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  • Second "No Kings Day" protests likely the largest single-day political demonstration since 1970, with 5.5-8.7 million participants

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  • I wasn't able to go, but my buddy did. He and I are both mid-60s, and he said the vast majority of people were our age or older. This is southern California.

  • Second "No Kings Day" protests likely the largest single-day political demonstration since 1970, with 5.5-8.7 million participants

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  • surpassing even the 2017 Women’s March demonstrations against Trump.

    I guess he really does bring people together...

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    British public wrong about nearly everything

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  • I thought we Americans wore that particular crown...

  • I don't know who I'm supposed to date

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  • I read the sidebar, and it appears comments from everyone are welcomed here as long as they're supportive, so I hope you don't mind a cis guy chiming in.

    What I've said to friends and family of various persuasions is that there's someone for everyone, but your preferences and attributes can greatly change the viable pool for you. If I understand your post correctly, what you'd prefer is a feminine or androgenous guy who wants to top. That's a somewhat small pool. But on top of that, you say you're too busy to care about anyone, so you're asking for someone who wants a relationship with you, but not to expect much from you in return. I'm sure there are people who would be fine with that combination, but it's a really small pool.

    Maybe you're in a phase where you should focus on yourself and whatever it is keeping you busy, and just go on occasional casual dates if/when someone catches your eye. When you're in a place to care for another person, maybe you'll have worked out what type rings all the bells.

  • How do you discover new communities?

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  • Unlike Reddit, Lemmy is small enough that you can browse by New/All and it's a reasonable amount of time to scroll back through a day's worth of posts. I do that now and then, and if I see a post in a community I like, I'll subscribe to it.

    I originally figured I'd do that for a while, then I'd just browse by Subscribed, but I find what I mostly do is browse by Top of however long it's been since I was last on. Like if it's been around 24 hours, I'll browse by Top Day.

  • Nobody's talking about kids wayward

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  • Not an actual CNN article, and the image is from a Jessica Simpson movie.

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    those of you with good skills to defuse a tense situation at the workplace, what advice can you give me?

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  • Your friend was feeling attacked, and you walking away made her feel abandoned and unsupported. She just wants to know that you have her back. Yes, standing beside her to help show a united front would do that some.

    Usually to defuse a situation like that, I would try to understand what Karen was actually upset about, and let her know she's being heard (which is, ultimately, what she probably wants), but also let her know she's taking it out on someone who doesn't deserve it. Saying "calm down" is just going to piss her off. Saying "Hey, I understand you're upset, and I would be too, but the staff here has no ability to schedule your father for surgery when there aren't any doctors, and you're yelling at the wrong person" might.

  • Elon Musk’s Starlink satellites are falling to Earth at an alarming rate

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  • I'm going to guess that "alarming rate" is something similar to the rate they were put up there.

  • People who don't like math, why?

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  • Absolutely

  • People who don't like math, why?

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  • This comes off like a person who has no empathy, or who assumes everyone else thinks like they do. When I was in college, I tutored math to middle school kids, and I can say with certainty that some people's brains take to it more naturally than others. You can be very smart and still struggle with math.

    And putting that aside, "enjoyment" is inherently subjective. It's like saying most people would enjoy liver and onions if they had it cooked right. No, some people will and some people won't. It's okay - people are a diverse lot and it's fine if some people don't like what you like.

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  • I have no idea how to have an acceptable dialog with this person anymore. Help!

    Thankfully, you don't need to! She was completely out of line and showed she had zero class. You said it was your dream wedding and your husband was happy; nothing else really matters, it was your day.

    I'd likely ignore her, but I'd be tempted to only respond by saying, "Since you're so critical of other people's photographs, we'll make sure not to subject you to photos of any children we have."

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • I should have included those things an individual does to help their direct offspring - those also help you pass along your genes. Whether it's nurturing your young, or dying and letting them feed off your corpse, anything you do to help them survive can be part of natural selection too. Don't those things increases the likelihood of that trait being found in the population. Ear hair isn't one of those things.

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • I'd bet you're right.

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • I'm not a geneticist or anthropologist, but apparently that's a debated, not proven mechanism. The theory being that natural selection works not just on individuals, but on societies. So if older members of a society are more inclined to help take care of the young, that society is more likely to survive, so that trait is more likely to get passed along and become more common in the population. That mechanism would only apply to social/pack animals (like humans), so wouldn't apply to, say, turtles.

    But it's hard to argue that ear hair in old men helps their society thrive. More likely, it's just one more trait that is a result of aging and not selected for, like grey hair or wrinkles.

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • Natural selection works when you have a trait that makes you more successful at living long enough to pass along your genes or at attracting a mate to pass them along with. Your offspring are more likely to inherit that trait and so they're more likely to pass along their genes as well, so the trait is more prevalent in the population. Conversely, if you have a trait that makes it harder for you to live, you're less likely to pass along your genes, and so that trait is more likely to be less present in the population. If you have a trait that doesn't impact your ability to live long enough to pass along your genes or attract a mate, it has no impact on natural selection.

    So if you have a trait that only appears after you're past the baby making stage, it's not playing into natural selection. By definition, that trait didn't help you survive or attract a mate or whatever before having kids and passing it along. It just happens, like lots of other traits.

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • I remember in college, there was a human sexuality class that used what was essentially porn, but with really old people, to reduce the number of people who took the class to watch porn.

  • What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair?

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  • Unlikely that anything happening when your old is selected for - you've already passed on your genes if you're going to and nothing is helping you do it more.

  • What items must you take with you every time you leave the house?

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  • No keys to anyone else's place. Car key is a little odd: the hotel has mandatory valet parking, so I don't have the key when I leave the room, or if I go for a walk. If I drive someplace, the valet hands me the key when they bring the car, so I do have one, but it's not something I make sure I have when I leave.

  • What items must you take with you every time you leave the house?

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  • It's funny, for years my list was keys, wallet, and phone, and of those it's the keys that go back the furthest. I had a key to my parents house when I was a young teen, and I've always carried keys with me since (I'm in my 60s now). I sold my house a couple months ago, and I've been living in a hotel until I close on a condo, and it feels so strange not to own any keys now, just the key card for the hotel.