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ChexMax

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  • Oddly specific

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  • Yeah, I do think women women on average put more effort into being physically attractive to men (certainly more time on average). I'm sure it's controversial to say but on a basic 1-10 scale my gay friends rank higher on average than do my straight buddies, and I think that's about effort, not nature.

    I think hair, makeup,and clothes can change your base rank a lot but average women take advantage of this way more than average men while celebrity men and women both take full advantage so the 10 ranking is set just as high for both genders, but higher rankings are more attainable for "regular" women.

    So maybe women aren't so much pickier as it is that neither gender exists as a perfect bell curve in our natural state compared to 10s and a lot of women's beauty is "unnatural" raising our ratings.

    My husband and I are both pretty low key on attractiveness effort normally but the difference between me on an average Saturday and me attending a wedding is way bigger than his difference.

  • Film Students Are Having Trouble Sitting Through Movies, Professors Say

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  • Bambi and snow white both have pretty long opening credits with beautiful music. I think of it as endurance training for my child it's so long and boring.

  • Latest Epstein Files Include Wild Donald Trump Allegations

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  • I don't think Epstein related accused deserve the benefit of the doubt anymore. Too much has been corroborated, and they've worked too hard to bury it/cover it all up.

  • Is there anything like church without the church?

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  • Boy I have been feeling this exact sentiment so much this week. We have a child, and there's just nothing like church out there for families. Church is free (though they do expect a tithe) but the family activities are so plentiful. It's like all the classes and small groups and stuff come with free childcare, including the Sunday service. Most all of the suggestions here are not kid friendly and i just don't have the resources to pay for childcare once a week so I can do a fun activity, class, or club focused on adults. I already use my parents once a week so I can attend therapy and I feel bad enough about that to ask for anything more.

    I did look up my local UU and they have a game night that includes childcare, but I'm going to have to attend services for a while before I trust anyone new with my child.

  • Glad she found the right people to love her 🥹

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  • The most I've had at once was 6, but that doesn't really count because it was a short time that I took in a momma cat and her litter who were all adopted out two months later. I kept momma for about a year after before adopting her out. I've never had a cat its whole life. I have fostered a ton of kittens, and had cats for years, including cats that previously lived outdoors and then when I adopt, it's usually been older cats who need extra care.

    Yes, 15 would be quite a lot if you assume full lifespans of the cats!

  • So many successes

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  • Women are able to perpetuate misogyny. Your comment seems like you think misogyny can only happen to a women from a man. Not sure of your actual intent, but it comes off that way.

  • Glad she found the right people to love her 🥹

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  • Yeah, I'm wondering if too playful meant too attackey? Once we got a cat who had a "clean" history. He was so sweet and snuggly except he'd get in this zone where he would crash out and attack our legs and bite. We tried everything we could think of, my partner and I had had like 15 cats previously between us. No amount of play time, novelty in toys, attention, affection, space, whatever made him not attack our ankles and bite. I started feeling too anxious to walk across the house to the kitchen. With a sick pit in our stomachs we had to bring him back to the shelter. There we found out we had been lied to and he had lived as an outdoor cat for a while, and had been returned once before for biting. We had a 3 bedroom house and a screened in porch but it just wasn't enough for him. We were also discouraged from reporting the biting as it would "make it harder to rehome him."

    I don't know if I'll have another animal in my house again. The biting and scratching was stressful and awful but having to return Beau was so difficult, and felt like such a failure. I can't handle falling in love and then failing another animal.

    You can't judge someone for the third hand account. Maybe OP and her dad were a much better fit and the animal is different in their home.

  • New video confirms ICE Gestapo murdered Renee Good in cold blood

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  • Yeah jeez, she's protesting to keep her children safe AND everyone else's (even the right). Seems like a damn good mother to me

  • he's not wrong

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  • This is not a practical long term solution, but one answer is falling in love. Everytime I've fallen in love my depression goes fully into remission. I have lots of energy, it's easy to keep my place clean and super easy to shower, do my hair, whatever it takes to look pretty. I am inspired to try new things and get into hobbies. I have patience and am less irritable. Works like a charm until we've been together long enough for the relationship to become completely routine, and then the depression creeps back in, bad as ever. But you can get like 6 months out of it.

  • ‘Half of Brits watch porn on unregulated sites since age verification crackdown’

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  • Yes it does. Both are examples of something demonstrably bad, and one person saying, "well it didn't negatively affect one person, so it must be fine!"

    Not only is a sample size of one useless, but unless OP is claiming to be fully well adjusted with great mental health and no negative feelings towards woman(implicit bias included), and no participation in the patriarchy, they can't really claim to know constant consumption of porn has no negative effect.

  • That viral Reddit post about food delivery apps was an AI scam

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  • Yeah the title makes it seem like it was an AI hallucination that was posted

  • Is there a science educator who shows in a video how they hand wash dishes?

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  • The Costco pods are like magic and they're so cheap. They changed my life (literally, I save many minutes every day and my mental health is better. I hate dirty dishes so much. I don't even rinse before loading my dishwasher now. )

  • Mom with the real questions

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  • There's always money in the banana stand

  • Quit dating for a year to focus on me, now I feel worse

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  • I've got nothing to add, just letting you know another person read your post, agrees you're doing a really good job at boundaries and putting yourself out there and you just haven't been lucky enough to stumble on the right people for you. I'd have no non family friends right now if a local extrovert hadn't adopted me. Good luck

    Also, idk if this is helpful or if it's any good for guys but I did bumble (friendship) a few years ago, and it was nice. There were a ton of people, some new to town, some whose friends had moved away. It's like a dating app but for friends, and you seem like you'd be an attractive friend on there. You're stable, you do activities, you're just looking for some buddies.

  • The way my fuck-ass pharmacist makes up the remaining pills in my bastarding prescription

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  • Why doesn't the customer just take the couple of minutes at the beginning of the month to dispense the blister packs into a daily pill box organizer?

    Or just take a pair of scissors and round off the edges?

    Just saying the problem is as easily or more easily solved by the customer as it is by the tech.

    Certainly no medication should just be thrown out because the packaging is inconvenient. Making the techs take more time just means making the meds more expensive than they already are.

    Obviously the real answer is to overhaul the whole system, but we live under an oligarchy here. Individual people have no power past barely the local level.

  • What's your favorite movie that is in a language which you do not speak?

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  • And the version of "You're the One that I Want" plays in my head all the time! So good!

  • What's your favorite movie that is in a language which you do not speak?

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  • I Am Not an Easy Man (French). It's outdated now, but when I watched it as a teenager/ young woman it opened my eyes to a lot that I took for granted. I still think of it all the time when I'm brushing my teeth.

  • You merely adopted the dark. I was born in it.

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  • Damn thank you for sharing that. I can't believe how little we all know about menopause considering almost half of humanity will eventually go through it!

  • You merely adopted the dark. I was born in it.

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  • Saying cis women can just stop their periods if they feel like it is a vast over simplification. Birth control fucks with your hormones often in very unpredictable ways. My friend had a light period for like 3 months straight due to her birth control and the doctors said that was fine and normal. In me, birth control triggered treatment resistant suicidal depression that I deal with to this day. In my sister, it gave wild mood swings and general emotional instability. My other sister was just plain allergic to it.

    It's dangerous for women to go on hormonal birth control even though it's so common and normalized. Women's Healthcare in the USA is so hit or miss, and doctors are often uninformed or dismissive. Maybe you live elsewhere where it's better?

    Please understand that periods are absolutely not optional. Even a complete hysterectomy (not that many of us could be granted one anyway) would trigger early menopause which is its own host of issues.