Reminds me of a (probably creative writing) BORU someone sent me about a husband wanting to go on a “gaycation”. The reason it’s not cheating and he’s not bi:

You go there and you “observe” the fishes, you even get a bit up close but you never actually enter the water (get emotionally invested) or "become a fish "(gay) so it doesn’t really count

[…] insinuating I’m actually homophobic because I refuse to allow him to participate in this “cultural exchange with the gay community”.

She just needs to participate in a “cultural exchange with the horse community” and it’ll be out of her system