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EldritchFemininity

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  • YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

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  • The easiest solution IMO is to download Firefox for your phone and use that instead of the YouTube app. I don't watch a lot on my phone, but that's what I did. Just install the Ublock extension like you would on a desktop and you're all set. Then you can also use that instead of Chrome and free of ads on the web at large as well.

    The one unfortunate thing is that you can't uninstall the YouTube app, only disable it, and every time you go to the site it will ask you if you want to open the app instead.

  • Helpful guide

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  • To add to Wolf's really well thought out and written post, as kids a ringing phone was something you were expected to answer. Voice mail and caller ID were common by 2000 to the point of being essentially everywhere, but not everybody had it before then and that meant that if the phone rang, you HAD to pick it up. The only way to avoid it was to not be home.

    Then when cell phones happened, as Wolf already said, Millennials had them so parents could keep track of you even when you weren't at home and calls were pricey enough that they were really for emergencies only, not for talking with friends, so they were just another leash for helicopter parents to control their kids with, like putting gps trackers on kids' cars nowadays. They weren't even smart phones at that point, so all they could really do was call or text.

    And then jobs started expecting you to be available in your off time. You know the meme about Americans being available out of the office by cell phone during surgery? That exists because there was a period where bosses everywhere expected to be able to call you at all hours of the day to check your email or answer questions and work unpaid. It's gotten better now to some degree, but it's still definitely a cultural thing. I've heard plenty of people complaining about getting a call from their boss asking them to come in on their day off.

    There was a short period of time where phones were cool and people did stuff like make custom ringtones, but I've had enough spam calls wake me up at 4am, people calling and "ruining the mood" with a gf or whatever, and even getting called by a parent who threatened to call 911 on me because I didn't respond to their text within 10 minutes that a ringing phone does nothing but piss me off now. I've heard that Gen Z/Alpha just permanently leave their phones on silent, and I completely get it. The act of privacy of simply being unreachable is lost in today's world.

  • Choose wisely.

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  • Trump deportation surge left Texas with shortage of home builders. Now Republican wants completely new visa to fix that

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  • One can only hope. I'm sure some people will happily sign up thinking that the leopards won't eat their faces.

  • Trump deportation surge left Texas with shortage of home builders. Now Republican wants completely new visa to fix that

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  • Funny, I remember Florida running into a similar issue a few years ago when DeSantis passed that law making it illegal for migrant workers/immigrants to drive or for US citizens to drive them.

    Houses left to rot as workers fled the state and supply chains disrupted as freight trucks refused to enter the state and simply dumped their loads at the border.

    I never did hear how that worked out for them, but I imagine they quietly walked back that law and pretended that it never happened.

  • gender rule

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  • ... That would be sex. Chromosomes are used to identify the sex of an animal. Male and female describe two possible variations of sexes. It's how we know that there's a species of lizard that are all genetically identical females - clones, if you will. Or how we've identified something like 417 different sexes in one mold species based on different chromosome combinations. We don't phenotype babies at birth, usually.

    Gender is a societal/cultural concept that has meant many things (sometimes even competing ideas) over the centuries. Historically, they're connected to secondary sex characteristics in humans, but not always. One of the oldest known gods had a priesthood made up exclusively of trans women, for example. Old versions of the Torah use a pronoun specifically for trans men that recognizes them as men trapped in the bodies of women. Many cultures throughout history had 3 or more recognized genders before their culture was supplanted by the fairly recent Christian concept of the gender binary. And even that is hypocritical, as God is nonbinary and says in the Bible that nonbinary people are His favorite as they are the most like to Him.

  • What's Behind the Rise in Colon Cancer in Young Guys?

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  • My bet's on Long COVID. It's been connected to so many other random medical issues popping up (including diabetes, low sperm counts, and early onset Alzheimers IIRC) that it may as well be connected to ass cancer as well.

  • YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

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  • I've never used it myself, I use UBO as well, but I've heard about it before and brought it up because it sounds like it does what the OP was talking about but for ads instead of social media.

  • YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

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  • That's the one, thanks.

  • YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

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  • You guys are watching ads?

  • YSK you can poison your personal data to fight against surveillance capitalism.

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  • Sounds like that alternative to Ublock that I can't think of the name of right now that not only blocks ads but also gives a click-through input to every single one, poisoning any ad metrics for the ads as well as any targeted ad profiling on you.

  • Boris

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  • A plastic shell could be even worse, too. Using plastic and glass for shrapnel (I think ceramic as well?) is considered a war crime because they don't show up on x-rays, which makes it very hard to find - practically impossible in the case of small glass shards.

  • the two wolves inside me

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  • Ironically, I think we're starting to hit the point of recreating the substance of the meme.

    To me, gender is all performative anyway, so you might as well take the parts that make you feel comfortable/happy and ignore all the rest. What is or isn't considered "gendered" - especially in the binary - changes almost as often as fashion. What we might consider a very traditionally femme presentation and mannerisms might be considered radical in 10 or 20 years time. In the 80s, fashion in the Middle East looked just like America, and long before that it was culturally considered attractive for women to have a bit of facial hair on the upper lip. Today, we have radical Islam that has set a cultural standard that is on the level of Puritanism. In the 2000s, men created a new term - metrosexual - to describe straight men who like to dress nicely and take a shower because they were afraid of being mistaken for being gay. It's all so silly.

    Expression of the self and your own free will is the most divine act humanity can perform, and labels are to be used to aid in that expression. I see no difference between somebody using a nonbinary gender label for themselves because it makes them feel happy than a trans woman who won't/can't transition. People are their own wholly unique beings and any label we make won't fit the same from one person to the next. Also, we should make more genders just for the simple reason that it pisses off the transphobes. That's always a win in my book.

  • the two wolves inside me

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  • Honestly, the answer is still yes. I don't consider there to be some prerequisite quota of defying gender norms that you need to accomplish before you can identify as nonbinary. "You must be this gender queer to use this pronoun" seems as stupid to me as "you can't be trans unless you have an official gender dysphoria diagnosis."

    I wouldn't consider a femboy or a he/him lesbian to be nonbinary, but I would consider somebody who looks like a femboy or a femme woman to be nonbinary if they identify as nonbinary. How somebody dresses or acts is not indicative of their gender identity. Otherwise we're just recreating the patriarchal gender binary again with new categories.

  • the two wolves inside me

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  • So, to be clear, you're saying that someone who is happy to present as their gender assigned at birth, behave like their gender assigned at birth, who doesn't feel dysphoria, and is socialised as their gender assigned at birth can be non-binary?

    Where are you getting all this info from? From the perspective of the comic, ignoring that it's a meme comic, there's no way to tell what gender either character was assigned at birth, let alone any of the other details. Either one could've been AMAB, and the second one is at least a former cutter based on the scars (the shoulder is a popular location because it doesn't show when you wear a t-shirt). Was that from dysphoria? Who knows, they didn't tell us. Edit: just went back and realized those are folds in the sleeve of their shirt, not scars. This image needs more pixels.

    From a broader perspective: ...yes? To be considered a certain gender you only need to identify as that gender. There are no other requirements. You don't need to act a certain way, look a certain way, or even have dysphoria. Is a trans woman who's in the closet not a woman? If they identify as a woman, they're a woman. If they identify as nonbinary, then they're nonbinary.

    The dysphoria one is also a big one for me, so I'm gonna talk about it specifically just in case it helps someone who happens to read this: you don't need to have dysphoria in order to be trans. You don't. If you're happy as your AGAB but feel like you'd be happier as another gender, then go ahead and transition. Or don't. Or only go as far as makes you happy. Because at the end of the day, it's about being comfortable in your own skin.

    So many trans people think "well, I didn't have dysphoria as a kid so I can't be trans" or some variation of that thought, only to transition and either find out that, yes, they did experience dysphoria and just couldn't tell because it was their normal everyday experience, or experience the more important gender euphoria after they transition.

  • CERTIFIED AMERICAN FRE@K

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  • It's a word, with a specific meaning. It was created to describe the sexist act of a man explaining something to a woman who either already knows, or is an expert in that field, as if she isn't smart enough to understand the subject. And frequently when a man is confidently wrong on the subject in question.

    Without that sexist connotation, it's not "mansplaining." It's just being condescending. Like you.

  • My therapist says she might have to report my abusive family to the authorities. How do I avoid being reported so the cops don't show up and make everything worse?

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  • Since you have the help of a therapist, you should use them as a resource to help formulate any plans and put them into motion. Therapists aren't just there to talk to, they're good for sound boarding ideas like this off of because they have access to resources that other people might not necessarily have. A therapist's word or signature can get you access to medical care or services that would otherwise be more difficult to get, and they know the ins and outs of systems like social security or aid programs. Their job is to help you, and by telling them straight up that you need help getting a plan together to get out of your living situation they can focus on that.

    In the short term, I would recommend putting together a "bug out" bag that you can stash somewhere safe in case you need to leave quickly. Ideally, you should have copies of important documents such as social security cards and stuff that you might not be able to go back for later, but it should at least be just enough stuff to get you by for a couple of days if you need to drop everything and leave. Stuff like a change of clothes, a water bottle, and some cash.

  • CERTIFIED AMERICAN FRE@K

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  • Did you just assume their gender over a comment explaining the details of an attempted smear campaign that many people have probably forgotten about?

    So much for the tolerant left.

  • been both sides of that counter

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  • I really think the argument that "people who go into stores are the reason the store is open" is kind of dumb.

    The reason the store is open is because the owners want to make more money, and they think they can do that by staying open.

    Okay, hear me out. I know this sounds crazy, but if the owner wants to make money, they do so when people come into the store and purchase things.

    So if people didn't come into the store, then they wouldn't purchase things, right?

    So if there's nobody purchasing things, the store isn't making money. Which means that if there's a reason that people aren't coming into the store and spending money, the owners of the stores will possibly try to avoid wasting money by being open. Not instantly, of course, but over time - say, the course of a year - a pattern showing a lack of customers because of a specific cause will make a business reconsider their policy if it impacts their bottom line.

    I grew up in a tourist town, and outside of 3 months of the year 50% of businesses were closed. And probably 25% reduced the hours that they're open. Because no tourists meant fewer customers and who cares about the locals. It was cheaper to close and for the owners to go to their second houses in Florida for the winter than stay open all year. But I knew of 1 restaurant that expected the entire staff to be there regardless of the weather - rain, snow, or shine. One time the owner was going to let his staff go home because of a blizzard so bad that the state declared a state of emergency and was closing down the roads, and some guy came in for dinner. And this was in New England, so we're talking snow accumulation measured in inches per hour and whiteout conditions - not some southern state where an inch of snow grinds everything to a halt. The entire staff had to risk being snowed in at work and unable to get home until the state got the snow cleared because 1 guy decided to go out in a once in a decade winter storm.

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