Orientation: Aromantic Asexual (AroAce)
Identity + Gender Modality: Agender + Isogender (Please note I don't identify as cis or Trans)
Pronouns: Use any, Idc, mostly doesn't really matter to me (just not it/its).
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You think gatekeeping people's identities and telling them they aren't valid is okay? I can't think of one circumstance where this shit is okay. This just seems like average gatekeeping transmed apologia. It's not your place to tell others they aren't valid.Your apologia isn't accepted here, and isn't going to be, the removal of your other comments proves that.
I certainly do, and so did many other people on r/Agender that I talked to. Isogender and Absgender seemed mild popular among people there, as well as Centrgender, at least at the time of asking. I haven't been on Reddit in a while and it's possible those people have moved on as well.
I didn't like that video honestly, wasn't one of lily's best moments in my opinion. Really just came across as trying to gatekeep identities and argue against people having more individualized identities, I've seen people using the same arguments about xenogenders and nonbinary people before.
Many of the arguments are also appeals to popularity, trying to dismiss their validity because they're less popular or claiming they aren't valid because "the only people talking about this are young kids on Tumblr" same bullshit arguments used against nonbinary identities in the earlier days.
If I'd included identities in addition to gender modalities I probably would have.
I only included gender modalities, I thought about including gender identities too but decided not too since the page was getting full and I knew people would just argue that those are trans and redundant. Maybe if I remake this I'll add them though, along with Genderqueer, Non-Binary, Genderfluid, and many of the other common and less common ones.
Thanks, yeah I realized after I made the info-graphic and uploaded it and was transcribing that I accidentally made a stupid typo. I'd already closed the project though, to fix it I'd have to remake it largely from scratch.
I have not doubt that a lot of people might be doing it, but that doesn't make it not gatekeeping. There's a lot of people who believe in transcendentalism but that doesn't make it okay or acceptable, and certainly doesn't make it not gatekeeping.
Please understand, a lot of people share sentiment like this and they act like they have the best interest for the community, but they are gatekeeping assholes who believe dumb things about not being valid as trans if you don't have gender dysphoria, or not being valid as an asexual if you feel attracted towards one person and one person only. This type of mentality hurts the community and turns us against each other, which is why it's frowned upon, and why I and others aren't as willing to give the benefit of the doubt when it comes to stuff like this.
Please explain what it is you mean by that, because it sounds to me that you believe that the asexual label and identity should be gate-kept and that you also believe the same thing should be done in trans spaces.
This isn't a good thing to want and encourage in the community, and your statement "but don’t you dare say this cis person isn’t also trans." comes off as Transmedicalist and invalidating, who are you to decide if a person isn't actually trans and is a cis person, or that labels like Isogender are invalid. That shit isn't up to you.
TL;DR your comment comes across as transmedicalist and incredibly aphobic.
From what it sounds like, they seem to be talking about how people are able to identify as asexual or ace spectrum despite having libido or some sexual attraction.
In other words they are gatekeeping and opposed to the idea of ace-spec, the idea that asexuality is a spectrum. And it seems like they might feel the same way about gender too.
Yeah some are a little redundant, maybe because some are meant to be umbrella terms and others are meant to be more precise. Also because they were coined at different times and in different places, like how we have non-binary and genderqueer.
Is that actually true? I mean maybe I'm wrong about this, since I wasn't there but I've heard usenet was a thing even before limewire.
So basically what qbittorrent with a search engine plugin was but before they had search engine plugins and qbittorrent?
I feel like it was a similar experience in the earlier days of torrenting. Nowadays it still happens but only from less reputable torrents. Though also it's been years since I ever torrented music. These days almost everything is online for download or can be downloaded or captured from a streaming service.
Oh so it wasn't really torrenting, just similar.
I was but I was only a little kid and didn't know about torrenting yet. Not even sure if my household had internet at the time.
I only ever used uTorrent back when I started torrenting and years later I moved on to qbittorrent, which I still use today.
I never used LimeWire I'm not old enough for that, what is it that people remember so fondly about it anyway? Was there something that made it special or is it just another torrent client?
When trying to learn more you have to approach certain subjects with a lot of care. Something which you probably haven't been doing or doing very well if you've been accused of being a transphobe a lot. I'm not saying there aren't awful people who throw those accusations around, I've certainly met a few, but the majority are not like that, so if you have been called a transphobe a lot you've probably not been approaching the subject with care and sensitivity.
Also almost if not all allies are cisgender, that's what an ally is it's someone who isn't part of the group who is advocating for the rights and safety of the group. Honestly saying that cis people won't be allies is nonsense.
This comment is honestly extremely disrespectful.
Probably for the mosquitos flying around under the table.
Your argument is reminiscent of the trans people who claim that non-op trans women being proud of who they are is invalidating to them because they have genital dysphoria. That they believe non-ops are hurting the community.
Demisexual people and graysexual people are not hurting the Ace community. I can understand your feelings as a more sex-repulsed person myself but that's not a valid excuse to invalidate their experiences or say they are hurting the community. That stance is extremely bigoted, and goes against everything we value as a community.