how many people immediately took up the baton of shitting all over this guy the second they got the order from whatever media bubble they are in.

    I've been reading and watching what he has to say, and the more people screech he's a Nazi it sounds more like a very obvious attempt to make people discount him. "What do leftists hate? Nazis! Hey leftists, this guy is a Nazi!"

    Is the tattoo a problem? Sure. He should have had it covered ages ago, but his posts and positions aren't that of a Nazi so that accusation just falls flat as soon as you do even a minute of research.

  • You’re Being Lied to About Graham Platner

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  • Yeah, how dare they post quotes of what he actually posted on Reddit. Why can't they just get out of the way and let people make shit up about him.

  • You’re Being Lied to About Graham Platner

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  • Fun Halloween idea

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  • Then kiddo starts leaving the tribbles in the pantry and using them as an excuse as to where all that sugary cereal went...

  • ADHD Women @lemmy.world
    Nefara @lemmy.world

    I can always find something to talk to someone about

  • Ice Cream @lemmy.world
    Nefara @lemmy.world

    Addictive and ultra rich peanut butter ice cream

  • Ice Cream @lemmy.world
    Nefara @lemmy.world

    Mango ice cream...

  • Gaming @lemmy.ml
    Nefara @lemmy.world

    They're doing Civ 7 already

  • ADHD Women @lemmy.world
    Nefara @lemmy.world

    What is your "trail of hobbies"?