Yet another refugee who washed up on the shore after the great Reddit disaster of 2023
But if you read the article, is not what we assumed. The boxes were being shipped from the German embassy in Japan to Argentina, and were marked as personal effects. The Argentinians did a spot check and found the propaganda, so they confiscated it because they were worried it could impact their neutrality. It went to the courts, up to their supreme court, though no one knows what action if any the court took. Obviously the Nazis didn't get the material back.
Argentina being a safe haven for Nazis didn't happen until after the war, if I understand things correctly.
My brother has a pretty amazing memory for events when we were growing up, but he also wrote in a calendar every night, synopsizing the day's events. And he enjoyed reading those calendars regularly. Now, at almost 70 years old, he can still remember details of vacations we took when we were young, and I'm certain it's because of that journalling he did.
Where I am in SoCal, it barely buys you one.
Almost certainly. Having $1M is unremarkable these days. Technically a millionaire is someone with more than a million and less than a billion, but usually these days it refers to people with hundreds of millions.
Everything also makes sense if viewed from the point of view of benefiting Russia.
That really sucks. I'm not sorry for Tesla, but I'm sorry for the workers caught up in the shit show.
Yeah, that's a good point.
No, there's more to it than that. Immediately taking the manager to task gives more credence to an employee lawsuit. Their "best" first approach is to talk to the employee, even scold them. What they want is for the issue to go away without the company getting bad press or a legal issue. It's not that they're bad at their job, it's that their job has zero to do with being an employee advocate.
They might also scold the manager, but that will happen off the record and behind closed doors.
I'm surprised so many people still don't realize that HR exists to protect the company, not the employee. Yes, since a bad or reckless manager can put the company at significant risk, sometimes they will take the side of the employee, but not because it's their charter.
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I've discussed work/careers with a lot of people around your age over the years. Here's what I end up saying - it's broader than your specific situation, but includes it:
- If there's something that you're so passionate about that you'll do it as an unpaid hobby, you might as well take a shot at making money from it. If it's something like art or music, where there's a huge amount of competition and only a tiny percentage are able to sustain themselves from it, you should have a Plan B, and set yourself some guidelines for long you'll try it, but you might as well give your a go if it's a passion.
- If there's nothing you're super passionate about, but a number of things you enjoy, you should take some time to look into what a career in each of those things is like. What are the hours, what is the typical pay, etc. Pick the one that fits with a lifestyle that clicks with you.
- If you don't have anything from either of the two above, do you have any skills or aptitudes that are sellable? For instance, if you're good at math, you might be a good fit for accounting. If you're good with your hands, you might consider a trade skill like plumbing or mechanic. You funny have to be passionate about those things to have a good job doing them.
- If you have zero from any of the above, look for a job that wouldn't suck after some years. A business that's willing to take untrained people, doesn't chew them up and spit them out, and that has room for advancement so that you have some possibility of increasing pay over your career.
There are lots of big chain retail stores that will take people right out of high school, but for many of them their model is to train you up quickly, load you up with responsibility, promote you if you work out well, and then within a couple years start cutting your hours to drive you away because they can get a new high school kid for cheaper.
There are lots and lots of jobs and businesses that just suck, and you want to position yourself to not be in them. Most people don't have something they've always wanted to do and are super passionate about. It's fine to have a job vs a career, but you don't want to find yourself at 40 slaving away at a shitty job for little pay, wishing you'd gotten a degree in one thing or another so you could be working fewer hours for more pay. And I'm not saying it's all about money, but lack of a living wage is a real problem for a lot of people.
When I was 30 I went on a date with a girl who was 20 (she asked me out). She was very cute, very bright, and pretty mature. I just couldn't even go on a second date, it was so strange. She was so young, and we didn't even have any pop culture references in common. It was just weird.
Thanks a lot. No worries about my dad -he was pushing 80 when he died, and he lived a life most people would be proud of. It was also 24 years ago. Sadly, my mom lived ten years longer, and I think the only reason she didn't die of a broken heart is because she got Alzheimer's and kind of forgot about my dad's dying.
I don't think there's one kind of healthy relationship. Every person has strengths and weaknesses. The key is finding a person whose strengths and weaknesses meshes with your own. I've seen people with significant issues have happy marriages with spouses who just love them and balance with them.
Ultimately, all we can do is try to work with our partners, understand that every relationship has rough times, and hope we can weather those times. Sadly, there's no guarantees, as I can attest to.
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Saying "I love you" with food is a wonderful thing. My mom did that and I for sure learned that from her. I think the transient aspect of it is great too.
It's funny, one of the people who really wanted me to find a way to make my sculptures permanent was my high school art teacher, who I stayed friends with for a long time after graduating. Who left that school the year I graduated and went on to be a pretty well known imagineer at Disney. Not looking after he started there, he hit me up and said I have to buy some sculpy, which they used at Disney a lot. Turns out it feels just like modeling clay but you can bake it in the oven and it ends up like a hard plastic. So ironically, I still have a few pieces I made from back in the day.
Sorry you're going through that. I'm going to make the assumption that, with it being a ten year relationship, you're not super young, but much younger than me (I'm 62). I hope you and your partner are both able to move on in a way you can be at peace with it, and once you've grieved the relationship are able to find someone who works better.
Goes both ways, I'm happy to chat if you'd like.
I'm an open guy and didn't mind sharing whatever, but I'm not sure which aspect you're interested in. I had great role models - my parents were happily married for 50 years until my dad died. My wife and I had problems off and on for years, and we've been more roommates than romantic partners for quite some time. We had an argument and she confessed that she hasn't been in love with me for some time. She's not with anyone else or anything like that, but she doesn't want to be with me.
When I was young I used to like sculpting in modeling clay. After I had made whatever it was and shown it to my friends, I'd smush it up and make something else. I had a constant stream of people trying to get me to change my medium so that stuff could be made permanent, but I didn't like the feel and I was fine with the pieces being temporary.
There are a lot of things like that. People make ice sculptures or do performance art. People enjoy an experience, sometimes as simple as a sunset. Yes, some of those people will try to capture the moment, say with a photograph, but lots of people are okay with the ephemeral.
Yeah, I think you're right here: it's all about intent. If someone starts a business, it does well, but then they end it because they want to do something else, is not a failure. If they wanted the business to keep going, but people weren't buying enough of their product to keep the doors open, that's a failure.
You could do the same with any of the examples. It's not a failure if the people are happy to stop or it lasted as long as could reasonably be expected, but if it ends before the people wanted it to, that's a failure. The rocket that lifts its payload to orbit, then shuts off and falls back to earth is a success. But no one says "Well, the rocket ran great halfway to the planned orbit, so even though it and the payload fell back to earth, it was successful."
My wife just moved out after 30 years of marriage, and it sure feels like a failure to me. Maybe some people get to the point where it's not working, and they aren't invested in the marriage so much that walking away is painful. I think most people would say they shouldn't have been married if they weren't that invested in making it work though.
A lot of people have suggested that we should have marriage contracts that have a renewable time limit. Like, "Hey, let's get married for ten years and see how that goes." I could see that being a good thing, but I also think it's fundamentally a different mindset than the traditional expectation of forever.
A lot of people read the comments without having read the article, so for them here's the bit you're taking about: