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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • I know someone who was in an escalator accident. The issue is that if you trip, your hair can get caught in it and if you don’t resolve it by the top it rips the hair from your scalp. Idk if modern ones have mechanisms to prevent this, but i know of a gnarly accident from the 80s or 90s. Makes me stressed every time I ride one. I almost always stand still, with one foot on the stair above and a hand on the railing to maximize stability.

    Can also happen with a loose shoelace but then you just slip your foot out of the shoe so not so bloody.



  • I try to review everything positive or negative because I rely on reviews. I’ve been banned from reviewing, and I pay for prime. Wtf. They say I’ve done suspicious activity or violated review terms, but won’t let me see previous reviews, and won’t let me appeal. Bull crap.

    The only thing I can think i did is, do you know you’re not allowed to include in the review anything about shipping or packaging? You’re only allowed to review the product itself. So if you let others know your item came broken due to poor packaging, that’s a violation of terms. I don’t even remember doing that, but it’s the only rule I can imagine myself breaking!


  • This is a crazy take. My toddler is absolutely more work than any other job I’ve ever worked and I’ve done office work, physical labor, heck even childcare! If you give two shits about your kid, and follow modern childcare standards, childcare is a very taxing job. If you’re a crappy parent who just lets the kid eat fruit snacks and watch TV maybe it’s easier than whatever job the other parent has, but my husband works blue collar and we both agree that often my job is more taxing. He absolutely picks up 50% or more of the work when he comes home, and on weekends. When he burns out he gets a break, and when I burn out I get a break. We’re actually a team.

    I want sex more than he does because I’m well taken care of, and he’s equally exhausted from helping. Literally cannot imagine saying no thanks if sex is on the table cause also, when a man is generous and equitable with his labor in life, that also spills over to how generous and equitable he is in bed.


  • The number one way (more effective than medication) to increase a woman’s libido is an extra hour of sleep. It’s truly no wonder that getting negative hours of sleep for a literal year at least kills libido.

    I’m pregnant and the insomnia is killing me. 4 or 5 hours a night, usually. And the poor sleep will only continue when the child is born. Everyone’s talking about how men need to help more with chores and all that’s true and good that you need division of labor, but even if you’re good at division, the sleep loss with children is inevitable.


  • I mean it’s obviously hyperbole, but as a pregnant woman with a toddler, I’d be absolutely livid to learn my husband was taking hours long coffee breaks while leaving the shared work of child rearing (specifically newborn care) to me alone.

    Sleep deprivation will absolutely make you a crazy person, and this dude is just using this torture tactic on her out of laziness and selfishness.






  • Literally no thoughtful or reasonable sexual partner is going to say they prefer the type of penis it’s impossible for you to have, so that data is wildly biased.

    I’m a woman and I’ve been with both. I don’t really care either way (and I feel confident most women who have actually been with both don’t really care) but my best lasting lover by far was uncut. I will not circumcise any sons I have.


  • My thought as well. Humanizing yourself makes me think about the situation you’re in to be driving door dash and the situation I’m in to be ordering it. I ran into my diaper wipes deliverer yesterday and though should I tip? For delivery from a website, something i don’t tip for. But I made contact with the driver and I was grateful for their service in delivery. I think it’s human nature to be easier to tip light if you can forget a human person was involved



  • I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.

    That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.

    Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.



  • It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.