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Yes, that's exactly what I meant. When you arrive to someone's birthday it's common to go around, shake everyone's hand and congratulate them (with Rita's birthday). Or just do a wave when you enter and collectively congratulate everybody.
Congratulate everyone with someone else's birthday. Netherlands.
Im using timelimit (android), which is FOSS, to impose time limits on myself, that works well, and it's actually geared towards use for parents who want to control screen time. And I'm sure there's ad blockers that have lists to achieve blocking of adult content, but don't use those myself (I do use WG tunnel with pihole, which can do the same).
So, I think parental control should be quite easy to achieve?
It's such a shame to see the difficulty Mozilla has to find a viable business model. I understand the reactions here and agree it's appalling, but at the same time, what can they do? AFAIK they rely on Google to pay for the search engine integration. That already sucks, and is a serious existential risk. So they need to diversify, which I think is what they're attempting to do here: let companies pay for being the default "lens", LLM, weather service, etc. From a business perspective this makes a lot of sense, to reduce the risk of depending on one customer.
It doesn't help that the c-level are just as greedy as you'd expect for any random company, raking in the millions, and arguably are doing a really bad job by being reactionary only, and then choosing the course of action that alienates the traditional user base. I don't really see any good way out of this other than radically changing their business model, e.g., going full non-profit, and move to a subscription model for revenue. But that's extremely risky as well. I would definitely pay a subscription for a Firefox where the primary focus is stability, safety and speed, as opposed to new features. But, there's also a limit to what I'd be willing to pay, $1 a month seems like a no brainer, but $5 would feel steep.
Long story short, they're in a tough spot, I feel for them.
For the first time ever I did some vibe coding this week. I needed what amounts to putting a file in a folder and watch until a file in another folder appears, with a monitoring utility.
I was very impressed with the definition phase. It was a back and forth about the spec until it was what I wanted. I then let it built.
This was quite interesting. It set up a scaffold, wrote tests and ran the tests, fixing errors as it went, then went on to finalize the app. Magic.
Finally it was done, so I go in to play with it. Riddled with bugs. Try to get it to fix them. More bugs. End to end spend a morning doing all this until I gave up and manually wrote what I need in about an hour.
Conclusion: Vibe coding is a complete waste of time. Worse: in the wrong hands it is dangerous. You need to be a pretty damn good programmer to assess the output, and if you are, why the fuck would you use it in this manner?
It reminds me a bit about the no-code/low-code evangelism of some years ago. To the novice it looks magical and a world of possibilities, and the road to riches. But in reality you can only use those things if you have decent programming skills, otherwise it's a path nowhere.
Need a quick demo? Sure, this might help the novice. Want something for production? Get a professional.
Thank you for your response. As you can probably tell, I wasn't aware of the details of the procedure, and how much the timelines matter. I never felt the need to find out before because in general I trust healthcare professionals (and do support this type of care), but understanding more about it is certainly helpful and educational. Of course I can Google things, but then we miss the opportunity to learn from one another, right?
About your advice of talking to our doctor about when my son says he's a girl. This is really interesting to me. I had not considered it before at all, didn't even cross my mind, and I can immediately say I won't take him now. There's multiple reasons for that that are of a personal nature that I won't share here, but I can tell why I'm immediately dismissive of the idea. These are personal beliefs.
He's still very young and he's just figuring out that there's the concept of gender, and that we in general use these labels for one type and other. It's not something that is currently of any concern to me, not at home, nor the community we live in. All we care about is that he's happy, healthy, and that he becomes a good person at this stage. I believe that giving this any weight now, will make it into a thing. I don't want to influence this, he's just a tiny kid. Of course that would all change if it persists. If the school starts giving signals that something is afoot for example. But I imagine that that will still take quite some time. Again a personal belief here (and perhaps more controversial here): to me it feels like doing this now, in the situation we're in, feels like a gross overreaction (albeit orders of magnitude less extreme than immediately think about something like conversion therapy!). I think it's just completely normal behaviour, why consult a doctor? He's in a safe environment and can figure thing out for himself for now.
If my kid finds himself in this position, I will do everything in my power to make this as smooth as possible. He will not be traumatised by this if he wants this.
I do thank you for the suggestion, I hadn't thought about it myself and understand it comes from a good place.
I understand what you're saying, and agree that discouraging young people to exercise is preposterous. But sports and competition do matter to a lot of people (especially in the US I think, which comes across way more competitive than Europe), and it's not meaningless to them (neither to trans athletes I might add).
So I would say that your comment will be considered quite disrespectful. Would you say that this large group of people are more, or less inclined to agree with you if they're being called a bigot?
Hey, thanks for your comment and link. I respect that it must be incredibly hard having to suffer so much because of personal experience, and to then be expected to debate about it. I totally get that.
As the article says, there is a lot of misinformation around this, a lot of ignorance, and I do believe that an open debate about this (or anything in general really) is truly important. Way i see it, you've got bad actors on one side (opposing trans in this case) who will use anything to further their agenda. And they have an advantage: they can oversimplify a complex process. It's really easy to shout "They want all your children to be trans!", and quite a bit harder to explain the reality. That's what the trans community is up against. It will take a lot of patience and time, decades, to educate the masses unfortunately, and any excesses, like online vitriol, trolling, will be used against you. I'm sorry to say this, but you're an easy target.
Again, not expecting anyone to debate who doesn't want to. But I hope that the people who do enter the public debate can be as composed as the author of the article you shared. I believe that's the only road to acceptance.
I wish you all the best, and hope you can find peace. From the little information I have I can tell, you are beautiful.
The whole idea that transition care is "getting rid" of gay people is ridiculous
I think the 'dark joke' is one of those jokes that actually reveals how some people feel about this; what I got the opinion piece is that some folks in the gay community worry that wanting to transition can also mean being attracted to the same sex and being confused about it at a young age.
You are concerned about a child making a decision that they may regret... so you think the decision should be made for them?
Not exactly, a child is a person and should have agency. But at the same time, they're a child and are less experienced in life. I don't let my kid eat ice cream whenever they feel like it, and I wouldn't let him make such a major decision before he knows very sure who he is. Because transitioning is a decision, but who you are is not. And I believe that when you're so young, it's really hard to know who you are.
Hey, thanks for this thoughtful response. This is basically what I'm seeing happening; I don't think it's a black and white, clear cut situation. On the one hand there's trans people, who feel discriminated against on this matter, on the other hand there's women who have similar sentiments on the same. And here I am agreeing with them both. An impossible position. Agreeing with one side is denying the other. I don't see a solution to this and that really sucks.
I didn't actually comment to ask questions to be honest, but to comment on the polarisation that is happening, and that folks who are sympathetic perhaps become less sympathetic when immediately being put away as Satan. That's burning bridges which you can't afford as a minority.
But, I'm happy I did comment because there's also some really good insights here and thoughtful responses. I don't know any trans people IRL, so it's valuable to me.
Thank you
Thank you for your openness and sharing your personal story. I can't even imagine what that must have been like, and I'm sorry that you had to experience that.
Also thank you for taking the time to explain. I 100% agree with what you say. You describe a very careful procedure, it being such a delicate matter. This is what I would want for my son if he was in this position. He's 4 and has said he's a girl many times lately. That's incredibly young and probably a phase. I recall myself wanting to be a girl for a bit, at the same age, and my mom gave me a dress to wear (great mum, and a wonderful memory, I was lucky). It didn't stick for me. But if it does for him, my primary concern is their wellbeing, and that they grow up in an accepting environment (and society). I wish you could've had that.
If I may ask you a question, I honestly don't know this. Puberty is a natural process that everyone goes through under normal circumstances. But children who transition and take puberty blockers don't, I assume (or do they but after transitioning?). If they don't, that's an experience they will never have, is there any issue with that?
Thanks again for your thoughtful response. It's really helpful to understand.
PS I wanted to clarify that my worry on this issue is primarily with doing away with a careful process, as I've heard sometimes being voiced. I'm not saying it should be made more difficult, but it is a delicate process, with young children, and I feel what you described is a proper way of handling it. I think many folks (the majority really) who consider themselves a bit more neutral on the matter think this way, and being called transphobe for even the slightest deviation from the opinion of some folks does the trans community more harm than good.
With irreversible changes do you mean puberty?
How is anyone supposed to show empathy, let alone learn anything when even the slightest hint of wanting to have a conversation is met with this kind of reaction? I'm the villain? OK, but then you're an extremist.
I made it clear in my comment what I support, and it was certainly not denying anyone's right to exist. None of what I said supports the claim you made. What I pointed out is a major problem is exactly what you illustrate with your comment. It's impossible to discuss anything when 2 sides are so entrenched and unwilling to debate. I get the urgency and gravity of what is happening right now, but for people like me, who consider themselves very sympathetic to the trans community, you're making it very hard to help. It's either support everything we say, or shut the f up. That's never going to work.
And on the data you're referring to around gender-affirming care, show me. Latest I heard, this is a very young field of study, and data, if any, is inconclusive. And yet here I am, supporting gender-affirming care, having to defend the position that please can we tread with care. Insanity!
As you (seem to) point out, trans people in sports is a different conversation. The science is clearer, but now we have a group of formerly (and frankly, still) marginalised people (women at birth, biologically) who fear unfair advantage. Much more political, philosophical even, a much harder debate. I empathise with both sides, how villainous of me.
So, showing empathy to you is hard. You reap what you sow.
You should probably not use words that you don't know the meaning of.
I was only reacting to the title of the post, and I stupidly said 'this meme', that was a mistake. The content of the meme on it's own I fully support. Apologies, thanks for pointing that out!
It's not 2014 and yet this is a post about not supporting the trans agenda makes one a "fucking psychopath".
I think
this 'meme'the title of this post is a great example of what the problem really is. I do not have any issues with trans people. What I have a major problem with is that voicing an opinion, or have any form of meaningful debate, is met with immense aggression, trolling, cancelling, intimidation.I am for example not completely convinced about trans women in female sports and am sympathetic to arguments from both sides. Even voicing that will cause me to be vilified by one side.
Another example is transition care for children. I believe that at a young age making an irreversible choice is dangerous and we should be careful. Not saying care should abolished, just saying that such a big life decision needs extreme care because it can cause irreparable harm later in life. Again a reasonable, well willing position that will cause this to be downvoted into oblivion.
So, trans people, I support you to exist, be happy, live a meaningful life. But unfortunately there's a group of loud people who are honestly behaving like psychopaths who are making it hard to stay sympathetic. Wake up.
(Edit) Wanted to share this NY times post that puts thing much more eloquent than I ever could: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/26/opinion/gay-lesbian-trans-rights.html
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