I’m an amnesiac and one of the first things I learned is that memories don’t really matter. The past is over, what matters is what you choose to do and not what you did. Obviously people do terrible and sometimes unforgivable things. I can sympathize with people who can’t let stuff go, but I personally just can’t be bothered by it anymore though. I have and will offer support to even my abusers.
To me, a person is how they act and what they want in the present. Lived experience affects everything a person does, the parts of a person’s past that are relevant reveal themselves in the present through how a person is.
Late 20s. I get hangovers now, but a bunch of water in the morning clears it up pretty quick. Soreness takes extra stretches and massaging to get rid of. I haven’t been sick in years. Injuries take about the same time, but hurt a bit more.
I love Magic Pengel and Graffiti Kingdom. First is a turn-based JRPG, second is an action platformer. Both share the same gimmick where you collect materials to make the characters you play with the clunky in-game 3D modeler.
If it’s only 5/10, I probably wouldn’t watch it. Maybe I’d do a few seconds to a minute. My friends pass around mid meme videos all the time and I barely watch any. If i’m not sober however, then probably like 5 mins.
If you really feel this way, I would strongly recommend limiting your time spent on the internet. Your time should be valuable to you. If you’re not happy with what you spend your time on, then do something else.
I personally couldn’t care less if the people I respond to are real. I only reply if I feel like I have something useful to contribute and it will still be useful to others even if I’m replying to a bot. If something makes me mad or hopeless or whatever, I just move on.
I don’t think we’re heading towards a monoculture. Actually much like Cyberpunk, you’ll find the most striking pockets of unique cultures in small spaces relevant to whatever group is there. Go to a skatepark and you’ll think the people there are talking another language. Go to a concert or rave and you’ll see all kinds of different subcultures and fashion styles depending on what kind of music is playing. Even here on Lemmy you see different cliques and subcultures. There are astrology conferences and Beyblade tournaments and everything in between. Theres also always little pockets of ethnic groups, foreign to where they are, all over the world. I love finding different groups and the things they orbit around and the lingo they develop and the ideas and values they have. They’re not as easy to find as they are in a video game, but they’re out there and it’s a much more rich experience to get to know those people than in a video game.
I can’t describe it well because I’m not an anthropologist, but the changes in the larger zeitgeist over the years I’ve been around seems to be pretty normal too. I don’t think there’ll ever be some kind of monoculture, just that what makes groups different will naturally change over time.
I don’t think I gained any wisdom, I just lost all my anger and hatred. Really I lost everything that mattered to me in an abstract way. Ever since, I’ve been completely nihilistic. I’ve spent my life since searching for what matters to me and I think my empathy comes from the fact that the first thing I clung onto was never causing others pain like I felt.
I have pretty severe amnesia, so I don’t know who I was too well. I know I was kinda obsessed with strength. I did lots of martial arts, got into fights all the time, I was super competitive, and I was generally aggressive and mean. Afterword, I can best describe it as losing my inner fire. I hate to sound egotistical, but now I’m about as nice as I possibly could be and kinda detest the behavior that used to define me.
A good example was that I used to be known amongst my friends for being kinda mean. I would regularly get violent with them and would berate and mock them at every opportunity. After I hit my head, I couldn’t possibly bring myself to do that anymore. Within a few months of my recovery, I lost all my friends because it made them uncomfortable. I forgave everything immediately and was practically infinitely patient and understanding. I haven’t hurt anyone since.
My interests also changed entirely. I stopped sports and martial arts and joined theatre and became interested in art and human expression. I was previously pretty self absorbed focussed almost entirely on self-improvement and I’ve since become endlessly curious about other people in just about every way.
From the article, I particularly identify with the sudden onset of inhibition. I went from straight to pan and I’m now notoriously easy. I’ve done every drug I can get my hands on and if I’m offered something, I do it without hesitation. I’ve had to work through a few addictions as a result. Even still, I generally just don’t fear any consequences of my actions if things can only go poorly for me. I’m actually irresistibly drawn to things that make me nervous or afraid now too.
There’s lot more to it too, but I think this kinda makes the point. To me, the person I was died that day. I’m now a different person who started life at 16. The things I no longer have and childhood I lack sometimes makes me feel broken and less than a whole person, but I’m kinda used it. There’s nothing I can do about it now.
Huh. I had a personality changing head injury when I was young. I never thought to look into any research on it though. I don’t know how to feel about this.
It helps to have someone to talk to. If I keep telling my friend “Man, I gotta go to the eye dr and get new glasses.” eventually I get embarrassed about saying it so much that I actually do it instead of telling them.
A lot of ADHD symptoms are common in neurotypical people too. The main difference I’ve been told is the frequency of occurrence and impact on quality of life.
A neurotypical person may have this same thing occur, maybe even frequently, but it’s not a constant factor in every facet of their life that causes them problems and eventual distress.
In those situations, I repeat it back to them and ask if I got it right. In my experience, people with accents tend to be amused when people earnestly struggle to pronounce their names.
If you’re in the US, you should get the number for your post office and ask about doing a parcel intercept. I believe you’ll need ID that puts you at the address like a license.
I’m an amnesiac and one of the first things I learned is that memories don’t really matter. The past is over, what matters is what you choose to do and not what you did. Obviously people do terrible and sometimes unforgivable things. I can sympathize with people who can’t let stuff go, but I personally just can’t be bothered by it anymore though. I have and will offer support to even my abusers.
To me, a person is how they act and what they want in the present. Lived experience affects everything a person does, the parts of a person’s past that are relevant reveal themselves in the present through how a person is.