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Mesophar

@ Mesophar @lemm.ee

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  • Trump Takes the Dumbest Tariff Plunge

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  • '/s' far predates karma and upvote systems

  • TIL that the forward part of a ship, the forecastle, is pronounced (and sometimes written as) "fo'c'sle"

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  • Now THAT should be in the Toot Oriole

  • Signal's CEO: Then We're Leaving Sweden | Sweden Herald

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  • I agree that it would destroy the reason many people use it, but they aren't outlawing Signal specifically. What they are doing is arguably worse, but this isn't an "anti-Signal" action.

  • Signal's CEO: Then We're Leaving Sweden | Sweden Herald

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  • Illegal unless they install the backdoors. They could choose to do that instead of leaving Sweden, but they are choosing to leave Sweden.

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    My boss texting me how he wants me to cook his eggs every morning

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  • The only part that weirds me out a little is that those are the only messages! OP will have to tell us, is this like a chat dedicated just to egg requests, or does their boss not message them with anything else over text, ever?

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    So… one of my friends blocked me because she’s going to “leave me alone now”. Is this a bad sign?

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  • You could have written "sorry, watching a movie right now" and then stop responding or reading messages they send you.

    Hell, even if you remove the "sorry" part of the message. At a certain point, you need to take accountability for how you write messages, despite being in a bad place mentally at the moment. Maybe they were frustrating you by continuing to message you while you were busy (and it does sound like they had prior knowledge you were busy with a movie), but it also requires that you were continuing to engage with them despite being frustrating. Nothing was preventing you from simply not responding until the movie was over.

  • Donald Trump's Gen Z popularity plunges

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  • Is this not a generalization of sweeping generalizations?

  • Adams case and other Trump moves threaten to open corruption floodgates, experts say

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  • Right? If what happens now is pre-open floodgates, I cannot imagine what it will be like once they open.

  • Soy milk

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  • They cannot digest milk for the same reason as humans that are lactose intolerant. Non-dairy milk is a whole other thing, with their own concerns for health effects on cats.

  • Thundercats goooo

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  • More like Zoids

  • Ordering coffee in the USA triggers me

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  • Soda fountains keep being brought up here. If you order a soda with no ice, you typically get more soda. But that's because the way the sods fountains fill is based on the volume in the cup, not the volume dispensed. The coffee machine in this post evidently measures based on coffee dispensed. If soda were dispensed the same way, it's likely soda with no ice would also give you a less than full cup.

    Also, don't go insulting or blaming the worker in this instance. They likely have to follow the guidelines of the job or risk losing it. "Pre-programmed to not be able to problem solve"? Fuck right off with that. If the machine is set to dispense a certain amount of coffee, the worker would either need to press the button twice, giving away more product for free, or press it once and give a half-full cup. This has nothing to do with problem solving. Maybe the customer shouldn't be pre-prpgrammed to expect more for less. I get the frustration of not having a full cup, but you'd only be getting a half-full cup with or without the ice in it. You are getting what you paid for.

  • Ordering coffee in the USA triggers me

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  • Yeah... you're be getting exactly the same amount of coffee you had been paying for before. Getting upset at how little that coffee amounts to normally is one thing, but getting upset with the notion that you are now getting -less- coffee is just silly.

  • The lost days

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  • What's the fix...? o.o

  • What's up?

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  • If you go in with that attitude, though, are you there to try to convert people to your side. Or are you only there to berate them and make yourself feel better for having done so?

    That doesn't mean you put up with bad faith engagement. That doesn't mean you allow them to burden you with the emotional and mental weight of the argument. That they can watch the consequences without fear of it harming their self is exactly why you need to watch your language. They lose nothing staying where they are, you need to convince them to give up resources (mental, emotional, financial) of their own to take up your position.

    So, don't put up with bullshit, and you don't have to be nice about it, but you do have to be patient of your goal is to actually convert people over. Not everyone's role is to convert people, though, some people are only fighters. Just make sure the fighting is directed in the right places.

  • Fijian man accused of raping Virgin Australia flight attendant in Nadi denied bail

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  • While true that they could have searched on the internet, in the time it took you to berate them you could given them am answer.

    Also, this is Lemmy, you should have said "you can DDG it".

  • What's the appropriate response to "What's up?"

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  • For the second situation, it isnt always that they want to be asked the question. Sometimes they noticed a change in your behavior recently and are checking in on you.

    Example, you're eating lunch and you love chocolate pudding. You usually eat your chocolate pudding every day without fail. Today, you didn't eat your chocolate putting and just left it sitting there.

    A: "Hey" B: "Hey" A: "So... what's up?"

    Regardless, "what's up" is just a place holder for "how are you". Sometimes that is just small talk and a way of fulfilling simple social interaction, and sometimes it is a question with genuine interest in knowing what is going on in your life (or asking you first, so they feel comfortable sharing what is going on in their own life).

    I always find it easiest to give a simple and short, but honest, response, and elaborate further if they show interest with follow up questions. Of course, giving them information you are comfortable giving that person.

    A: "What's up?" B: "Not much, I'm a little tired today. You?"

    or

    A: "What's up?" B: "Kind of sad, but I don't want to talk about it."

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  • Do you just mean the art showing them as the same size? Because that's common in a lot of infovraphics to not be to scale if they are clearly labeled

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    what works for you to let go?

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  • It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety, too, if you're on a "hair trigger" with your emotions. Some self care and/or therapy may help with some of it, but you sound like you're on the right track already. Try to be aware of when you feel that way, try to identify why the situation makes you feel that way, ask yourself what you can do in that situation too change anything, and try to view the situation from other perspectives (doesn't have to be from the perspective of the person making you angry, but can be a stranger viewing the situation from the outside).

    Best of luck to you! And keep in mind that by just wanting to improve yourself in this way, you're already take a step more than most people!

  • I was given a "Nest Hub" by a family member, I'm very privacy conscious. What can I do with this thing?

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  • Someone close enough to be expected to gift, but distant enough to not know them well and only know "they like techy stuff".

    Like, I get that it isn't the best gift for OP, and I dont presume to know their relational status with the gift giver, but there are plenty of ways this could be a well-intentioned thoughtful gift that just didn't hit the mark...