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Propranolol? It's definitely helped my anxiety. You might find some ease with some dbt skills, too. Whatever you focus on, is what you end up seeing the most of. Like when you buy a yellow car, all of a sudden you see yellow cars everywhere. They were always there. Not to in any way minimise what's happening. But you need to get through this, and the more solid you are, the more you will be able to actually choose to be part of building something better, when it comes to that. The more you focus on the scary stuff, the more your brain becomes practiced at spotting the scary, the mire you practice anything the more you perfect it. You don't need to perfect flooding your brain, perfecting noticing, everything is scary. You won't miss it. It's ok to put it down and notice all the other things happening, all the good, all the rising up, all the fighting back, just even all the adorable fluffy animals. For every one bad thing that floods your brain, go and find 3 things that counter balance. They're there, you just haven't been noticing them before. It's hard at first because you aren't practiced in finding the good, yet. But the more you do it, the more you train your brain to notice them, and soon that tide will flip.
Complete the stress cycle. Your brain is stuck in fight or flight because you haven't told it the dinosaur is gone. Move your body, do some breathing exercises. Mindfulness is about being in the moment, noticing what's around you, in such a way that it turns off your fight or flight and tells your brain it's safe to just be, right now.
Your brain has a whole part that's non verbal, just speaks to you in emotions, can't understand words, does understand actions. A lot of those breathing techniques just tell that part of your brain, it's safe right now. You don't breathe all relaxed if a dinosaur is about to bite you. And maybe there's some dinosaurs around, right now, but even if there are, your fight or flight brain shuts down your thinking brain, it pulls the plug. To get through things happening right now, you actually need your thinking brain active. So no matter what, you don't need to be setting off your fight or flight, right now. It's ok to turn it off.
Now let's talk about your thinking brain. It's job is to prattle on. It sees an emotion happening and guesses why, it's a very habitual creature, if you set it a task, it will keep doing that task, until you rewire it. Rewiring your thinking brain, seems hard at first, you just slowly remind it, where you want it to be, and it seems like it's not working, but you persist, and then one day, bam, rewired. Takes heaps of effort, because you have to literally build new neural pathways.
There are things you can do that send code to your physical body, it sends messages to your system to turn off the alarm systems.
EMDR therapy was discovered by a guy watching birds. He noticed that he felt calmer. He discovered looking from side to side at a certain pace, caused a physiological reaction, it caused calm. And you can do a mini version of that, by walking in nature. Your eyes will naturally do the looking side to side, at the right pace,and after you have been walking for a bit you might notice you sigh, or you just feel better.
The levels of stress you are feeling are a physiological response you have triggered, that is designed to help you survive a very threatening situation, happening to you, right now, like your house being entirely engulfed in flames, right now. But that's not what's happening right now.
Right now some cronies are trying to scare everyone, because they know people can't utilise their intelligence to resist, when their fight or flight is activated, they're trying to scare and stress you like this, on purpose. Don't give them that power. Notice all the things they don't want you to see, they aren't allowing in the media etc.
Find your centre. Don't worry about what you're able to do, or not do, just notice how you feel, physically where do those emotions sit. Don't put meaning to them, just notice, listen and thank them, for their message, and let them pass like a balloon floating past. Just feel them, just listen, then let them go. Nothing else exists. Just feel, listen, thank them, let them dissolve. That's what they want to do.
Feelings get really loud, if they think you aren't listening to them, but listening doesn't involve letting them take the wheel.
You are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts. You are the entity that observes them. You get to choose.
Fibre feeds the gut microbiome, that are responsible for digesting your food and such. Vegetables, fruits, beans lentils and legumes.
A doctor explained to me, Some laxatives use caffeine as the active ingredient, best to avoid those, they only work for a brief period of time. Laxatives like osmolax draw the liquid into the poop. Make sure you're drinking adequately during the day, and take a Laxative regularly, you are constipated, as constipation leads to polyps and stretching of the bowel and heaps of nasty side effects.
How to use fodmap: Essentially fodmap is a map of foods that have a high or low digestive impact on the gut.
So if you're having digestive issues, sometimes giving your stomach a break from high fodmap foods can be enough to alleviate symptoms.
Although staying on a low fodmap foods diet can cause some nutritional deficiencies, so it is recommended to not extend too long. How long is too long? Not sure, the specialists i saw didn't tell me that.
How do I have this knowledge: I had some serious digestive issues, and went to specialists to help figure it all out. I had asked to pursue an allergy diagnosis, but my doctor suggested starting with a dietician to guide me through the process, because sometimes the foods giving you trouble won't show up on allergy tests and vice versa.
The dietician suggested a low fodmap diet, with no gluten and no dairy for one month and then just add one thing back in at a time, give it a few days to see how you react, if you have a bad reaction wait a few weeks and try again, just to be sure, to eliminate things that do give you trouble. I found i couldn't tolerate gluten, and after having 2 months of gluten free, so many symptoms had alleviated for me. Bumpy skin on my arms and forehead, bloating and pain, and I found i could add back in other foods I previously couldn't tolerate, after just taking a break from gluten (that's just me though, different for everyone).
I've been told it's about balancing. When you have a flare up, reduce down to low fodmap, for a time, a month seems like the usual time suggested. To give your stomach a break to heal, but don't stay down on the low fodmap, as it's not nutritionally complete.
There's a fodmap app from the Monash university, for easy mapping and tracking of your foods as well as recipes.
I have had a lot of success with upping my fibre and liquid intake, and reducing my refined sugar intake. My gut will tolerate so much more now. I found little tins of beans with salad dressing on them, lemon, lime and vinegarettes etc. beans in a tin are cooked ready to eat, they just need rinsing (if no sauces or flavourings) and heating slightly (30 seconds in the microwave) to improve the taste. I add them to various dips, add frozen peas and corn (reheated in microwave, too) and have a chunky salsa, it's amazing. I'm time poor, so i need quick and easy.
Their levels of empathy, their relationship with their own ego, and, similarly, their levels of selfishness / egotistic/ egocentric. That's the core that drives, they'll make decisions on who to betray from that core, with no care for others, they become quite dangerous to be around. That said something people are good at pretending they have empathy and aren't egocentric, but if you wait and watch, pretend always has cracks to see through. And i don't mean small moments of overwhelm. I mean, polar opposite behaviours that seem outside their morals, when not in an extreme emotion. You will usually see little things around the edges, and your instinct is to excuse it away, because it doesn't fit the narrative, don't do that bit. Little things around the edges might look like casually stealing, possibly just small things, sometimes even from friends, jealousy or a hatred for someone for no apparent reason other than they're good at something the person in question is, too. Wanting a lot of attention, without giving anyone else room in the spotlight, or giving less and less room for others in the spotlight, until it's all about them. Passing blame, it's always someone elses fault, or excuses for everything they do that they feel are a reason to be able to do the poor behaviour, rather than taking responsibility, learning and growing. Unable to metabolise failure, at all. If you look up fixed and growth mindset, (Carol Dweck) narcissistic types, always have a fixed mindset. Where they're Unable to utilise mistakes or failures to learn and grow, and believe that you are inherently born good at things or not, rather than practice at anything making you able to be an expert at something.
I cannot remember the reference right now, but it's said that anyone can become "genius" level at something, if they just put 7 years of practice into it. "Bad" people, practice being like everyone else, they are very good at learning what you want to see, and mirroring that, for a time, it's not something anyone can hold up for very long, but that said, I've seen it held up for a year, odd, at times.
If you wait, don't get enmeshed with someone too quickly, they usually try to move fast to enmesh you, and remember that a lot of what you see in anyone around you, is what your brain imagines is there, you put a "persona" on people, all people. What's in everyone is a complex mix of a different set of morals, and emotional maturity, privilege and perspective of the world that's shaped by their unique upbringing, surroundings and environment. Even two siblings can have very different upbringing, surroundings and environment. And everyone has bad and good, in them. What you need to assess is the harm they could or do cause you and what you need to do to keep safe, keeping in mind that psychological, emotional and verbal abuse, are as harmful as physical abuse. And then decide what level of involvement is safe for you.
Yeah, I agree. People were doing an en masse boycott, using tiktok as a way to gather, and who to hit, then, bam suddenly the elites have to buy tiktok. I know they did that for other reasons too, controlling the narrative and what people see and know has been the M.O. of the evil elite, since days of old, but it just seemed like interesting timing. If we all just gather and boycott, together, as a movement, do targeted hits, I wonder if we could break their choke hold on us. I know there's a lot of movements for boycotting, people are moving away from the more evil things. I just feel like it doesn't get as widely spread as it should? Maybe? And I really appreciated the approach behind the other movement, they targeted one brand for one quarter, in a very calculated and planned strategy, so as not to affect anyone's jobs.
This has been so enlightening, thank you everyone for the answers, I really appreciate the perspectives, yours the most!
That's absolutely fantastic, definitely keep that up. And add in doing things, for no reason. I feel like we get in this grind of toxic productivity, maximising effort and output for ultimate returns, but your nervous system pays for that, it's not as free as it feels.
There's a whole part of your brain that isn't verbal, and just reads the levels of safety in your environment, by how you feel. If you are constantly sending the message to your emotional brain, that we gotta get productivity out of every moment, it actually triggers the fight or flight, if you don't balance it out with the safety affirming, of just being in the moment, just noticing what's around you, doing something and just noticing your surroundings, the smell in the air, the way the wind moves in the trees, watching the clouds float, just be a body on a beautiful rock, for a moment, it tells your nervous system, we don't have to be on allert, there's no danger. Which in turn, lowers your cortisol and adrenaline. Making the experience of being a body on a beautiful rock, exponentially more enjoyable. Absolutely keep doing the exercise and endorphin boost, just add in "just because" once a day, here and there. Soothing to the soul.
I know Stan has a heap on there.
Wouldn't men sleeping with their tops off, be the same as women sleeping with their tops off, tho?
Yeah, same! The monsters weren't one dimensional, or typical bad guys, they had depth and character, backstories and character growth, they weren't blunt instruments who were that typical or usual representation of being just bad. Some monsters were redeemable, some weren't. In a magical dimension where anything can and does exist. It touches on inclusivity. I hugely enjoyed the concepts and life dilemmas they broached. And the way they gave deep concepts a light hearted view, but still explored it fully. Gave the character growth so much depth. You see so much character growth throughout the seasons. I could go on. Brilliant show, even though it is mostly kid aimed, kinda.
It's so very kind of you to imagine good will behind their motives. I am very sorry to inform you that is incorrect, they very much don't want their clothes available in charities or even discounted, because it cheapens their brand overall. It's malicious, as all capitalism, inherently, is. They don't want "poor" people wearing their brands. They would rather take a loss, than sell the item at discount, they very much have infrastructure available to afford other avenues, they choose not to, because scarcity invokes a higher price on their product. Plus the status of high prices, keeps a ratio of higher price per product, which means a higher profit margin per product, the item probably costs them 5c to make, they sell it for hundreds, what they most want is to protect that margin, if their last season stock were available at half price, anywhere, people en masse would just buy last seasons stock. Destroying it, even though they make a massive loss by doing that, protects their future profits.
You're gonna think I'm weird, but star vs the forces of evil. It's a trip. It's so creative and different. Watched it with my youngest and my grandson.
It's a privilege not everyone gets, to age.
Likely just double sided tape. That would gather dust where exposed, (not stuck to wires, bit) though. As I found out from doing the same thing with a super long lamp cable, in my bathroom, where we only had a heatlamp, and that sucked in summer. But also the power point was in an awkward place, so I dangled a lamp from the ceiling, but after taking it down, and being too lazy to remove the tape, now it's fly catching tape.
Oh wow, my birthday is on a Sunday this year. I don't have to get up early? Yaaay!
There was no internet for me, growing up. When I was 10, we moved to a place on the edge of the main suburbs, backing onto bushland, in Australia, with massive mountains surrounding us, so much wildlife and moss and so many species of flora. And! There was an old broken, partly abandoned chook shed, with a creaky door. The place was magical. We took all the buckets we could find, me, my sister and all my cousins, mostly all girls, (the two youngest were boys, we included them too) would make huge concoctions with moss and the varying brush species around. We would send off parties to gather supplies for the steeping concoctions. We would pretend we had gone on massive journeys with battles, to gather the vital life saving precious flowers or interesting twigs. We'd be at it all day. When we weren't doing that, I would be off hiking in the mountains, by myself, just for fun.
Any tinned beans are ready to eat, just rinse and heat a little (a minute in the microwave, give or take). I'm super time poor, So lately I've been mixing a few varieties of beans, with some just defrosted peas and corn, and some dip and corn chips, if im feeling fancy. Damn it's yummo!
I use about 1/2 cup peas corn, microwave for 30 sec to 1 min, in a little water, drain.
Pour in 1/3c (odd) of whatever beans you like (I go with black beans, chick peas, and lentils)
Microwave 30 seconds.
Add lemon juice to taste. Pour on whatever dressing you want for flavour. (Tzatziki, 2tbsp or vinegarette, or salsa, endless options)
Then you can use it like a chunky salsa / dip, eat with corn chips. Or as is.
Or eat with rice or noodles.
I have at times added cheese or a chicken schnitzel.
I don't think these rattle heads, actually plan to march, I think he thinks he will order a march, and all the people currently marching that he sees, love him so much and support his "deserving" lifestyle so much, they'll all march for him. He's putting in orders for you to march for him, on his behalf, and he absolutely believes it'll happen in troves.
No troubles at all, lovely. I've been through some heavy stuff in my life, but I didn't want it to be the only noise in my head, and I wanted to feel like it didn't control me, I did. So I set about finding out how things work up there, and what helps, including speaking with professionals. I'm glad it's able to be put to use! Feel free to yell out if you need anything more targeted, I'll probably have something relative. Wishing you well on your journeys!