I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

  • velma@sh.itjust.works
    12·
    2 days ago

    Putting two and two together is a real struggle for you, isn’t it?

    I do hope you have a better day than you seem to be having. Ciao.

    • rabber@lemmy.caEnglish
      12·
      2 days ago

      Do you think it would last longer? I am making a joke about how wildly incompatible we are

      Chill

      You will have to elaborate because im a dumb man who doesn’t understand what you mean with the ex gf comment. You’re annoying but there is no way you as as evil as my ex lmao

      Unless you accuse random people of rape. Please don’t do this

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
        31·
        2 days ago

        I promise you I don’t accuse people of rape and would never. I really was going to leave the convo there, but saw your edit and do want to reassure you.

        That’s fucked up and I’m sorry you went through that.

        • rabber@lemmy.caEnglish
          2·
          2 days ago

          I think you read my thread about losing all my friends. Yeah i was falsely accused of rape and almost lost everything. Time has passed and I am still wished dead by many. I haven’t found any way to defend myself or redeem myself. Nobody will ever believe me. Thanks for your words. Shit sucks.

          I agree with your view on women being oppressed, but holy hell, being the man in this particular situation is plain unfair. It’s a miracle I didn’t kill myself

          To be clear I didn’t “go through it” - this is going to follow me for the rest of my entire life I think.

          And I know for a fact you aren’t this evil because a narcissist would never carry themselves the way you do. They pretend they are harmless until behind closed doors.

          • velma@sh.itjust.works
            31·
            2 days ago

            I’m really glad you’re still here. Yeah that really sucks and no one deserves to go through that. It’s not a suffering competition, no one wins for additional suffering and I truly view that for everyone. Even the guys I might hold in some contempt lol

            Not that you want any advice from a 40 year old queer mom, but have you looked into moving to a different city? Sometimes a fresh start is worth it. You’re worth it.

            • rabber@lemmy.caEnglish
              1·
              2 days ago

              I wanted to move but I just took out a new mortgage. And also, if I move, I fear it only further “proves” to those people I’m guilty. And I am not. I can not even kill bugs lol

              • velma@sh.itjust.works
                21·
                2 days ago

                Well even if you can’t move, I hope you realize that you don’t have to prove anything to them because they don’t matter anymore in your life. Don’t let them live rent free in your head and yes I know that’s a lot easier said than done lol

                You’re alright, just let me be my grumpy womanly self at rude men and I’ll let you shitpost or whatever wherever you want as long as it’s not in the womensstuff community, deal?