I've voted against conservatives in every election for 25 years and not once had the person I voted for won.
I'm WELL aware but feel absolutely powerless to do anything about it and since I'm not a god damned millionaire or even own my own business, no one gives a flying fuck about my opinions. And it's always the conservative party that wins.
I don't think you can know when it will be useful, but you could need it 25 years after you leave school suddenly. Better to have the best foundation possible. So if there is a way, a method, that can teach the highest math to the youngest group then that's the one I support, but I don't know what that is myself I'll admit
It's not just any person giving a gift or the giving of a random gift. This is specific to this particular gift, in this particular scenario, to this particular person who explained thoroughly why this was not a good gift to give at all. I'm giving OP benefit if the doubt that their recommendation was doing and should have been understood by their spouse without judgment. As presented, it could easily be misrepresented, but I'm taking it as is for objectivity
A hyperbole (pronounced “hy-per-buh-lee”) is a literary device that uses extreme exaggeration to create strong emphasis
I'm fine, perhaps I went a little too overboard, but it was intending hyperbole to make clear the point I was arguing from, which was that the spouse hurt OP and is being made it as a villain for it
Perhaps I misunderstood this literary device or how to use it, but now you know what I was attempting, I'll consider an edit if you want to play Editor for a minute
Do you care about the person that gave the gift? Do you trust and believe that they love you and got the gift in good faith, trying to do well even if it was flawed? Then express gratitude for the intention, even if you don't want the gift. "Sorry, I'm happy with the one I have and don't want to replace it."
Yes that's why there is a problem with the reaction wanting to return the gift. Maybe we didn't understand the same thing.
The giver was hurt because the reciever expressed that they didn't want the gift so they should return it because it won't get used.
"Sorry, I'm happy with the one I have and don't want to replace it."
There is no indication that how you phrased this isn't exactly what op did. Unlikely, but we don't know any more than after expressing they don't want a new version that they suggested it be returned. To me that says I'm sorry but this was a waste and I don't want your effort to be wasted.
If this was an acquaintance and not their partner I could see it differently, maybe. I'm trying not to make assumptions about anything here and using the post on its own merit. So as far as I'm concerned OP didn't do anything wrong and is confused by the hurt reaction. Coming here to try and get an outside perspective is an attempt to get a less biased perspective on the situation which is evidence that OP actually cares a great deal about why this is a problem and is literally asking us to help understand.
A lot of the comments have made wild assumptions about OP "scolding" their spouse when that's not information we know and it is being assumed.
I responded to your comment correctly. You said to apologize even if they didn't blow their lid as an olive branch.
What exactly is the apology worth if you don't actually believe you did anything wrong? That's manipulative. You are giving a false impression of contrition.
And people pick up on disingenuous behavior often enough that you shouldn't do it.
I'm not the best at explaining myself, especially in text only, so I'm sorry if I'm not being clear, I don't know how else to explain the dishonesty it makes me feel thinking about that it.
It's like a corporation making a public apology. If you don't actually feel bad then it's an empty gesture with only an ulterior motives behind it. That rubs me entirely the wrong way.
In not claiming to be the world's best communicator or even a member of that League, but it's clear as day to me how much of a problem lieing is because people refuse to see it as a problem
... No that's not how it works if you don't want it to.
He said he paid about 120 dollars extra for some specific type of coverage due to the custom nature of the work on his insurance and when it did get into a collision, he got more than it cost him to repair it.
He did that project as a curiosity and used it as a shop vehicle, and it got a lot of use iirc
The only information started was (I wanted to return it)
Why are you claiming the partner was being scolded? We don't know that happened
The last weekend almost the entire post expressing how confusing the gift was because of how obvious it is to them that the spouse had enough information to know they wouldn't appreciate the gift.
I'll accept that there is a lot we dont know so I'm only responding to what was presented in the post and attempting to accept it as is.
Please, I'll actually listen, where did you get any impression of how the partner was scolded by op.
I've voted against conservatives in every election for 25 years and not once had the person I voted for won.
I'm WELL aware but feel absolutely powerless to do anything about it and since I'm not a god damned millionaire or even own my own business, no one gives a flying fuck about my opinions. And it's always the conservative party that wins.