Yeah, the fact that "angrily doing something to prove a point" is much more effective than "knowing it's important and promising to do it" leads to some unhealthy relationship dynamics...
25-30 living with a flatmate, seeing friends and being sociable & fun all the time, probably 6 days a week on average.
In my 30s, living alone, having a longer commute and more responsible job, still made the effort to see different friends, with something bigger (dinner or game night) once a week. So seeing folks 3 / 7 days.
40s moved with partner to a different country. So now it's seeing friends 4 times a year when I go home, and another 2 or 3 times when they come visit. Definitely less than I'm happy with, and sometimes it's a source of frustration, but it's mostly OK. It's nice having the different experience of having a friend stay for a week, feels a little like being a teen when friends would sleep over.
I need to improve my language skills so I can spend time with my partners friends here. But because of demands of life, work, renovations, etc I think that even if my friends lived around, it would be closer to once/twice a week. Also, it's worth noting that as well as having lots of good friends who enjoy spending time with each other, I'm lucky to have lots of friends without kids or busy careers. One of my closest friends has both those things, and we really struggle to even fit a videocall in. But my autistic crafter buddy is good for a chat and a cup of tea anytime.
I'm a neat meat eater, and I think this is a ridiculous law. Particularly getting precious about 'burger', the original "Hamburger" was made of fish, and only like a modern meat burger in shape. That's why people say "beef burger", if people want to make delicious bean burgers or soyburgers then why would you want to stop them? Ah yes, because you're a rightwing party who wants pander to a bunch of ignorant chumps.
Oh no, mods.... If it's anything like skyrim I'll spend more time messing around with mods than playing the game... But a bit of reading suggests that just the HD mod is a good choice for a 1st time playthru?
Lots of intresting things there! Just read some reviews for RGO and it sounds like my kinda thing! And I'm going to try out BGA2, because I do like the somewhat ponderous naval vibe to battles too. Thanks!
Wow. Hadn't heard of him, but reading his wiki page gives quite a first impression. Not just terrible political beliefs (which you could argue are a genuine disagreement), and getting wealthy people off out of their conviction (perhaps they were indeed innocent...) but also just straightforward unethical behaviour like plagiarism.
It's the transitions that are the enemy! Getting un/dressed and getting dry are both annoying. In summer when I'm only wearing shorts and can airdry in the warmth I'm fine taking a shower. But most of the year I just hate the transition...
Yeah, I think the answer it that question tell you more about the person's attitude to normalcy / weirdness than how normal they are. Like you say, lots of people want to be normal (or don't want to be seen as weird) so will present themselves that way, and keep all their divergence secret because it's shameful.
But there's also those people who genuinely don't realise that people are different from them, or what most people are like. They belive that however they are is 'normal' and everyone who disagrees is wrong, even if they're in the minority.
Sex can be fun, but tbh a lot of it is pretty underwhelming, especially if you don't understand each other, put in some effort or have good chemistry. When my partner and I are on holiday or have lots of free time we often have sex three or four times a day. But that's not because it's always mind-blowing, most of the time it's just a fun thing to do together.
The 'horny man' thing is a bit different. There's a kinda of arousal and drive that isn't really about the objective fun of sex, but the sense of pursuit. There's people I've slept with where the specific sextime wasn't necessarily amazing, but I had a huge crush on them and the feeling of satisfaction from finally hooking up was amazing. For me, that's usually pretty innocent "oh wow, I didn't know they liked me!" , but for some guys it's about perceived status in quite a douchey Andrew Tate kinda way.
There's also the genuine instinctual drive aspect. Times where I've not had sex in a while, and been thinking about it a lot (like visiting a long distance partner) it can make me pretty crazy. Especially if you do edging or orgasam denial, you can end up in a pretty delirious place. When that has built up for a while I definitely get to the stage where I will do super reckless things just to get release. For me, that's never a big problem because I only get in that state through choice, if I'm not planning on having sex with my partner I'll just jerk off and the urgency is gone. But the experience has given me a bit of understanding of why men sometimes do terrible and destructive things because of sex. I can literally feel my brain shutting down, and all sense of consequences disappearing.
Same, when I read I 'hear' it as a voice in my head. And yeah, I can't imagine enjoying reading without hearing that intonation and emphasis.
I can 'skim read' if I need to find something in an article, but that's like doing a word search of something, glancing at paragraphs and looking for specific key words. It's not enjoyable and it doesn't make me think deeply about the text, even if I could probably summarise the content of article to someone afterwards.
Yeah I get that a lot. Often it's just a few bars, so it loops horrendously. It worse when I don't really know the song well, recently I woke up with Spandau Ballet 'Gold' playing in my head. All day, I just kept hearing "Gold! (gold!)" repeating, didn't know any other words, just a awful loop. That's why I constantly have other music playing to distract.
Not judging other people. Partly, I'm just quite easy going, partly I've had enough personal history of making mistakes to understand that people often have others reasons for their actions. But mostly I just don't see the point in wasting headspace caring about someone's appearance, opinion or behaviour.
But I feel like I'm constantly hearing people bitching, moaning and picking at other people. There are situations where you need to take a decision about something (particularly if you're in a position of responsibility or authority) but most of the time there seems very little point in being judgemental about someone.
Tbh, the main enjoyment I get from skyrim is installing it every few years and screwing around with mods to get the perfect setup. Then once I actually start playing I quickly bored and stop.
In general, it's easier to get dopamine from the anticipation of a game, actually enjoying the game requires some work and a habit. Sometimes it's just too much, especially if you're feeling a bit burnt out from exams.
Yeah, the fact that "angrily doing something to prove a point" is much more effective than "knowing it's important and promising to do it" leads to some unhealthy relationship dynamics...