I never experimented with my sexuality as a teenager - dysphoria, depression, autism, etc. You get the gist. Good news: I’m finally starting to get my ducks in a row at the decrepit old age of 23 /j. Bad news: Oh god now I have to address this shit.

Gonna be honest, I have no ideas where to start. So… how did y’all figure out if you liked men/women/both/neither/whatever? Was it an instinctual thing that you just Noticed one day? Did you have to go on dates and try things out?

I’m a little nervous about coming across as an asshole if I hook up with someone and then realize “Oh! I hate this!” halfway through, y’know?

  • heliotrope@retrofed.comEnglish
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    4 days ago

    20NB here. Possibly in a similar boat to you at my age. I consider myself abrosexual, but I have not been able to experiment as of yet.

    As for how I figured things out, it’s quite simple. I am panromantic and demiromantic, and I have only loved three people in my life. All three are fellow enbies, but between them they cover the three main areas of the gender spectrum.

    I also see a fair amount of (generally non-spicy) fanart on Tumblr and Pinterest, which has strengthened my convictions.

    Because of my demiromanticism, as well as depression (self-Dx; 99.999% certainty) and autism (awaiting formal Dx; the NHS is shit), I have not started dating yet and I have not been in any relationships; so this is entirely instinctual and has not been tested.