Hello everybody, im a 26yo virgin man. I am autistic and struggle with social skills.
Well i have a fetish that is quite rare. I tried searching it online, but theres not much about it. I tried SPH that is less underground. I will be honest, my package is not big either, its 4 inches erect which is below average for sure. But I felt more pleasure when the ladies would joke about my virginity than my penis size.
Its weird because dont get me wrong, i enjoy the fetish, and i am loving exploring my sexuality. Its a fetish that i knew i had since hs, but im just taking courage to explore it nowadays. I have been talking with a lot of ladies online and they love engaging in my fetish. But i feel like this is a fetish that can have bad outcomes for my mental health, as im not sure if this is good for my self esteem.
I somewhat dont even wanna have sex anymore as i feel it would ruin this fetish, but i still want to get in a relationship, so i guess id like a girlfriend who would joke and humiliate me for my past.
Im thinking of going to a sexual therapist to get a professional help about this stuff. I mean, not a sex worker, but a psychologist, therapist that is specialized on sexual desires and advices for a good mental health.
you should try starting to date and see how it goes for a bit. check out Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, Dating Essentials for Men, or Love Life by Matthew Hussey. while I haven’t read these books (I’ve read ones for women), I’ve generally found dating books to be helpful in identifying what I want and building confidence to get started.
Therapy is good. But if you look at the kink community and the kinds of functional relationships people can have with a partner who works with their kink, you’ll find yours is not the pinnacle of deviance.
Good on you for wanting to unpack it though. You can have both your kink and also mental safety but it helps to disentangle that shit first. Address your trauma, you know?
I’ve definitely seen a solid handful of videos tailored to this fetish. Like others, I’d suggest that you still try to date and be willing to have sex if the opportunity presents itself. You can go back to the virgin mindset for the fetish later when you are jorkin it on your own even if you’ve had sex.