As I often start my posts here, I’ll say that I’m middle aged. I’ve been burnt by people with materially comfort and normie opinions far too many times. I didn’t have a very warm relationship with my family, so much of my life was spent trying to find love through friendships. I’d do so much for my friend, only to see them ditch, betray, or sellout me. It happened time after time after time, well into the double digits. I’m not even exaggerating, I feel very resistant to forming close relationships with liberals.
Now I’m polite with liberals. And when bullshit starts, which it inevitable does, I’m not heartbroken the way I was in my 30s.
if they will ignore the suffering of Palestine they will definitely ignore mine
Facts. Palestine will definitely not be the last
Liberals are the first to abandon you when you get chronically ill ime so yea
A lot of my friends from when I was at uni stopped talking to me after I started posting about Palestine, and those who didn’t care about that stopped talking to me when I didn’t have a job immediately. I deleted most of their numbers by now, so yeah, when I meet new people I’m polite, but I’d rather have a few comrades than a lot of fair weather friends.
I assume that westerners are genocidal and avoid interacting with them except to sometimes shout “free palestine” at tourists when I’m on a jog.
I try so hard to feign liberalism when with friends, but I end up losing it eventually and letting my resentment and frustrations come out. I’m not intentionally mean, I just become a little standoffish.
Same. I have no more patience for it and if the discussions go into things that actually matter like Palestine I’ll state my opinion, but won’t spend any energy on debating them anymore.
I just do my work, spend time with my commie partner and kid. I am ok with not having libs as friends, I cannot look past the way they ignore everything. I am polite with them at work, but tend to keep to myself as much as possible.
When younger I tried so hard to fit in and got burnt so many times
Yeah, it’s harder to mask around them these days though.
same here and i used to think it was just me being the black sheep of the family until i spent xmas with my cousins instead of my immediate family.
the main topic of conversation with my cousins’ families was trump all xmas long while it was a taboo subject with my immediate family. the only thing that separates my immediate family from my cousins that is that most of us of are so white passing that we’ve married and started families w white people only; while my cousins are nowhere close to white passing and only married & started families w other brown people.
in retrospect, it should have been a portent that my siblings wouldn’t join in on the trump bashing during the family reunions going back to 2016 and now i know why they stopped bothering to show up like i’ve stopped bother to show up to their gatherings.
the worst part of it for me is that i suspect that, if i too were white passing, i would be more aligned with them, since my father is not white passing, but is clearly aligned with them.
I like having friends, and in my part of the world, that means playing nice with the libs. I’m still in my heartbroken 30s and don’t know how to deal with it when I get them to understand something and it seems like we’re really making a breakthrough, and then a week later they’ll be back to switching their brain off and using thought terminating cliches.
