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Cake day: June 5th, 2023

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  • As someone with dark hair and quite pale skin, I was basically a perfect case for it. At 7 sessions so far, the number of hairs that still grow on my face are countable - 43 of them by my count - I still do have to shave but it takes like 30 seconds because they’re all focused on my upper lip and one particularly stubborn spot on my chin. The important part is that when I shave, I have no beard shadow at all now. I may not 100% pass yet without makeup but it makes makeup way easier to not have to also collor-correct for beard shadow.

    Others have answered with more detail but yeah, it also does take testosterone suppression or you’ll have to go back every so often to address any new/rejuvenated hairs. A cis guy friend of mine has to go just about every year.










  • My wife is enby (genderqueer she/they) and had actually explored her gender for a few years before I did (though I didn’t know it was quite so far, I thought they were just trying out a new style), so my situation won’t mirror yours exactly or be super relatable. I first started questioning my gender in mid 2024. For the 3 years prior, I had been just saying I’m “gender non-conforming” and would wear stuff like skirts around the house and little decorations and clips and stuff in my hair. I basically just brought it up as “I’ve been questioning my gender.”

    They said they knew for sure as soon as I started talking about questioning since I didn’t immediately have a solid answer. “I couldn’t be trans, right? Nah. I’m just a guy who likes feminine things… Right?” Apparently isn’t something cis men generally ask themselves.

    So… She decided not to break the egg prime directive, and some two months later after getting sick of hearing me hem and haw about it, asked me if I wanted to try some things out. “How would you feel if I said you’re my wife?” … And my heart skipped a beat. Breath caught. I may have cried a little. They pulled me into their arms and have been my biggest supporter ever since.

    I share that because I know I’m in a unique situation of being so very supported - but I know seeing hopeful and good stories can help others so I wanted to share.