Manhood, throbbing, pgs 1-320

(This is what I imagine indexes would look like in your trashier historical romance novels)

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I do too, now.

What bugs me is now whenever the term trucker is used, especially by Canadian news outlets, I pull in all of these associations that don’t necessarily have any bearing on or relation to the facts at hand. And (the part where I might just be losing my mind/being paranoid) it sort of feels deliberate.

I recently encountered someone that really seemed like they were prodding for how easily I could be influenced to agree with or engage in some really wacky shit. It was a very similar feeling to when I see these terms. And I’m just trying to figure out when and if that feeling, when it pops up in a media context or just irl talking with your craftier brand of crazies, is justified or just paranoia.

Sorry - doesn’t really have that much to do with the article, the word in this context just triggered that same feeling. And this whole “how to tell when you’re being influenced and what to watch for, while not succumbing to paranoia or just taking comfort in your personal biases” thing has been something rolling around in my brain the past couple of weeks.

I also know that I’m part of a demographic (at the moment) that has some pretty wacky stuff targeted at them online (lot of manosphere stuff, for example, finds great targets in recently separated/divorced dudes in algorithmic media formats), which lends more personal interest to the topic. Idk, might just need to touch grass more.

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Wasting time on the internet

looks at long list, reflexively scrolls to the last point

Well, I’m sold.

As a young teen, I arranged irl meets with people from band guestbooks and friends-of-friends-of-friends from MSN pretty frequently.

Dumb, looking back, but all turned out to be who they said they were and good times were had. Would be super concerned if my kid did the same and he’s literally an adult now, so idk.

Yet you still can’t smoke a THC rich joint legally (yet, unless you’re participating in the pilot), and women didn’t have full voting rights until the 90s.

Not judging, just thought (as an outsider) this was an odd contrast when most of what I knew about Switzerland until recently was how permissive they were about piracy. Beautiful and interesting place, would love to visit again but it’s so f’ing expensive.

I convert from singing to whistling, then back to singing once strangers are out of earshot.

Don’t mind the copy-paste at all, and I happen to (more or less) agree with the statement as is.

My counterpoint is despite these pressures, it is something you do not have to accept for yourself, but not at the expense of violating the trust of someone you promised you’d be monogamous with. You can be poly, you can swing, you can have mistresses/whatever the masculine equivalent word is, whatever. But you have to be honest in your romantic/sexual dealings, so people can make choices that are appropriate for them with a full understanding. And if you are in a relationship where you can’t be honest, then IMO you need to get out. Nothing good will come from staying, and much worse can come from cheating.

I will admit, however, that I have not been in a abusive relationship in the strictest sense of the term (what’s a little financial abuse and gaslighting between friends - I’d put an emoji here but can’t find one bitter enough. I understand what you mean though), and that does inform/limit my perspective.

We may need to agree to disagree here.

Then don’t enter into relationships where that’s a rule, or negotiate alternatives 🤷‍♂️

I’m not going to say there aren’t circumstances where cheating is understandable, but it’s still a bad thing to do, even in the scenario you describe. Taking the abused and neglected cheating partner’s perspective - what happens when your partner finds out? What happens when someone else finds out and uses this information to blackmail you? Are you really going to be better off than you would’ve been making and executing an escape plan instead?

Cheating almost always outs. Everyone thinks they’re going to be the exception, but by definition few are. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, either get all people in the relationship onboard to start addressing that, or leave. If leaving is going to create problems, prepare in advance to address those problems. IMO you’ll be better off for it v. cheating.

Imagine you have a relationship where one of the rules each person is expected to follow is “Do not have sex with other people.” You both agreed to it. Then you find out the other person broke it. Trust is gone.

This would be different than someone saying “Hey, I know we agreed to this rule, but can we revisit that?” and having a grownup discussion about ENM alternatives, where someone has the opportunity to say that is a dealbreaker for them or declare boundaries that make this OK with them.

Nonmonogamy is cool if everyone is aware and onboard. Fuck cheaters. If you’re going to claim monogamy without actually being monogamous, don’t enter into a relationship on those terms and save everyone the grief/waste of time/psychological damage.

smoking my joint and sipping my beer no

[Real talk though, know your substance, use test kits, and know contraindications to avoid. Be safe y’all]

Ok, fine - Wine Lips, with Jim’s Plumbing and Electrical opening.

Both are worth searching for if you’re into garage psychy stuff from Canada!

There’s a really kickass show tonight that I’ve been excited for the last couple of weeks!

Never looked up the spelling, so I’ve been calling this ‘sauce for cowards’ for years now:

Well, I’ve found my new ringtone.

Phrases are both acceptable and appreciated!

Am English major, can confirm many of us throw grammar out of the window when posting online.

My heart sunk when reading the OP, though. “Great, more ammo for snarky remarks.”

Also some more interesting common phrase is “voi vittujen kevät ja kyrpien takatalvi”, literally translates to “spring of cunts and blackberry winter of dicks”

As a Canadian, this is the phrase I was looking for when I saw snow sticking on the ground after a nice warm period in the last couple of days. It’s perfect and I love it.