

There is a lot of confusion/obfuscation about terms. A leader is someone who is good at bringing people together and motivating them to accomplish a task through interpersonal skills. Leadership describes those skills. Government officials are not necessarily leaders, they are above us in the involuntary hierarchy we were born into that we are compelled by force to keep living in. Some of those officials may display leadership traits from time to time but leadership does not involve coercion by definition.
Leadership involves mutual respect, sacrifice, and a lot of interpersonal skills like conflict resolution. A leader may be doing different type of work but they should be doing at least as much work as the people who choose to work under/follow them. If someone is just watching people work without contributing they are at best a supervisor, usually an active impediment, not a leader.
All groups and projects do not need assigned leaders of course. Direct democracy or group consensus is usually the best way but some things require big picture organization or split second decision making making a voluntary hierarchy necessary. Constructing a building needs at minimum someone who can help organize the work. A community militia in combat needs a chain of command or they will get slaughtered.
I’m having trouble organizing my thoughts but I hope you find this opinion useful.
Edit: Sorry for the edit but I just wanted to add that Dungeon Masters and Game Masters could be a good example of facilitators and leaders. A group trusts them to act fairly while making a fun time for the group. If they turn into a power hungry asshole who fakes rolls to “win” the group will usually ask them to return to being a player or ask them to find another group if it is bad enough.




If you dogmatically look to other people’s theories for justification for your beliefs you just have a religion. I read a book of theory every couple of months to check for new ideas that I may want to incorporate into my own beliefs. Anarchism is about free association and the abolition of involuntary hierarchies (among many other things). Wanting the person who has built five houses to organize and guide the group though building their first house is not contrary to any of that. You can always jump on your bike and leave or talk to the rest of the group and see if everyone agrees that the person organizing and guiding needs to leave because they are being a dick or making bad decisions/recommendations. With a boss, supervisor, government official there would be many different consequences and forms of coercion invoked due to the refusal to obey an order or law.
Also there is a difference between the colloquial use of a word and its actual definition, I suspect you are defining leader/leadership in the colloquial way instead of by its actual definition. The definition of leadership does not involve coercion at all, in fact if you have to coerce or force obedience you are by definition not a leader you would be a “superior”, official, or boss.