As always, Thomas and Alito have to demonstrate what pieces of crap they are.

Thanks, I appreciate that. I’m not really enjoying 2025 so far (I’ll just mention that I’m pretty far left leaning as well, so you can understand that country/world events are stressful).

We had planned on selling our house in CA and moving to WA. Now my wife has gone to NM to live with our son, and I’m getting ready to sell the CA house so we can each buy one. I’ve decided to stay in the same area of CA (where I grew up, where all my friends are), which means my house will be a small condo since prices here are super high. So that’s adding to the stress, but compared to the marriage ending thing it feels more minor.

I know things will settle out, but it’s been hard to take.

I’m 62. I retired in January. In February, my 30-year marriage ended. I’m living alone for the first time in decades, and I never really did it very long before (a few years in my late 20s. It’s very strange. at this age.

Maybe it depends on climate, but bread left out where I am gets moldy way before it gets stale. The best solution is to keep it in the freezer (in a bag, and any of those methods but CE would probably be fine). Weeks later, the bread is still soft and send fresh. Bread thaws unbelievably fast. If I’m making a sandwich, I take two slices out and put them on a plate separated. Usually by the time I’ve got the other ingredients ready to go, the bread is thawed. If you’re toasting the bread, it can go straight from freezer to toaster. If you’re making sandwiches to take to work or school, you can just make them on the frozen bread.

The fridge is the worst place. Try the freezer.

Oh, man, the risk of infection in a bone is SO high, and can easily be fatal. Very bad idea. He’d be better off yanking the tooth.

Yes, exactly.

A lot of people read the comments without having read the article, so for them here’s the bit you’re taking about:

At one point, attorneys had to admit to Reyes that they had never read articles which were included as evidence. Reyes then said they had “cherry picked” and “egregiously misquoted” studies put forward by the Pentagon on transgender people decreasing the lethality of the military.

But if you read the article, is not what we assumed. The boxes were being shipped from the German embassy in Japan to Argentina, and were marked as personal effects. The Argentinians did a spot check and found the propaganda, so they confiscated it because they were worried it could impact their neutrality. It went to the courts, up to their supreme court, though no one knows what action if any the court took. Obviously the Nazis didn’t get the material back.

Argentina being a safe haven for Nazis didn’t happen until after the war, if I understand things correctly.

My brother has a pretty amazing memory for events when we were growing up, but he also wrote in a calendar every night, synopsizing the day’s events. And he enjoyed reading those calendars regularly. Now, at almost 70 years old, he can still remember details of vacations we took when we were young, and I’m certain it’s because of that journalling he did.

Where I am in SoCal, it barely buys you one.

Almost certainly. Having $1M is unremarkable these days. Technically a millionaire is someone with more than a million and less than a billion, but usually these days it refers to people with hundreds of millions.

Everything also makes sense if viewed from the point of view of benefiting Russia.

That really sucks. I’m not sorry for Tesla, but I’m sorry for the workers caught up in the shit show.

Yeah, that’s a good point.

No, there’s more to it than that. Immediately taking the manager to task gives more credence to an employee lawsuit. Their “best” first approach is to talk to the employee, even scold them. What they want is for the issue to go away without the company getting bad press or a legal issue. It’s not that they’re bad at their job, it’s that their job has zero to do with being an employee advocate.

They might also scold the manager, but that will happen off the record and behind closed doors.

I’m surprised so many people still don’t realize that HR exists to protect the company, not the employee. Yes, since a bad or reckless manager can put the company at significant risk, sometimes they will take the side of the employee, but not because it’s their charter.

I’ve discussed work/careers with a lot of people around your age over the years. Here’s what I end up saying - it’s broader than your specific situation, but includes it:

• If there’s something that you’re so passionate about that you’ll do it as an unpaid hobby, you might as well take a shot at making money from it. If it’s something like art or music, where there’s a huge amount of competition and only a tiny percentage are able to sustain themselves from it, you should have a Plan B, and set yourself some guidelines for long you’ll try it, but you might as well give your a go if it’s a passion.

• If there’s nothing you’re super passionate about, but a number of things you enjoy, you should take some time to look into what a career in each of those things is like. What are the hours, what is the typical pay, etc. Pick the one that fits with a lifestyle that clicks with you.

• If you don’t have anything from either of the two above, do you have any skills or aptitudes that are sellable? For instance, if you’re good at math, you might be a good fit for accounting. If you’re good with your hands, you might consider a trade skill like plumbing or mechanic. You funny have to be passionate about those things to have a good job doing them.

• If you have zero from any of the above, look for a job that wouldn’t suck after some years. A business that’s willing to take untrained people, doesn’t chew them up and spit them out, and that has room for advancement so that you have some possibility of increasing pay over your career.

There are lots of big chain retail stores that will take people right out of high school, but for many of them their model is to train you up quickly, load you up with responsibility, promote you if you work out well, and then within a couple years start cutting your hours to drive you away because they can get a new high school kid for cheaper.

There are lots and lots of jobs and businesses that just suck, and you want to position yourself to not be in them. Most people don’t have something they’ve always wanted to do and are super passionate about. It’s fine to have a job vs a career, but you don’t want to find yourself at 40 slaving away at a shitty job for little pay, wishing you’d gotten a degree in one thing or another so you could be working fewer hours for more pay. And I’m not saying it’s all about money, but lack of a living wage is a real problem for a lot of people.

When I was 30 I went on a date with a girl who was 20 (she asked me out). She was very cute, very bright, and pretty mature. I just couldn’t even go on a second date, it was so strange. She was so young, and we didn’t even have any pop culture references in common. It was just weird.

Thanks a lot. No worries about my dad -he was pushing 80 when he died, and he lived a life most people would be proud of. It was also 24 years ago. Sadly, my mom lived ten years longer, and I think the only reason she didn’t die of a broken heart is because she got Alzheimer’s and kind of forgot about my dad’s dying.

I don’t think there’s one kind of healthy relationship. Every person has strengths and weaknesses. The key is finding a person whose strengths and weaknesses meshes with your own. I’ve seen people with significant issues have happy marriages with spouses who just love them and balance with them.

Ultimately, all we can do is try to work with our partners, understand that every relationship has rough times, and hope we can weather those times. Sadly, there’s no guarantees, as I can attest to.