I am trying desperately to help my 13 year old understand the importance of how to recognize their worth, to only change for self betterment ( not for others), and that being in a relationship is not required, especially if they don’t actually want to be in one.
To add to this, be sure to wait for the immediate pushback. Stay calm, and understand that this will be a slow burner. Kindness and repeated contacts to the change minds more than one off aggressive arguments.
People have a difficult time changing their points of view, and some people can feel lots of psychological pain during that process.
That is a particular subset. There are people who see nothing g bad happening to themselves, but do have their eyes open and see the bad things happening around them. But, again, they are ready and primed.
It is much the same as addiction counseling: until people are primed to change, there is little to do but leave your hand out stretched, not pushing any further than that.
Man… why did you have to remind me of that horrid episode…