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Jarix

@ Jarix @lemmy.world

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  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • Oh also it doesn't fucking matter what most people would feel about new things. The gift giver isn't a stranger. They are married(assuming mother in law comment about the origin of the watch being replaced) and should know by now say least this much about the person they are sharing their life with.

    How could you be this oblivious to who your partner is by saying most people would have appreciated it.

    Using that reasoning then you are testing your spouse no more intimately than a complete stranger. That would hurt most people...

  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • Absolutely it is often what people do.

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  • That's entirely too many assumptions you are making it assertions you are crediting with no evidence at all.

    Entirely too much for my comfort anyway

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  • That's an important observation then isn't it?

    Fixing things broken things. Not wanting or appreciating things just because they are new. Nerdy T-shirts.

    by assuming OP is male and that their partner is female, these things are seen in this community as undoubtedly male and the reaction undoubtedly female to those that assumed them.

    Not sure how useful that observation is but it is an observation that is interesting to consider. I think so anyway. I'm sure not everyone agrees but I'm okay with that

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  • You are literally saying just lie to them because deception and untruth is a good thing.

    They DO NOT appreciate the gift itself. The giving of A gift is different from the gift itself. And that is the important distinction here that make it a lie or not

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  • Receiving an apology when it's not real is the shortest way to make me distrust everything else you are going to say in an situation like this.

    If you don't actually feel sorry don't fucking say that shit. That's just setting yourself up for resentment and distrust.

    This is exactly how old arguments get brought up again and again.

    With something like "I always KNEW you weren't actually sorry about the time XYZ..."

    You can be honest without actively and willfully deciding to lie about the situation. It's just not the easy thing to do. But it's the right thing to do

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  • The gift is an insult to OP. It's hurtful and savage to force them to accept something that causes them pain and suffering and then force them to make them responsible for the other person's feelings.

    That's so fucked up you would blame op just because they didn't want this unsolicited gift

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  • They can go fuck themselves if they aren't going to explain that. Being autistic isn't a god damned reason for you to be insulted.

    You might be autistic and don't know it. Any of us might be.

    That person is a piece of shit for treating autism like it's a slur. And also shitting all over your clear attempt to try to understand this situation.

    I would be pissed if someone did that to me and then makes me out to be some villain because they fucked up on their gift.

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  • Why should they get to be upset about it because it's a gift, yet the item being replaced with not something similar in style but different, but a literally new version of beloved gift, is supposed to be discarded without any thought about that gift.

    Like what the hell is that logic. That gift you love and use all the time without ever mentioning a problem with is not good enough for my liking, replace it with MY version of it or you will hurt my feelings and that majes YOU a bad person for my feelings getting hurt.

    Sorry but f that logic say I'm sorry I didnt know it meant so much to you.

    They should be made to answer, in front of the mother in law, why and how the perfectly loved and valued watch needed to be replaced

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  • They were not thoughtful if they tried to replace something that has enough value to the person that they actually love it more than a new version of the same thing.

    They wanted to replace something that clearly didn't need replacing but thought it would "look" better ignoring completely a well established pattern and preference for not having new things just because they are new.

    The reaction to asking it to be returned and being hurt by it is manipulative and the entire thing is completely condescending

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  • they didn't put any good damned thought into it. Not any that wasn't completely selfish.

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  • It's also pretty shitty to be told that thing you love sucks take this version they think is better and you HAVE to like it

  • Most, if not all car companies collect and profile your data, how can I improve my privacy when buying a modern car?

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  • If they aren't already will be only a matter of time before they do this

  • Most, if not all car companies collect and profile your data, how can I improve my privacy when buying a modern car?

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  • Yes but if you start building that kind of community they will stop being janky.

    It's honestly a good place to start.

    As people learn how to do it, and discover all the landmines of doing it, that will clear the path fire the next generation of modders and custom work. This would create an opportunity for new markets.

    I mean just look at where 3d printing is today. It's great how far that enthusiast culture has grown and developed. No reason it can't continue.

    Sand things like the Slate truck that is intentionally developed for you to modify, could accelerate that exact community.

    Honestly if you can get me the funding, I'll start this community myself

  • Most, if not all car companies collect and profile your data, how can I improve my privacy when buying a modern car?

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  • Watch a lot of the car renovation shows.

    You can have an old car completely renovated for like 30k

    That's cheaper than just about any brand new car.

    And you can keep buying old cars. You just are limited in selection.

    I know one mechanic who converted an old Chevy S10 into an electric vehicle. It cost also about 30k and that was 13 years ago. He could do it easier, cheaper and better with today's parts availability.

    These are in Canadian prices

  • Jeffrey Epstein's brother stuns with response to email about Trump sex act with 'Bubba'

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  • Narc as in Narcotics

  • Is it gay to have pleasurable sex with your wife?

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  • I'm have that kind of gay sex with his wife if she's up for it. I hope the gays cheer me on when we do it too

  • Pope returns 62 artifacts to Indigenous peoples from Canada as part of reckoning with colonial past

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  • Canada let religion run schools in reservations where first Nations people were allowed to live.

    many native peoples died in those schools and also had the entire culture suppressed and error what from them. When they didn't learn good enough, many people died.

    Religion is and always will be evil say it's best and brightest

  • Do you use a dishwasher or wash dishes by hand?

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  • By hand. I cannot manage to load a dishwasher without being worried about everything in the top rack breaking.

    And I hate having to dry them because there is no reasonable way to load cups and bowls without it pooling on the bottom.

    Drives me insane