Lemminary

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I wish my cats would nap with me like that, but it's my fault for not getting them used to it when they were kittens. They'll stay put for a minute under my arm and then dart off the bed.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 5h ago

Cats are crepuscular, meaning they're more active at dawn and dusk, but they may be somewhat active at any hour if they have slept enough.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 6h ago

Yeah, we buy an amazing blend of sand. Leaves no odors, no dust, and has great clumping.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 16h ago

Same here.

Sincerely, a man.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 16h ago

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doner_kebab

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al_pastor

Waaaait a minute...

Lemminary @lemmy.world 19h ago

c/surrealmemes is leaking

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 19h ago

What's this from?

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 21h ago

You mean terrorist organizations?

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 22h ago

Now I want to try this brand spanking new cuisine you speak of. It has become my life mission. 👀

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 22h ago

Or ketchup

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 2d ago

Same here! Some guy I worked with randomly started telling me about a guy he murdered. He framed it as self-defense, but I've always wondered.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 2d ago

Yes, he told me he did it in self-defense, in an "it's either you or me" kind of deadly dispute, and was not caught. It was an interesting story of drugs, gangs, revenge, and a dramatic ending involving a kidnapping where he was held at gunpoint by the kingpin. Sometimes I wonder if he was only testing my trust by retelling a movie, though.

Another time, I met an old-looking guy who was kidnapped by cartels and held captive for two years. He told me he had been starved and tortured and showed me a before-picture of himself where he looked incredibly built and handsome. In an effort to survive, he became one of their best assets with his ability to convince and negotiate, helping to kidnap other people until he was set free. I guess he was trauma-dumping on me.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 2d ago

Got one for the same reasons.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 2d ago

But, clearly I wasn’t there and I didn’t know that you were criticising a drawing!

Precisely, so let's not assume things and speak in ways that try to pin it on me. "You should've apologized and backed down" is rewarding their shitty behavior.

I get your point about avoiding generalizations, but I wouldn't call it a category. This is a pattern of behavior from people who think they're standing up for someone or something, but end up being straight-up toxic by taking social justice to extremes. I've even seen it in person, where some asshole crashed our LGBT+ community group because they started accusing another guy of saying something racist when it wasn't the case. It was needless drama all around because someone decided to be the superhero and save imaginary people.

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Lemminary @lemmy.world 2d ago

I think you're assuming a lot about what the interaction actually was about, how it happened, and why. And you're assuming that I don't know what being part of a marginalized group that gets constant shit thrown at feels like.

An apology is not in order when the person is making a big deal out of nothing, making shit up, and reframing what's being said to defend imaginary people or abstract ideas. Then add to that malice when things don't go their way. If I had said something about a particular person or something egregious, I would understand, but I said it about a drawing.

I have difficulty backing down in lots of scenarios but accidentally upsetting someone I didn’t mean to isn’t one of them.

You say that because you haven't met the whiteknights in the community who get upset on behalf of others or lose their shit when others don't follow their mental models of gender expression/identity. You know how white people will sometimes cry culture appropriation, and the natives are like, "uh, we're actually ok with that"? Yeah, they exist in the gay world too, and some are vicious and vindictive to the point of being abusive themselves. To me, it sounds like you're defending a Karen.

Lemminary @lemmy.world 3d ago

Sir, this is a comic strip