Thia is exactly the video I was thinking of. I only came across his channel recently, and it is an absolute pleasure.

What foss do you recommend for email? I don’t love Gmail app, but I’ve not come across a better alternative yet (not tried very hard tbh) .

What I think you mean by “natural geography” is just one part of the field. Urban / economic geography (regional dynamics, housing policy, tourism geography, population analysis) and Historical / Social geography (historical urban geography, homelessness, migration, etc) Are big parts of the field of geography. Most of modern geography is interested in both the physical (more geology, climate, biomes, etc) and human aspects, and how they interact.

Just installed. Looks good. I’ve been using transdrone and it works well, but your app supports torrent searching, which is very cool.

Yeah, I’m probably not in the market for a fold phone, given I’m not a gentle owner. But of money was no object, I would get a trifold, because it feels meaningfully larger, and a more appropriate aspect ratio. The current folds really underwhelm me, even if they were so overpriced.

I also have difficulties sleeping, and if I don’t have access to my various strategies I can’t get to sleep because of over thinking, and waking frequently and immediately overthink and can’t get back to sleep.

My main ‘trick’ is finding the right audiobook and playing that as I go to sleep. It’s a bit of trial and error, to find something that works, but it gives me something to focus on as I try to fall asleep so I don’t think about my day or stress or start getting ideas for some project… And when I wake up in the middle of the night, I turn it back on and I fall back asleep in minutes.

Right book (or podcast or whatever) : for me it needs to be a story I know (so that I don’t care about hearing what happens next, and don’t get too confused if I miss sections by sleeping), not too distressing / dark (especially as I’m falling asleep I find violent descriptions can jar me awake), relaxing narration (no music or unexpected noises, nice voice, not too upbeat). Non fiction can also work really well.

Right method : what works for me is playing audiobook on an old phone that i keep under my pillow, with no other apps or WiFi, just the audiobook app and a redshift app (Twilight). To begin with I might listen to the book normally for a bit to get familiar, then I’ll gradually turn down the volume as I’m getting tired and as it gets quieter I have to keep still otherwise I can’t hear it over my rustling the bedsheets. If I feel like I’m too engaged and alert I adjust down the playback speed, so the Narrator gets slower and slower, and that usually makes me sleepier.

If you’re not used to it, I can imagine it taking a while to adjust, but it’s totally solved my issues, and now serves as a immediate sleep trigger for me. When I put on my book, I’m usually asleep within ten minutes. And it’s even faster at returning me to sleep in the middle of the night. And it’s something I’ve done now for years, so I’ve got loads more tips if anyone’s interested but this is already tldr…

Yeah, I think challenge can be a bit motivator for adhd folks. Once I’ve completed the main part of something, I find it really hard to care about the details, to the extent that the unfinished parts sometimes spoil the bit I had completed.

I feel like it’s the dopamine of the chase is actually what’s motivating, and challenge is a version of that. I’ll get sucked into finding some obscure game and getting an emulator working to be able to play it and all the way I’m super engaged. Then I start playing this game I was so excited about and meh, don’t care.

Maybe you could think about ways to refocus that drive? A therapist told me once that adhd people don’t get satisfaction from completing things, but are excited about new things. So, instead of feeling proud of getting into college try and immediately find the new challenge (now I want to get a prostigious internship!) if you succeed at your fitness goals, maybe you can raise the stakes see if you can beat a friend or a record or something?

Yeah, furthest I ever fit with a fitness program is 5x5. It’s such a small amount of individual activities, they’re always challenging because of the increasing weights, and it feels like there’s a really clear goal that you’re moving towards (not just ‘go to they gym until your fit’).

Focusing on getting the movement right kept me fully occupied during the actual rep and there’s only a few different exercises each day so it didn’t take too long. For getting started, I would just do a intense bounce / dance around the room to warm myself up (I had weights at home so I didn’t need to worry about getting the gym or other people seeing me). With warm and focused reps and a bit of a cool down, I could generally do the whole thing in under 45 minutes, so even if I had spent the day lazing around I could often trick myself into “shit, it’s almost six and I need to meet the guys in an hour, I guess I’ll just quickly rush through my reps” (and then I would be late of course, but that’s normal). A workout buddy would be the other ideal for accountability / motivation.

In Britain lots of beers come on both sizes, and it makes comparing prices #mildlyinfuriating. Is 6x500ml at £7.99 better than 4x440ml at £4.50? What if there’s an 12 pack of 330ml stubbies for £15, but it’s Buy One Get One Free?

Having taught courses on interview techniques, I’d say the quick advice is - remember that for all the questions they ask, they are not primarily interested in you answering the specific question, they are trying to provide an opportunity or a challenge to hear how you fit their idea of a good candidate for the post.

So they don’t care about knowing you as a person, they want to hear you’re “innovative” or “ambitious” or “compassionate” (depending on the post), with a little anecdote or explanation that shows you understand what that trait means. "I guess some people might call me driven, because from a young age I’ve always want to be the best at everything. But personally it’s not just about being ‘ambitious’, when I’m passionate about something then I really want to do my best at it, that’s why I love learning new approaches and methods to improve my skills, and love working in an industry like ours with so much potential. And from what I understand about your company… " blah blah blah.

It defintely doesn’t need to be all bragging and corporate speak (unless that’s your work field) but most people do better at interviews once they realise the questions are just the superficial layer, and yoh don’t need to worry about them too much. You should answer them (otherwise you seem like you have poor communication skills) but the content of them is just your chance to show off skills and qualities that they want, and to show you understand the job and industry you’re in. Having a close read of the job description, company’s values and other info should reveal a bunch of target traits that they want to hear about from you.

Yeah, I feel weird about “imposter syndrome” cause sometimes I know I’m genuinely doing a bad job, forgetting important things, or fucking soemthing up and causing me / others a bunch of stress. But I’m also aware that there are somethings I do well, that not everyone else does, but because they’re easy for me I don’t value them as much as the things I wanted to do right but screwed up anyway.

Something that sometimes helps, and sometimes just disturbs me, is that I think about all my colleagues who are (mostly) “neurotypical” and how often they make stupid mistakes and fuck ups because they are old and computer illiterate, busy with other commitments, slow, or just apathetic. When I spend four hours getting angry at myself until I can manage to finally spend 5 minutes to send an important but straightforward email… Well, it’s obvious that I’m useless / terrible. But what the hell are all these other supposedly competent people doing? Because often they’re as behind with things as I am. Or doing shit job of a presentation because they can’t be bothered rather than because they only have twenty minutes left before the big meeting.

Yeah, I was confused about this… A little sugar won’t ruin your French toast, and you can always salt it afterwards… I genuinely forget that people eat it sweet, I’m a cheddar and bacon boy myself.

In philosophy there’s a term “second order desire” which is “wanting to want” something. So, when you want ice cream it’s a first order desire, you just want it. But when you want to eat healthily, it’s often a desire for wellbeing, long-term goals, etc. Not a sudden urge for carrots.

The challenge for adhd is that second order desires aren’t that motivating. When I’m in a sporadic fitness phase (seems to hit for a few weeks every few years) then I really want to exercise (first order desire). I’d rather do exercise than play on my phone or watch TV. But the rest of the time I want to want to do exercise (to be fit) and if I had a magic wand or a pill I could take I’d prefer that to the exercise, because it’s not something I genuinely want for itself. But going for a walk somewhere beautiful, or going dancing with friends, are things I genuinely want to do, so are easy to achieve. And they have a byproduct of being some physical exercise.