Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?"
Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?"
I dig through my memories and I remember this was a thing since I was a kid. Like I remember my mom just constantly saying "We love you a lot, do you know that?" and then straight up asking me: "Do you love your mom and dad?" (speaking in 3rd person for some reason) then followed by "Do you love mom or dad more?"... and I remember always just answering that: Yes I love them, and mom more than dad... (I remember that is probably just honestly how I felt, I never lied about it)
I don't remember dad ever asking this...
Sometimes (when I was younger) mom asked me: "If mom and dad got a divorce, who are you going with?"...
wtf mom
And like sometimes they argue then threaten divorce...
So... mom has higher income so I feel like at the time I just told her I'd go with her solely because of the financial stability... (I mean dad also doesn't really show affection... 🤷♂️)
(This was many years ago, during my teenage years. The divorce thing never happened, empty threats...)
...
Now as a young adult, I'm dealing with depression and she still says this... and like I feel very awkward when she asks me "Do you love me?"
I do feel an attachment towards her, but idk if you can call it "love" per se.
So sometimes I stay quiet... so it just ended with an awkward silence...
Then mom was like: "Do you you not love me? Do you hate me?"
No wtf mom, that's not what I meant...
Do parents just do that? Are they seeking validation about their decision to choose to have children?
Cultural Context: My family is ethnically Chinese.