I keep going back and forth with myself between “everyone who makes hardware is a fuck anyway, might as well get the more repairable option” and “wow their response to this is actually terrible”
Like Tim Apple is also buddy buddy with trump and I can’t fix a MacBook. And then the framework rep says “yes this person really overhauled their community and it’s not toxic now”… and the great community de-toxifier is out there dropping T slurs left and right.
In case it wasn’t clear I’m not recommending doing nothing, but for me it was helpful to know that that’s still a valid option because it let me give myself permission to move at a pace and towards an end goal that I’m comfortable with.
In case it wasn’t clear I’m not recommending doing nothing, but for me it was helpful to know that that’s still a valid option because it let me give myself permission to move at a pace and towards an end goal that I’m comfortable with.
You don’t have to tell anyone. You can do absolutely nothing if that’s what works for you; that doesn’t make you any less trans. (Doing nothing was my original plan btw, and it was good enough for me until it wasn’t)
For me, what has been working is to figure out a small step that you’re comfortable with and start there. Maybe it’s wearing something cute around the house. Then maybe that’s good for a while but you don’t want to have to change before you go to the store or get the mail or whatever. The little step is enough until it isn’t, but also, the more times you take that same step the more comfortable you feel with the idea of another one.
When I started coming out I had to talk about everything kinda obliquely, but now I can say out loud that I’m trans. I told one person, and now telling the next doesn’t feel as scary. Just start with something you feel like you can handle and progress from there at your own pace. I’m still not all the way out yet, but I’m slowly getting more comfortable and taking new steps. It’s scary but so far it’s been worth it.
So my advice is to not worry about telling anyone until that feels like something you need to do. It’s okay to take it slow.
