Foreigner

This seems to imply that death is the only way we'll ever escape that pile of clean laundry you have yet to put away.

Congrats on coming out and being your true self, that was a very brave thing to do.

Your mother, like many parents, had hopes and dreams about who you would become as a person. She's now being faced with the prospect that those hopes and dreams are dead, that the person she thought you would become is gone. She's going to need to grieve and from what you've written here it seems that process has started. Shock, denial, bargaining, some level of acceptance. I expect anger and depression might show up at some point. It doesn't necessarily happen in sequence and can cycle too. She's going to need some time to process, but what's positive is she's not outright rejecting who you are, there's room for her to grow.

My parents weren't hostile when I came out as gay, but I heard similar things - it's just a phase. Are you sure? Was it something we did? Where did we go wrong? What will your life become? Over time they came to accept it and told my extended family (including my very religious Pentecostal grandmother). Everyone is now very welcoming of my wife and my parents are delighted to be grandparents to our kids. I know it's not the same, but there is hope for things to get better, just keep being authentically you.

I refuse to get a phone without a headphone jack. Mostly because I know I'm inevitably going to lose my headphones, forget to charge them, forget them in my trouser pockets that will go in the wash. The latter has happened at least a couple of times with my current headphones and they still work just fine. Try that with your Bluetooth pair and let me know how it goes.

Is it him tweeting or someone posing as him?

This bittern erasure will not stand! Not only are they also mostly neck:

They're also fucking hilarious:

It's not about money, it's about power and control.

This is not terribly unusual for a municipal referendum vote on Paris. The SUV vote had just under 6% turnout, the electric scooter vote had about 7.5%.

I've saved a few recipes over time, here are my favourites:

For legs/drumsticks: https://natashaskitchen.com/baked-chicken-legs-with-garlic-and-dijon/

If I don't have time to marinade overnight: https://www.modernhoney.com/the-best-chicken-marinade-recipe/

Easy crowd pleaser: https://www.onceuponachef.com/recipes/perfectly-grilled-chicken-breasts.html

If you have tahini lying around: https://www.thechunkychef.com/tahini-marinated-chicken-buddha-bowl/

Fajitas: https://www.onceuponachef.com/recipes/chicken-fajitas.html

I have a couple of tips to improve on pretty much any marinade recipe:

Lemon/lime juice: Omit if you're marinating for more than 1h and replace instead with zest. The acid will cook the meat and the exterior will be drier.
Brine: I usually wet brine before in a water+ salt mixture (1 Tbsp kosher salt/1 cup water, NOT table salt) for 1h for chicken breast, 2h for thighs/legs, then marinade. If you do this, don't add salt to your marinade. Do not do this if your marinade recipe calls for soy sauce or anything equally salty.

Also if you want to try fried chicken without deep frying I suggest brining some skin on thighs/legs then trying the following recipe: https://www.thespruceeats.com/southern-oven-fried-chicken-3058647

It's not exactly healthier but it is pretty tasty. It's even better of you can use ghee instead of butter but that might be harder to get your hands on.

I think the fundamental difference between that experiment and the "suicide capsules" vs the death penalty is that in the *former the people going into it are doing so willingly. I imagine people undergoing the same procedure involuntarily will probably resist, hold their breath, panic, do whatever they can to sabotage the process, etc. The reason this method is rarely used to euthanise pets is precisely because of this - the animals get stressed (as many often do at the vet where they need to be for the procedure) panic, react, and it takes way longer than it should as a result.

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If you're in France there's the Carte Bancaire.

Edit: I've just looked into Revolut and they're UK based with operations throughout Europe, so they might be an alternative for online payments across borders.

Relevant Simpsons episode: https://youtu.be/DX08tDXPnz0

You can't tell us this story and not tell us how it ends!

I don't know about the physics part, but the picture is taken from this video:

https://youtube.com/shorts/9IZ410VrikQ

I highly recommend this channel, they have a bunch of funny videos with animal facts.

I think I might be able to answer this one from my perspective. I was born in a Portuguese speaking country, so on paper my mother tongue should be Portuguese (which it sort of still is). But we moved when I was a kid and I lived in multiple countries, so I went to international schools for most of my life. English then became my mother tongue over time and it is dominant over Portuguese. I now work in an organisation where English is the main working language, but I live in France, so I acquired a third language, just not quite at native level. Here are some of the interesting things I've observed:

I have slightly different "personalities" in different languages. This may be a reflection of exposure to different cultures and times of my life I learned these languages, but also very much a confidence thing. I am funnier and at ease making jokes in English than the other two languages.
Some words I only learned in one language because of timing and circumstance. There are technical terms I know only in English because of my work. There are motorcycle parts I only know the name of in French because I bought my first bike here. I birdwatch, and for some birds' names I default to English, while others I use their French name.
Because of moving around I was exposed to a lot of different cultures, which is awesome, but that means I have cultural weak ties to my countries of origin (I'm also mixed race). If anything the one cultural constant in my life has been anglophone media (especially American) which had a mot of influence. I identify more with Anglo-Saxon culture but also feel vaguely European. I even sound generically American, which throws some people off when they learn I never lived in the US nor Canada.
Knowing multiple languages fluently can obviously make it easier in some ways and make things more accessible. It also made me very adaptable. When I arrived in France I narely knew the language. Once I gained fluency, everything became much easier (well, as easy as this country can be).
One disadvantage is that in some ways I am always the "other" (though not just because of language). Everywhere I go I feel like a foreigner, hence the username. I speak English to my kids, and that makes me stand out and people treat me as if I'm some sort of exotic being. It's gotten better now they're in a more international school.
It's harder to find people who "get it" because they lived through the same experiences.
At work I sometimes have meetings with Portuguese speaking people but I'm uncomfortable speaking Portuguese in a work setting because I miss many of the terms. So I often default to English which confuses people because I'm from a lusophone country and I speak fluently.

There are some messier issues around identity that I won't get into because those aren't limited just to language, but the above are things that have stood out to me over the years.

Ah man I'm so sorry about your owl friends :( you're right though, it really is a great lesson in taking things as they are and living in the present. I wish you more happy owl encounters in the near future!

Yeah I count myself very lucky someone shared the location with me. There is another well documented sedentary Tawny with photos going back to 2010. Sadly when I went back last week it wasn't there, and another photographer passing through told me it hadn't been seen for almost a year. Last time I saw it was March or April last year, so I fear it may have passed away. I'm hoping that's not the case, and if it's still around and I can get some shots I'll share them here.

I'm also on the lookout for Long Eared Owls but those are going to be much more challenging to find.

So I went digging around for some of the older photos I've seen of the same spot and they seem to date from 2012-2015. I can't tell if it's the same individual but maybe someone with a more discerning eye will fare better?

Here's another photo I took the week prior on a cloudy day:

In any case, the spot is next to a path that gets quite a bit of foot traffic (joggers, people walking dogs, people strolling with kids) so it's not exactly quiet, but it doesn't seem to be bothered.

spent the day alternating between dozing and glaring at everyone.

Life goals, honestly

Except XX male syndrome is a thing, where externally individuals present male but have female karyotype. So are those people female despite having functional male genitalia? And that's only one of a myriad of situations where an individual's chromosomes don't reflect what their phenotype is like nor their biological reproductive function. Chromosomes are NOT an infallible indicator of biological sex.

Also the text of the law says nothing about chromosomes. It indicates from conception the cells that produce the large gamete are considered female, and cells that produce the small gamete are considered male. No one is producing gametes at conception. It also completely disregards anyone who produces no gametes at all. At best this law has declared everyone to have no biological sex whatsoever.

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Cringe indeed

Had my coming out to my mother

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What your inexpensive and delicious chicken marinade recipes?

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those who consider themselves to speak multiple native languages, how does it impact your culture? what are some advantages/disadvantages you faced?

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