Yeah, I don’t. Even in holiday I want to be able to go look at stuff and read books, not just lie in bed scrolling my phone and feeling mad at myself. But what has been helpful is getting different dosages (a benefit of the terrible ritalin supply is I sometimes got my 40mg as 4x10mg). That way I can take less on days when I’ve not got a lot on, and just want to relax. But taking nothing is not a good day.

I guess I’m just an idiot. Sorry for wasting your time. Don’t be mad, I’ll be good next time.

https://lemmy.today/post/25826594

Appears in the same community for me, 28 posts down (sorted by new). Maybe they’re from different instances and my reader composites the into one? I don’t really understand how lemmy federation works for stuff like that.

Wasn’t this posted 4 days ago in the same community? It’s a great strip (the first in a while where I’ve actually laughed aloud), but that’s quite a short interval.

I am OK now, but when I moved to France adhd meds were only prescribed for children. Coming from the UK and having been prescribed medication that changed my life, I was not willing to stop taking it. So I had to smuggle it to France. Fortunately, they’ve changed the rules, but I will not let me health be dictated by out of date rules.

I don’t have links, but in the UK a lot of the official healthcare recommendations are available from NICE (the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence). When I wanted to come off my anxiety meds (they were doing nothing because my issues were undiagnosed adhd, not anxiety) but didn’t have access to a doctor, I looked up the guidelines and followed the exact withdrawl program and everything went fine.

Making your one pills is much more challenging and risky (as you know) but I 100% sympathise. To not get the health care you need, because you live in a country without up to date treatments for your issue is not fair.

Nah it’s not. You think that, but you’re wrong actually. Don’t bother checking, it’ll just make you feel even stupider.

I’ve always been attracted to folks with cute & youthful vibe. But when I was a teen that was pretty restricted to other teens, even the ‘young looking’ twenty year olds who were playing high-school students on TV obviously looked older and therefore less attractive to me.

But now I’m in my 40s my range of who looks youthful and hot is much wider. Now I find 20s hotter than teens, 30s can look pretty youthful, and I’m not super attracted to older people, but I find them less gross because I’m used to what older bodies look like (I have one!). And since physical attractiveness is just one part of overall attraction, I’d probably find a cute & 39 person more overall attractive than cute & 19, just because my experience is that most 39 year olds are funnier and more socially skilled than teenagers.

I can’t imagine every finding a 70 year old hotter on a physical level to 20 year old. But I can imagine being so content and in love with my elderly partner that I didn’t care that much.

I don’t really either. Mickey mouse is now PD, and I assume the other guy (no idea who he is) is too? And daffy duck, someone else and James bond will also become PD soon. Mickey with gloves is still copyrighted, so he can’t wear the gloves.

Yeah, I good with the message, but that’s one of the most uncomfortable looking photos I’ve seen. Where are they supposed to be looking?

Interesting! How do you tie it the right way?

Yup, flashcards and spaced repitition are pretty well evidenced for memorisation. I’m also a fan of mind maps, but that’s more for linking ideas and concepts together, not just learning acronyms, but mixing the two works well.

There are other memorisation techniques that you might find helpful depending on how keen you are (visualisation, methods of loci, etc) but for most people they feel like to much trouble to learn. Creating mnemonics and associating stupid images and stuff with otherwise arbitary acronyms can help. I can still remember all my physics equations from high-school QIT PIV etc because of stupid nonsense phrases I associated with them.

When I was getting settled on my dose the doctor told me to keep upping the dose until things got worse rather than better. And there was defintely a point (54mg xaggatin, a slow release concerta type) where it was too much, I didnt want to relax I just wanted to get shit done. I’m sure it could have been efficient but it didn’t feel like me, and felt kinda stressy. So I’ve been on the dose below that (36mg) for a couple of years.

The amazing novelty wears off, and i can go back to my old avoidance routines, especially if I’m tired or sick, or anxious about something. But when my mood is good, and I’m taking care of myself, I can be efficient and focus on stuff well, while before that wad almost impossible unless I had a last minute deadline to panic me into focus.

The way I think about it is the drugs don’t make it easy for me to focus, they just make it possible. So now I can do all those things people said before about breaking tasks down, and setting manageable goals and stuff to make tasks achievable. It’s not easy, but it isn’t easy for most people. It’s just no longer impossible. But it takes a lot relearning, trying out things that wouldn’t have worked before and it doesn’t always work. But it’s so much better than before.

Thanks! It’s defintely more stuff like long term stuff, helping me schedule stuff or make appointments, reminding me to stop avoiding opening my mail, etc. And there’s lots of stuff I help then with, their blindspots and weaknesses.

That’s what I think makes a good relationship - being with someone with complementary skills, who you trust, who wants the best for you, and who it’s a pleasure to help not just because you love them, but because what they find impossible is easy for you (and vice versa).

Hah ! No, quite the opposite. I do almost all the cooking and cleaning, because I like making my partner happy. But I can’t find the motivation to do it for myself. When I was single, I would invite friends over for food as often as I could, because I love cooking, and I’d make exciting and challenging things that we’d all enjoy. But if it’s just me I spend a few hours being indicisive and then just eat so much toast I feel sick and feel sad.

The structure my partner provides is someone who expects meals to be at meal times, and will judge me if I just start eating a family sized pack of snacks at 3pm because I’m peckish. Or will be disappointed if I promise to do something then just scroll my phone instead. At the time it annoys me not being free to indulge myself, but when I actually get the chance I realise how little I enjoy it. It’s been really helpful to realise that just because I hate structure and rules and people’s expectations… I hate the goblin I become without them much more.

Totally understand the desire. I defintely do better when I’m in a situation where I can just deal with stuff in front of me, and someone else takes care of the long term stuff and keeps me accountable. Not sure about jobs, the army comes to mind but has some major downsides. But there’s other similar gigs like the merchant navy and offshore workers, where you’re living and working in a structured environment and then get a long breaks to chill out.

What worked for me was getting a partner who is organised and creates structure. Sometimes I think I miss my freedom and wish I was back being a bachelor… But then I have a few days in the house alone, getting nothing done as the mess builds up around me and not even playing games or anything fun, just failing to live… Then I remember why I traded my independence.

Yeah, I think this is a naive and hopeful as the maga types thinking Trump is a genius playing 4d chess.

I think “according to the law” is doing a lot of heavy lifting. That is the part that really makes it an oath to the ‘constitution’ of the UK. You are pledging alligence to the figurehead of the government, to obey them/the government, as long as they/the government are acting legally. If the government does something illegal, or asks you to do something illegal, you should not obey them.

I’m British, and not a fan of the monarchy (especially Charles) but I think that we can see the advantages of having a head of state who has very little power to fuck things up, and that isn’t a position that outside forces billionaires can buy their way into, but has the power to remove a Prime Minister if they tried to do something unconstitutional.

The idea of checks and balances in the US didn’t seem to plan for a bad president being elected with enough support in the house and Senate that he becomes pretty much untouchable (especially after a first term stacking the SC).

I’m defintely not a fan of cops, but in Scotland I never thought of them as evil/lazy/incompetent. They’re still the arm of state control, and have been used to break strikes and stuff, but there is at least a vibe of policing by consent. There are plenty of cases of individual cops who were psychos, and the institution defintely defaults to ‘protecting it’s own’ which is a fucking terrible attitude and in my mind makes all cops culpable for the crimes of the “bad apples”. So I’m still acab overall.

But most of my interactions with the police have been pretty decent, and that includes being questioned as a suspect (for something that I may not have been innocent of…) They don’t ‘solve’ many petty crimes like burglary that actual effect normal people but they are generally university educated and properly trained.

I now live in France, where the police are none of those things. I’ve only heard bad things about them ranging from patronising and incompetent to raping student protesters in the back of the police van. I would never ask a French cop for help, but unless I was high or carrying something illegal, i wouldn’t be worried about talking to a Scottish policeman.

I think any good relationship will make you friends, and it isn’t awkward, it’s great! But having been married a while, it is something you need to work at. With a long term partner they can end up in a bunch of different types of relationships with you - as well as friend, romantic parter and lover, they might be the equivalent of business parter, or boss/employee (for various household and family chores / projects) and learning how to do all those things well, and without ruining the other parts of the relationship can be challenge.

But if the balance is just between ‘friend’ and ‘gf’, I’d say the trick is knowing when to prioritise one over the over. There are times I’m horny and want to take things in that direction, but I realise my partner would rather have a cup of tea and complain about work. Equally, we might be getting intimate, and I’m tempted to make some dumb joke, because it’s funny and that’s what I do with a friend, so I have to weigh up my priorities (mostly sex wins, but sometimes I say the dumb thing and we both have a big laugh and then make dinner.)