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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • I find it hard, but try some introspection to find what your mental and physical needs are (hobbies, bodily movement, experiencing nature, whatever it may be) and then see how you can meet those needs on your own.

    Once you start to get a better grasp on yourself and your own needs without external validation, youll be closer to the zone of “happy on my own/loving yourself”.

    Then you can start to fit someone else into the picture, be it a romantic partner or more friends.

    If you do have any close friends you know you can trust, lean on them. Tell them where you are mentally, and let them know they don’t need to be there always, but when you’re in the shits they will be better prepared to support you

    And always remember, baby steps are still steps forward. (Also, if you have access to therapy/counseling, please reach out to someone professional)












  • Tldr, not worth the energy.

    Think about how you’ll feel in 5 years looking back, and you’ll appreciate waiting for the right person.

    I’d recommend trying to have a mature conversation with Ben, and if it goes well, great! If not, then it’s keeping Ben at an arms length and not letting them get closer. And advising the same for Beth.

    As long as you try to stay cool headed, you shouldn’t do something you’ll regret later on in life. As long as Ben can have a mature conversation about relationships and “ownership” of relationships, and how language can hurt people’s feelings (which is kindergarten shit, Ben…) you should be able to maintain a decent friendship. If you’re cool about it, at least you can say if things go south it’s Ben who is/was the problem.








  • Jtee@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world[deleted]
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    6 months ago

    I would say to you stop trivializing a woman’s actions that everyone would consider rape if the genders swapped

    If he was the one who slipped off the condom secretly, would you not consider that rape?

    Regardless, OP is immature and has a lot of growing to do, and she took advantage of that in a number of ways. I feel for this kid. Terrible situation to be dragged through