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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • Those are calrod elements. The resistive coil is inside that tube. The bolts hold the steel shell. The affixing nuts hold the outer casing and are not conducting electricity.

    The insulation can fail and the inner coil will touch the shell, although I’ve only seen it happen once. Blew a hole in the bottom of a pot in dramatic fashion.

    Edit to add: I am a huge fan of “Teach Yourself Electricity and Electronics” by Stan Gibilisco, which is now in its 7th edition. Back in the 90s, I got my start with the 2nd edition. Here’s the 4th for free on Internet Archive: https://archive.org/details/teachyourselfele00stan






  • The abandonment issues are a huge challenge. Empathy by way of anecdote: my abandonment issues as a child were so bad that I couldn’t tolerate the idea of limited edition breakfast cereals. “What if I really like this cereal and they stop making it?!”

    It took me a lot of time, professional help, and mindfulness. Understanding my attachment style helped a lot. The super short, abstract spiel: attachment style is mostly set in stone; we can only work on our reactions. A positive inner voice is a huge step.

    Everything as it is, I’ve started having issues with feelings of being disposable… I can’t expect people to stick around, like they’re waiting for a reason to abandon me.

    That shit is going to happen. Stick with me here, because this is going to take a dark turn, but I found what works for me. You are disposable to most of the world. And you absolutely cannot expect people to stick around. To wish otherwise invites disaster. Graveyards are full of irreplaceable people.

    You can, however, be such a positive addition to your physical circle (with enough self-awareness and boundaries to prevent getting exploited) such that your circle regard it as unthinkable to be without you. That positive inner voice you’re working on… great! But it’s not going to be one big thing that makes everything work better. It’s going to be lots of little (and a few big) changes that turn the ship around. Give the self-work a couple years. You may not even notice the changes, but they all add up.

    In understanding your attachment style, you can more easily find people who are compatible. Spoiler alert: avoidant attachment tends to trigger people with abandonment issues; anxious-avoidant attachment styles tend to burn everything down around them.

    Calm your reactivity, improve your communication and self-awareness, grow your mindfulness and acting with intention. Non-violent communication (NVC) is the kind of thing that pays dividends everywhere in life. As is mindfulness. Develop a consistent meditation routine.

    In my experience, very few people are looking for the relationship exit. Those that are, you didn’t need them around.

    Edit: forgot a word


  • My ex-wife was convinced that she was a Victorian chambermaid in a past life. The jealous lady of the house pushed her out a window, and she died upon getting impaled on a fleur-de-lis finial. sigh

    Why are people who claim past life experiences always some celebrity, Victorian upper crust or adjacent, or royalty? They’re never a reincarnated plumber named Sal from Hoboken NJ. I blame the Bronte sisters.





  • But maybe I’m just using it so much I don’t recognize the sharp edges as much anymore.

    Nah. I used to think that GUI git clients were The Way. But they all fall short, especially when the ***slightest ***thing goes sideways. Once you get your head around the paradigm, the git CLI is how you get real shit done and quickly. If anything, the GUI clients are all sharp edges and half-measures; the only reason I pull out a GUI client is to get a visual on all the branches in progress/already merged.



  • In the 90s, I managed a nightclub. The owner of the club also owned a mixed zoning apartment building (sports bar on the first floor). As part of our compensation, employees could get an apartment in lieu of some wages. Most of the club DJs lived there. The sports bar regularly called up to complain about the noise from DJs practicing, which was especially surreal given that the bar also had live music.