Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.

My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.

Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady’s dad for permission?

  • TrippaSnippa@aussie.zoneEnglish
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    3 days ago

    You don’t know until you ask, and by asking you’re showing her the respect and that you value her opinion.

    Exactly, don’t ask anyone to marry you if you don’t already know that the answer will be yes. Reality isn’t like the movies; a spontaneous marriage proposal isn’t romantic, it’s putting the recipient on the spot and forcing them to answer a huge question that they may not be ready to answer yet, and if they say no it’s likely to doom the relationship even if they may have said yes if properly consulted beforehand.

    My wife and I had already discussed the possibility of marriage almost from the start of our relationship, to make sure that our expectations of where the relationship was going were aligned. Once we decided in earnest that we did want to spend our lives together, we discussed what she wanted the proposal to look like and what kind of a ring she wanted.