Cause they don't. You can go to the most liberal spaces in America and sure you'll have some folks be chill. Some folks be crazy pandering. But nothing is worse than seeing "normal ass" every day joe-schmoey ass people flashing an involuntary look of disgust when realizing they're looking at a trans person. That's not something they're out here doing to intentionally hurt people, it's just their biases shining through. It's kinda like people clutching their purses near black folks or something, idk. I don't care how kind people want to be, because honestly transgender people got it rough. I've had this talk in the past, and yeah you can be straight being trans - and be in a straight relationship - but most times unless you're out here stealthing like a bomber you're going to illicit some response from people. I said you could be any color in this WORLD, and if you're straight at least you still have that connection with a majority of people. They get you, they understand you "get" the "grand road-map of life" and that you have some sort of orderly connection to them. I think a lot of trans folks throw people off of that. I don't even think it's coming from a malicious place all the times. I mean for sure some of the time (Kiwi Farms). But all of the time? No. Even kids, when you confront them with something against their expected gender norms can become uncomfortable. Not all of them. But it happens.

I do think that transgender people often have a hard time accepting themselves, so like yeah of course you're gunna feel unaccepted as a whole. You can look back at how things were with gay folks and see a lot of similar issues (which to be honest still ripple through today because being a part of the majority is the easiest thing in this world I swear). Also I have heard a link between neurodivergence and gender queerity. I don't really think I need to emphasize this, but being an individual who thinks in atypical ways in a relatively black and white world is equally tough. It's easier to find support online when you're talking intersectional adversity. A lot of the internet tells you you've got cancer, the world is on fire, and you're going to die. It does not make for happy folks. Which I think can add another layer to this. Also gender dysphoria sucks. Inability to get the care you need sucks. Wondering if you're doing the right thing, or if you're just "making it all up in your head" sucks. I have seen people who've questioned their gender identity be re-routed by cis folks to ignore any sort of gender exploration. All I can think about there is I Saw the TV Glow. Either way, I can honestly say that outside of a singular trans person I have met (and really they had $$$, which I think helps a lot...but can't buy you a personality) that pretty much every other trans person I have met has lived a fairly difficult life isolated from their family. I saw it with the older gals from yesteryear growing up. I have seen it with my generation. I am thankful to not see it as much with the youth of today. But I still don't think it's all roses. So yeah, I get why people would feel this way. Because if you're trans - have brains and at least one other sense you can utilize to navigate this world you can see how vile people are to individuals who break societal gender norms.

They straight up killed people who did it where I grew up, and that's why I'm not there anymore =P!