Something I've tried to do is figure out a safe departure time rationally, then set a timer for 15 minutes before. Knowinf that I don't have to remember or think or judge whetjer its getting late has been really helpful for escaping that endless clock-checking stress.
I don't know. It's something I think about a lot, especially when I'm wasting too much time online. But it really isn't that simple. I had lots of friends and saw them pretty regularly, but I moved countries to be with my partner and I'm very happy with that choice and our life together.
But I don't speak the language here, I'm learning but slowly. So if I wasn't in message groups, sharing memes and video chatting my friends back home I'd feel pretty lonely. And it would make the couple of trips home each year much more awkward. By keeping in touch so regularly it feels totally normal to spend the day with a friend, even if I haven't seen them in 9 months because I know all the little things they've been up to or excited about.
On the other side, if I had none of that, maybe I would have worked harder at learning the language. Especially with the lack of distractions the internet provides (being able to watch tv in English instead of local stuff is probably the biggest hurdle to learning), but realistically we're busy and live in the country, so if I had some intermediate language skills and was vastly more lonely I'd probably not have made any real friends. I'd just go to some more social events in the year and participate a bit akwardly and feel sad.
I drink quite a lot of caffeine (four or five strong coffees most days) and i've not had any problems, or noticed much of a difference on terms of 'over caffinated' symptoms compared to pre-Methylphenidate.
In fact, the one time I tried to cut back on coffee (I'd been really ill for a week and had stopped drinking coffee, so I decided to not restart the habit) I found that without coffee my medication didn't seem as effective. After two weeks of no caffeine I wasnt feeling caffeine withdrawals, I wasn't tired in the morning or craving coffee, but I just felt like i was on too low a dose for my ADHD. My attention, focus, willpower were all back to being a struggle. Then I read somewhere online saying that this could happen, and that caffeine increased the effects of the meds. For some people, I guess that means that too much coffee would lead to an overly strong dose. But for me, I'd much rather have a couple of cups of coffee than have to move to a higher dose of Ritalin. So I started having coffee again and things went back to normal.
They're all fine with some extendent. It really depends specifically what and how you're cooking. I like cast iron for steak because you can heat it up a helluva lot, even without fat, while trying that with non-stick pans can damage the coating and make some weird smells. Similarly, I prefer it for frying eggs because I like to use a metal slice to flip eggs, and worry about scarcjing my non-stick. But I have both and happily use both.
My conclusion was that raising minimum wage gave people more money to spend (obvs), and although it could be linked to some increase in inflation, that that cost was borne over the wider economy, so those on MW still saw an meaningful increase in real terms spending power. The evidence for MW rises causing unemployment were mixed, but meta-regression analysis showed that there was significant publication bias in MW studies (preferring those that showed MW raised unemployment) and once that was accounted for, MW was neutral on unemployment. Apart, perhaps for a small effect on teenagers.
But it was a few years back that I had to look in to that, and the studies themselves are often focussed on data from decades earlier. And that's the problem with a lot of economic research claims, while it is helpful to examine historical patterns and learn from them, it isn't easy to isolate the confounding factors and get to some general law. I feel it's closer to history than physics (despite the aspirations of some economists), you can learn from the past, but current society will be different in significant ways that might make things play out quite differently.
Funny meme, and natural part of human nature. But, while disregarding information that doesn't agree with your worldview can be bad, the reason it's a intrinsic bias is because most people are right about most things in their everyday life. If a stranger tells you that you owe them 20$, you're probably going to trust your gut that you don't, rather than start looking for evidence. Obviously, that breaks down when it's about anything abstract or complex, and there when we get science involved.
But if you're somewhat experienced and well read in a scientific area, you develop the same confidence in your understanding that leads you to dismiss some findings as unlikely. This can be bad, and one of things slowing scientific progress (see Planck's principle), but it's also a useful heuristic. If you've read enough economics papers, you develop a reasonable bullshit detector. Not that the research on the wealth tax you referred to is necessarily bad, but it's going to be using a model or drawing conclusions from some related data, in ways that (I suspect) would not convince me if I read it. Once you've read 30 articles showing that raising minimal wage cuts real spending power vs 30 that show it doesn't, you see how 'good economic research practice' can lead people to very different conclusions.
I've probably done it occasionally, when calling them in a public space shouting 'Daaad' as an adult feels a bit weird. Same with talking about them to a third person, I might use their names rather than say "my mum" the whole time.
But face to face, talking with them? It'd feel pretty weird, too impersonal and distant. If I saw someone else doing it tontjeir parents, I'd probably note it as unusual, but would be shocked.
Most insults are some attempt to link an aspect of a person or their behaviour with a negatively perceived thing. Most powerful insults also include breaking some form of social taboo.
Thus we have mild insults like "your argument is..." "weak-sauce" which associate the argument with the (presumably undesirable) sauce of insufficient strength; "shit" which is mild taboo but so widely used and conventional that it doesn't hit hard; "loose stool-water, arse-gravy of the worst kind" which is both a bit taboo and reasonably novel (but wordy and pretentious).
If you're trying to find insults that are going to impact someone, you have to find things that are upsetting / undesirable or them, so that association with that negative thing is bad and they want to avoid it. This is tricky if they have a different worldview, because what is offputting to you might be fine to them (eg. religious people insulting behaviour as 'sinful' or 'satanic' doesn't really land for non-believers).
This is extra tricky if you don't agree with what they find disgusting, because when you use something that disgusts them as an insult you are reinforcing the idea that it IS something to be disgusted by. Making fun of Trump's 'Lady-hands' or 'micropenis' might be hurtful to him (or his supporters) but it also telling men that traditional masculine features and penis size are the qualities of real men. But that's the problem, you can't use someone's beliefs against them while also challenging those beliefs as wrong.
So you can just accept that insults are problematic, and continue to call people 'retarded fags' because you know that has a negative association to them, ignoring the innocent minorities also hurt by that language. Or you can find things that are universally seen as bad and undesirable (mostly varistions on bodily functions) or that don't really hurt the stereotyped group ("you're whining like a little baby" is less problematic than "like a woman on the rag" or "like a little removed"). But these generally aren't as impactful...
Most of the time you don't even need to say it's your middle name. I've known lots of people who went by their middle name, generally guys in families where they, their dad and their grandad are all officially 'John', but actually go by their unique middle name. Its not that unusual.
Thanks! That's pretty much what I do. As I said in my reply to shneancy, it's made a lot harder by my neurodivergent partner having serious communication issues around the topic. So it isn't even to get feedback, but they're the one who love aggressive sex.
I have experimented with some stuff on myself to get a gauge of how hard is too hard. But tbh, I don't really enjoy getting slapped in face or choked so, it's hard to guess what's the correct level for someone else!
Can't tell if this is /s or not