Apytele

@ Apytele @sh.itjust.works

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3 yr. ago

I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I'm going to troll you back. FAFO.

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8h ago

Hopefully, he will be 6 underground by that time.
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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 8h ago

Nah he was just quiet senile instead of loud senile. I've had patients that are rather agreeable despite low cognitive function. They don't wind up in the hospital as much and get discharged quicker because the agreeableness means they can accept home caregivers more safely, but they very much still need assistance with decision making. He wasn't more coherent per se, just more able to cooperate with his handlers. Ignoring morality (a distressingly common occurrence throughout the history of humanity) is it preferable to have a leader who accepts control of the oligarchs more placidly or more chaotically? I don't speak to my parents anymore for a variety of reasons (including politics) but one tiny spark of something they did get right was that trump is slightly harder to keep under control, and is accelerating the destruction of our broken political system. We ultimately just differed in opinion on whether the coming system is more likely to be better or worse.

23h ago

Husband gets an honorary mention

How many people actually know their cat's birthday? I wrote mines down on the vet paperwork as Valentine's because it was September and they said she was probably about 8 months old.

1d ago

Therapy

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1d ago

I've had a couple of people ask how I stomach what I do for a living (acute inpatient psychiatry) and one of my answers to one of the aspects is that a lot of this was going to happen to them anyway and they may as well have at least one person there who's been there and won't be a asshole about it (or any more than I have to be anyway). Also everybody's a mental health advocate who wants the poor sweet depressed babies to be loved more until they're at a stoplight and a homeless schizophrenic on PCP starts wiping period blood on their car while yelling about how Obama filled their vagina with spiders. Some of us didn't get the cute mental illnesses OK.

4d ago

Is there a culture/country that doesn't have sarcasm in its language?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

Oh I would certainly think it's the norm but I do wonder if there's some culture somewhere that really is just that literal. Like shit we don't know what the sentinelese (but they definitely give a dark sense of humor vibe).

4d ago

What Fediverse instances would you recommend to others?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

I honestly can't tell if this is just my ADHD or if this is just an overly dense philosophical argument that in true internet fashion has just gotten completely out of hand. There's no damn good reason for anyone who will never physically set foot in any of these places to have opinions on this topic of that complexity or intensity.

Like my opinion on the topic is mostly that my country should definitely stop giving Israel weapons and probably send the Palestinians some food water and medical supplies. Other than that I'm not personally going to impose my opinions overtop those of people who actually live there.

The answer to imperialism isn't trying to align your views with whichever side you've decided is the most right then loudly philosophizing about it from thousands of miles away. It's the kind of thing you can't undo, you can only stop doing it. The answer to imperialism is to shut the fuck up and stop meddling. Now the internet as a whole isn't great at that (especially not the shutting up part), and I don't think I'll ever find a space that's free of it. So I'm just gonna go with the place that seems as agnostic on the most issues as possible and try not to overthink shit that's, in the end, none of my damn business.

4d ago

TPUSA's rule will never not be funny

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

I was going to say inadequate prenatal care that might have been provided to a low income mother by planned parenthood.

4d ago

TPUSA's rule will never not be funny

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

4d ago

PB&J

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

I have a folder of shitpost diagrams that is way too small and I appreciate you helping me add to it.

4d ago

What Fediverse instances would you recommend to others?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 4d ago

This is the kind of statement that is so far at the extremes of both vague and unhinged that it's not so much that I don't believe you as that I would need to see some kind of evidence of multiple specific and unambiguous incidents. TLDR; you can't just say that kinda thing with 0 receipts.

6d ago

What Fediverse instances would you recommend to others?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 6d ago

db0 and sh. are my viiiibbbbbee

7d ago

As a private person doing nothing illegal, is there value to having a VPN?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 7d ago

Who do you trust more, the neighbor who closes their blinds or the neighbor running around house to house trying to look in everyone's windows?

1w ago

What to do when you have an image (as in reputation) you don't care for?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

Get a blue Mohawk and wear Hawaiian polos, cargo shorts, and tennis shoes everywhere. If you really don't like what people see, change what they see. Or change the context they see you in. If you're always hanging around a cleaners with other people who look like Italian mobsters and you look like you fit in then there you are. Whether it's ultimately worth it to you to change your appearance or lifestyle is ultimately up to you. There are, ultimately, 4 ways to deal with a problem:

redefine / stop thinking about it as a problem
accept that the problem exists
be willing to do whatever you have to do to change the problem
be upset about the problem.

#4 is the only one I vehemently recommend against. 1-3 are all roughly equal in the amount of distress you will be left with in the end.

1w ago

moods rule

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

Genuinely though a lot of emotions are fundamentally chemically the same and your perception of them is ultimately what makes the difference.

1w ago

‘What I see in clinic is never a set of labels’: are we in danger of overdiagnosing mental illness?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

Yes that's why they're clogging up the hospitals. If most of them at least had a roof they'd be able to self-manage most of their disorders a lot better. Even if they ultimately wind up back in the hospital it would be easier to discharge them much faster. Home care with a roof is still cheaper than the hospital and would be adequate in sooo many cases, and give so much more space to care for the ones for whom it isn't.

And using drugs in their own house would keep them from having to take enough uppers to stay vigilant for their safety simultaneously with with enough opiates to level that out. They could keep using or do MAT until they're ready to quit and in the meantime they wouldn't be out in the street yelling at passing cars. We have more empty houses than homeless people just put them in em for free.

I said what I said because my face is directly in the issues you're talking about every single night I work and every single one of them would be so much easier to manage if every one of those people just had a roof to go home to. Literally just a roof. Do you know how hard it is to keep a leg wound the size of a grapefruit clean on the street? Even if it's not getting regular dressings at home at least it's not soaking in a mud puddle where the best thing happening to it is maggots.

1w ago

What is happening with this potatoe?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

I love stuff like this. It turns out there's whole hidden worlds inside all sorts of people's average workdays and a lot of the time if you ask they'll just tell you!

1w ago

‘What I see in clinic is never a set of labels’: are we in danger of overdiagnosing mental illness?

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

it wouldn't matter as much if we didn't expect so much of people.

ADHD wouldn't be this much of a problem in children if we didn't expect them to sit still in a classroom for 8 hours as a ten year old.
depression wouldn't be as much of a problem if people weren't expected to have the energy to stand in one place getting verbally abused for 8+ hours a day.

and don't get me started on homelessness. literally just fix homelessness and about 1/2 of the healthcare system would instantly right itself even before dealing with the health insurance issue. especially the ERs.

literally just tax the fuck out of empty housing. each person is allowed to have 1 house they don't live in (which is extremely generous). anything after that should be nearly impossible to afford taxes on. And no corporate landlords. I'm fine renting; if I take a 12 week contract in another city I'm not buying and in not staying in a hotel and I'd also rather be paying somebody who actually lives there.

1w ago

It's the perfect shape

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

thicc as buttercream but sure

1w ago

Some hacker in thigh-high striped socks should take one for the team and release the Epstein Files

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

except they're the ones holding the video and no cop who wants to continue being a cop is going to investigate anyone that could actually get them in real trouble. it's been hard enough prosecuting anyone in the Epstein files despite TONS of evidence. how many people have fallen off balconies or just never came back from the yacht party that we don't even know about?

1w ago

Permanently Deleted

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

Yeah the switch was a slow one for me. There was a long period where I was using both but it slowly shifted from using reddit more to using Lemmy more and a big reason was the usability of the ui. They really wanted to push me onto the app but it was so sluggish and every bug I reported about the web ui was met with "but did you try our app?" and like yeah I did and it was shit! It was bloated down with so many weird internal video features I didn't even use (and probably tracking) that it was barely usable! Meanwhile boost just gets it done, consistently, and with like 0 bugs.

1w ago

YSK that you can post to Lemmy from Mastodon, and Mastodon users can interact in Lemmy threads. This is a Mastodon account.

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Apytele @sh.itjust.works 1w ago

I would be so hyped to see a true dual Lemmy mastodon service that fully allows you to browse and post to both Lemmy and mastodon style feeds. Currently even kbin is really more focused on the Lemmy / piefed end and the microblogging function still requires the posts to be under a magazine meaning masto posts aren't really browseable and they're not really fully interact able from both ends. I feel like a service fully compatible with both formats would give a broader reach that would really allow fedi to grow. You'd be able interact with like half of fedi at the same time which would make it feel so much bigger and more comparable in scope to traditional social media.