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souperk

@ souperk @reddthat.com

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  • Body Doubling

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  • That's not the case for me, I can start doing stuff while talking with someone that is sitting, watching TV, or whatever.

    I think having someone near your serves two purposes:

    1. It helps your brain produce happiness juice (dopamine), that makes doing stuff easier.
    2. They act as an anchor, helping you stay at one place and focus on what you should be doing, like a physical reminder.

    If other people negatively impact your ability to get things done, I would suggest looking into it. Maybe you are subconsciously copying them, or you feel same shame doing stuff while others are not. I am not trying to invalidate your experience, just suggesting that it's possible you can gain a better understanding of it if you dive deeper.

  • Symptom Tracker App?

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  • Hi, I am a building a platform with the goal of supporting apps like this, and I would be interested to develop a plugin for your use-case as an experiment (no fee).

    I am working alone on this and this is not my first priority, so I cannot make any guarantees about the timeline, or the scope of the plugin. But, if you are interested we can have a chat on matrix.

    The project is not open source yet, but I am planning on doing so once (a) I figure out how to properly apply licensing, and (b) remove any potentially critical information (credentials) from the repository.

  • First date of my life I am shook I cannot believe this is real

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  • Been writing an article about dating while being AuDHD. While I am not going to pretend I am some guru that is going to turn your dating experience upside down, I have a few things that have worked for me:

    1. Be open about your neurodivergency. If a person is worth it, they will be interested to know more about it, try to understand and accommodate your needs, and be charmed by your quirks.
    2. Respect your RSD. If you feel like you are receiving negative feedback don't shutdown, instead ask for clarification. If you want to do something but are afraid how it will be perceived, ask them. Unsurprisingly, people tend to appreciate the check-ins, it is perceived as you being caring.
    3. Try pebbling. It is the act of sharing things that you think the other person would appreciate. Feel free to info dump, feel free to share relevant experiences.
    4. Be meta as fuck. Explain your thought process, why you are doing something, and that train of thought that led to you saying seemingly completely irrelevant. Allistic people don't understand neurodivergence, but the right people will make the effort.
    5. Be honest. Maybe you don't feel safe to expose your date to your fully unmasked self, and that's okay. BUT, honesty can go a long way. See something you like? Turn that into a compliment! Feeling insecure? Explain that and ask for validation! Something bothers you? Ask for the appropriate accommodations!
    6. Don't try to impress the other person. Instead give your date the chance to like the real you. It's much more sustainable in the long term, you will feel more free and safe in your relationship, and it's fucking good to be appreciated.
    7. Routinize flirting. The consistency feels great for the other person, everyone needs a confidence boost and a few words of affirmation.

  • RustDesk: I Found This Open-Source TeamViewer Alternative Impressive!

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  • I have setup a rustdesk server with docker, it was surprisingly easy to get started. It was for a friend who is managing the IT services of a small factory, the completely switched from TeamViewer and they are satisfied. More importantly their users, who are worse than your average windows user, found the transition relatively painless.

  • Has anyone tried Proton VPN?

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  • I have been using for the past month. I am not a power user, I mostly use it when I need to access libgen. Previously, I was using nordvpn. I feel proton is faster both when connecting to a server but also the connection is faster/more reliable. For example, if I forget to turn it off, I can watch a yt video without any issues.

  • Socialists who have lived in different countries: what differences did you notice in their labour movement?

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  • I can provide some context from Greece.

    First of all, the unemployment rate is high. The official figure is currently at 12.5% but has been steadily decreasing from its peak of 27.7% in 2013. The real numbers are probably higher since people that haven't been employed within the last few years are not accounted.

    As a result, labour rights are non-existent, overtime is rarely paid, wages have been stagnant since 2008, it is really common to work in unsafe conditions, and worker abuse occurs so often noone bats an eye.

    While we do have unions more often than not they are powerless. For example, last year we had a major train accident (57 people died), the goverment blamed the train workers, their response was pretty much "our strikes for the safety issues that lead to the accident were deemed illegal, while our attempts to raise the issues were dismissed by the ministry of transportation".

    We have had major nationwide protests with more than a million of people taking to the streets, but noone feels like that ever lead to anywhere.

    IMO one of the greatest problems is the lack of information. Mainstream media are corrupt, and independent media are sabotaged or persecuted by the government. People do not know their rights, we have been trying to survive for so long that we cannot imagine a better future, and that allows employers to freely profit from laborers.

    One interesting development is that lately more collectives are popping here and there, from coffee shops to softwafe development houses, more and more people are fed up and try to take matters on their own hands (even if in absolute numbers they are still very few).

  • Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything"

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  • I am stealing that phrase, thanks 🙏

  • Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything"

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  • I find it helps navigate certain quirks and get the help I need to thrive. For example, after disclosing I have ADHD, people are much more open to move when I am affected by background noise.

  • Advice and personal eyperiences with sleep hygiene?

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  • Weed can be addictive for people with ADHD, it's one of most common of forms of self medicarion but in the long run it probably going to make things worse.

    Source: I was addicted for 3 years, at first it did wonders for my sleep issues and increased my productivity. At some point, I had to smoke daily or I would get headaches and huge cravings, my tolerance would constantly increase, and then it didn't help with my sleep issues anymore.

    Now, I am only using it recreationally once every few months. It's fun but I have to be careful otherwise I know things can turn sour really fast.

  • Whats your take? Creepy or not?

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  • I think you are spending too much effort to engage with a person that is not engaging back with you. Regardless if your behavior was creepy or not, you are worth more than that. That person wasn't matching your effort in maintaining a relationship (friendship in this scenario). Remember it takes two to tango, no matter how much you want it, you won't be able to carry a relationship on your own...

  • Quick-Start Guide to Fediverse Governance Decisions

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  • For context, I am the top donor at my instance, I recognize that there is a need for funds. BUT, I believe it's important for the fediverse to be accessible to everyone regardless if they have the funds for that.

  • Quick-Start Guide to Fediverse Governance Decisions

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  • Dopamine received, initiating hyperfocus protocol!

    As a rule of thumb, we’ve observed that a team of 5 trained moderators appears to provide ample coverage and redundancy for servers of about 1,000 active users

    That's a fascinating bit of information. I would expect 5 moderators to provide coverage for more users. I am wondering how they came up with that statistic (will update the comment if I find an answer).

    Remember that offliine/IRL community management experience can be just as important as online experience

    Interesting idea, wondering what's the IRL presence of the fediverse...

    If you’re building toward participatory or democratic governance, consider establishing a proposal and voting system (some teams we spoke with use Loomio, but multiple options exist) for major policy decisions.

    That's soooo important, I love when communities create polls to decide on policy changes.

    Avoid promoting brand-new members unless you already have a pre-existing relationship with them

    I have followed some discussion on multi-level hierarchies on the fediverse, wondering if there are any instance implementing that...

    Consider charging for accounts or offering paid memberships.

    Hell no!

    We hope there will be more resources available in the future, particularly tooling around legal compliance. This is one of the big infrastructural gaps we point out in our main report

    That's a big issue, I would be interested in hosting an instance available to other people, but I don't want to end up in jail and I lack the resources to make sure that won't happen...

    That was an interesting read, it seems there is an in-depth analysis of the report here.

  • Quick-Start Guide to Fediverse Governance Decisions

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  • Can someone ELI5 so I can get enough dopamine to go read the whole thing?

  • Lemmy votes ARE public, should they be anonymous?

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  • Generative AI hype is ending – and now the technology might actually become useful

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  • While the consumption for AI train can be large, there are arguments to be made for its net effect in the long run.

    The article's last section gives a few examples that are interesting to me from an environmental perspective. Using smaller problem-specific models can have a large effect in reducing AI emissions, since their relation to model size is not linear. AI assistance can indeed increase worker productivity, which does not necessarily decrease emissions but we have to keep in mind that our bodies are pretty inefficient meat bags. Last but not least, AI literacy can lead to better legislation and regulation.

  • Lemmy votes ARE public, should they be anonymous?

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  • If you are worried about duplicates, aka a single bot spamming multiple votes, then that's feasible to mitigate.

    If you are worried about multiple bots spamming one vote each, that's harder to mitigate and it comes down to how the instances handles bot accounts in general. IMO it's best to ignore the bot problem and instead focus on designing a vote weighting system that favors similar instances.

  • Lemmy votes ARE public, should they be anonymous?

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  • For anyone interested, there are a few papers on cryptographically secure voting, where both voter anonymity and election integrity are preserved.

    Most designs consider three separate entities, where if you accumulate the information between those entities you would be able to identify a voter and his vote, but each entity on itself does not hold enough information.

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    Introversion, texting habits, and self-confidence: Understanding the connections

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  • Pretty interesting study!! They found that introverts that used texting to express themselves demonstrated higher levels of self-confidence than those that used texting to escape. However, for extroverts it was the opposite, those that used texting to escape demonstrated higher levels of self-confidence.

    As an AuDHD person, aka someone that has made a skipping rope out of the extrovert/introvert line, I have observed that on good days my extroverted side is on outreach mode while my introverted side is on deep connection mode.

  • How to get discovered on Mastodon?

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  • Follow people from other instances, if you find them interesting, chances are they will find you interesting and follow back.

    Use tags, especially popular ones.