Yeah, I'm wondering if too playful meant too attackey? Once we got a cat who had a "clean" history. He was so sweet and snuggly except he'd get in this zone where he would crash out and attack our legs and bite. We tried everything we could think of, my partner and I had had like 15 cats previously between us. No amount of play time, novelty in toys, attention, affection, space, whatever made him not attack our ankles and bite. I started feeling too anxious to walk across the house to the kitchen. With a sick pit in our stomachs we had to bring him back to the shelter. There we found out we had been lied to and he had lived as an outdoor cat for a while, and had been returned once before for biting. We had a 3 bedroom house and a screened in porch but it just wasn't enough for him. We were also discouraged from reporting the biting as it would "make it harder to rehome him."
I don't know if I'll have another animal in my house again. The biting and scratching was stressful and awful but having to return Beau was so difficult, and felt like such a failure. I can't handle falling in love and then failing another animal.
You can't judge someone for the third hand account. Maybe OP and her dad were a much better fit and the animal is different in their home.
This is not a practical long term solution, but one answer is falling in love. Everytime I've fallen in love my depression goes fully into remission. I have lots of energy, it's easy to keep my place clean and super easy to shower, do my hair, whatever it takes to look pretty. I am inspired to try new things and get into hobbies. I have patience and am less irritable. Works like a charm until we've been together long enough for the relationship to become completely routine, and then the depression creeps back in, bad as ever. But you can get like 6 months out of it.
Yes it does. Both are examples of something demonstrably bad, and one person saying, "well it didn't negatively affect one person, so it must be fine!"
Not only is a sample size of one useless, but unless OP is claiming to be fully well adjusted with great mental health and no negative feelings towards woman(implicit bias included), and no participation in the patriarchy, they can't really claim to know constant consumption of porn has no negative effect.
The Costco pods are like magic and they're so cheap. They changed my life (literally, I save many minutes every day and my mental health is better. I hate dirty dishes so much. I don't even rinse before loading my dishwasher now. )
I've got nothing to add, just letting you know another person read your post, agrees you're doing a really good job at boundaries and putting yourself out there and you just haven't been lucky enough to stumble on the right people for you. I'd have no non family friends right now if a local extrovert hadn't adopted me. Good luck
Also, idk if this is helpful or if it's any good for guys but I did bumble (friendship) a few years ago, and it was nice. There were a ton of people, some new to town, some whose friends had moved away. It's like a dating app but for friends, and you seem like you'd be an attractive friend on there. You're stable, you do activities, you're just looking for some buddies.
Why doesn't the customer just take the couple of minutes at the beginning of the month to dispense the blister packs into a daily pill box organizer?
Or just take a pair of scissors and round off the edges?
Just saying the problem is as easily or more easily solved by the customer as it is by the tech.
Certainly no medication should just be thrown out because the packaging is inconvenient. Making the techs take more time just means making the meds more expensive than they already are.
Obviously the real answer is to overhaul the whole system, but we live under an oligarchy here. Individual people have no power past barely the local level.
I Am Not an Easy Man (French). It's outdated now, but when I watched it as a teenager/ young woman it opened my eyes to a lot that I took for granted. I still think of it all the time when I'm brushing my teeth.
Damn thank you for sharing that. I can't believe how little we all know about menopause considering almost half of humanity will eventually go through it!
Saying cis women can just stop their periods if they feel like it is a vast over simplification. Birth control fucks with your hormones often in very unpredictable ways. My friend had a light period for like 3 months straight due to her birth control and the doctors said that was fine and normal. In me, birth control triggered treatment resistant suicidal depression that I deal with to this day. In my sister, it gave wild mood swings and general emotional instability. My other sister was just plain allergic to it.
It's dangerous for women to go on hormonal birth control even though it's so common and normalized. Women's Healthcare in the USA is so hit or miss, and doctors are often uninformed or dismissive. Maybe you live elsewhere where it's better?
Please understand that periods are absolutely not optional. Even a complete hysterectomy (not that many of us could be granted one anyway) would trigger early menopause which is its own host of issues.
Maybe you could walk away from a living being dying inside you and then you having to pass that dead corpse with zero trauma, but let grieving families grieve. A memorial service is a perfectly reasonable response to losing a child, even if they never lived outside you.
How is academia totally separate? I get how the opiate crisis is purely big Pharma exploiting people for profit, but the tuskeegee experiments were research. Isn't that medicine and academia?
Women who have been through childbirth have certainly earned the right to be skeptical of doctors/ medicine. Women are still being mistreated and discounted in hospitals today, especially women of color. You have to get lucky to get nurses and doctors who treat your body as worthy of care, and you as worthy of belief and autonomy.
Hey you said the negative history of the artist made the art more interesting, so i was just saying it's more nuanced than that. We all (me definitely) own stuff from evil people/ corporations, but art is different because it's not meant to be functional, it's meant to make you feel something. It's more susceptible to changing meaning based on creator than a T- shirt, a phone, or a pair of shoes
Yeah, I'm wondering if too playful meant too attackey? Once we got a cat who had a "clean" history. He was so sweet and snuggly except he'd get in this zone where he would crash out and attack our legs and bite. We tried everything we could think of, my partner and I had had like 15 cats previously between us. No amount of play time, novelty in toys, attention, affection, space, whatever made him not attack our ankles and bite. I started feeling too anxious to walk across the house to the kitchen. With a sick pit in our stomachs we had to bring him back to the shelter. There we found out we had been lied to and he had lived as an outdoor cat for a while, and had been returned once before for biting. We had a 3 bedroom house and a screened in porch but it just wasn't enough for him. We were also discouraged from reporting the biting as it would "make it harder to rehome him."
I don't know if I'll have another animal in my house again. The biting and scratching was stressful and awful but having to return Beau was so difficult, and felt like such a failure. I can't handle falling in love and then failing another animal.
You can't judge someone for the third hand account. Maybe OP and her dad were a much better fit and the animal is different in their home.