I'm a similar but different sort, upper middle class where my parents whole ass left the country. At 4, I was taken to them and started (1st grade?) in the U S. I still have memories of the chinese daycare.
Somehow still better than the uncle, he worked 996 for another (two?) decades. The other aunt dragged the cousin with her to a US high school.
It's less american way and more current chinese government doesn't value human (or otherwise) life interacting badly with capitalism. Same thing in South Korea, too much labor means they can be unreasonably picky for no reason, which leads to the binary outcome of perfection or failure.
If you find chinese people old enough (90+), you can see what precommunist values look like. Those are almost gone now.
Which leads to the dark joke,
What's the only thing (new) chinese people hate more than each other?
Everyone else.